If men were left to organise Christmas themselves

Sounds like much of MN could use to do Christmas the simple man way from ghis thread.

Ours would be more or less same. Less decorations most likely and more food. I taught him Christmas. He knows good standard only, no one ruined him before😂

My OH arranges most of it anyway so if I were to do it I suspect I would miss things out.🎄

Brilliant! And maybe a cow pat.

DH does most in my house too. I do like buying presents for the DC but one year I even left that too late so he went to Smyth's on about the 22nd and bought it all at once! He said he really enjoyed it.

I have been in the horrible sick tired phase of pregnancy at Christmas twice which probably helps as that was the push that got him to do dinner the first time. But he did a fair amount of his own accord.

The food and drink would be brilliant. The tree might not happen, or decorations. Cards definitely wouldn't happen. Presents would be a last minute, hastily wrapped collection but no less thoughtful or lovely for that.

If my DP was asked to organise Christmas he'd go out on Christmas eve and spend about four times more than I do with my frugal planning and bargain hunting. He'd buy what he felt like for each person in accordance with his perception of what they'd like, with no thought to being 'fair' or proportionate. So the neighbours might end up with a case of champagne, and me a cat calendar. The food would be all treat stuff and the biggest turkey available and maybe sprouts. Other veg and basics wouldn't be bought because "we have them, don't we?" He's a good cook but very very slow so the food would be ready by boxing day. However, he is the best fun. So whatever happened it would be a blast. In fact I'm talking myself into putting my control freakery aside and handing him the reins.

It would be brilliant. It would be much less fuss. DH and I are relaxed about Christmas. It is just a day. Like birthdays, weddings etc. Don't care about food, gifts or decorations. The expectations seem to always be from women in society.

My husband does the Christmas food shop and the all the cooking, he also lugs home the Christmas tree. I’m generally in charge of decorating but he does help, especially with the lights. I do the Christmas presents, he’s not good at lots of little gifts, he’d just be very extravagant, which isn’t a bad thing but just expensive.

Tbh I’d be happy to leave him in charge of everything, we’d have a great Christmas. It’s me that would be the problem, if i was in charge of food, well it would be edible but it wouldn’t be great! And I would pad it out with lots of M&S oven food rather than the proper home made stuff.

One of the best xmases last year was when DH and his three brothers cooked Xmas dinner with us girls chipping in with getting drinks etc and handing them round to the older folks and trying to contain the kids.

It was not perfect but if was a lot of fun!

Lower key, less perfectionist, less martyrdom, less guilt about whether the kids have got enough or alternatively too many presents, more boundaries about not spending Xmas in a way you don't want to etc ...

Men do have plus points!! We need both men and women.

If I didn't have my DH to ground me our Xmas would be totally neurotic 🤣

We'd go to an amazing and very convivial pub for drinks.

There would be lots of social and cultural stuff arranged.

Plenty of booze and nibbles.

Decent but rather haphazardly wrapped presents.

A few cards sent. No decorations.

Crisps for dinner (although he'd probably arrange to impose on a relative in lieu of cooking dinner)

Mr Monkey is very good at sorting the social side of Xmas. He has no real interest in the "big day" or a fancy meal.

Idk. I'd like to see what they looked like for comparison's sake.

In this house Christmas dinner would look the same. Presents would be bought later but with less of an eye on budget. Christmas decorations would go up later. The finishing touches, Christmas cards/crackers/ Christmas bedding probably would be lost. There definitely wouldn't be that driving force of needing everything to have achieved some godly level of neat and tidy so that everything would look just-so. There'd be no guilt over any dropped balls.

Fuck it, it sounds nice.

When we met he had a tree I hated. All matching decor and boring. We now enjoy my annual Christmas tree melt down where I weep over broken lights etc.
he does the food shop and all the cooking. I do presents. He’d be fine. I make it more magical I’ve decided I do.

Everything would be a little more last minute and stressful without my husband. He does the majority of the gift shopping, 90% of the wrapping and most of the cooking on the day. I do the food shop and I'm designated driver for parties.

Food would be great. No decorations, no activities, no gifts

My husband would buy about 15 overpriced fancy Christmas cakes of different types (which no one would eat) buy huge normal sized presents as stocking g fillers and decorate the house in 1970s ott decorations

My late husband was far more in to Christmas and certainly organised better decorations and gifts than I do now - with a sense of proportion about what actually mattered. But I am good at food and wine!!! The best Christmases we ever had were generally with (male) gay friends, who stereotypically I know hosted the most amazing relaxing, convivial and yet perfectly on-point days. So no, I don’t subscribe to your theory. Quite the reverse.

My DH does all the food shopping, prepping and cooking. I literally don’t have to think about that. I do presents. A fair split in my view.

I've been with my husband for 47 years, and in all that time, he's never bought a card or present (I've done it all), wrapped or written anything, posted cards, put decorations up - nothing (yes, it's my fault). He actually said we ought to just buy gift cards for all our family members, including the grandchildren.............😂

If you left my father and 3 brothers to it,then there would be no food/presents/tree/whatever and 4 fully grown men standing looking perplexed and gormless

If its my dp,he'd do everything-maybe not perfectly,but more than good enough-wed have food/presents/tree/whatever

The difference is,4 have been babied all their lives (they don't have a clue how to use a washing machine or cooker-housework is underneath them and a womans job,im amazed my mother doesnt still wipe their arses) and one hasn't (who is perfectly capable of running a house/his life/work)

It may or may not be a disaster. Likewise, if women were left to organise Christmas themselves, it may or may not be a disaster.

In our house there would be enough food to last till January 30th, when we food shop for Christmas i have to reign him in, enough booze to stock a pub, the tree would go up Christmas eve, presents would be no money spared but not necessarily what people want, he likes Christmas more than me

It would be fine, just not quite as " finished" as I would like.......I like things my way 😊

We'd have a tree up, and the presents would be random and unwrapped. Some people would have an extravegant gift and others very little.
Food would be sparse as he hates shopping for food, but will cook if I buy it. We'd end up with turkey, ham, mash and peas probably. No pudding as it's not important.

It would probably get cancelled and that way he could have his December birthday as the main event 😂

He has no interest in doing anything for Christmas apart from inviting people who would otherwise be on their own and spending time with them while I get on with it all in peace (and wine, lots of wine).