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Am I being unnecessarily concerned about this?

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TrotFox · 27/11/2024 13:51

Me and DP sleep in separate bedrooms. We have two cats who need to be kept apart at night. Girl cat sleeps with DP and boy cat sleeps downstairs.

I have always had this niggling concern and question about what we would do if there was a fire in the night and the cat downstairs couldn’t get out or we couldn’t find him. I tried to have him sleep in the bedroom with me but it didn’t work out and he won’t settle throughout the night. I mostly just assumed that I was over worrying and it’s very unlikely it will happen. However I just saw a post on Facebook about someone who is worried about the same thing but her boyfriend doesn’t want the cat in the room with them at night.

I am now wondering if it’s a much more real concern and I should be keeping the cat in the room with me and the door shut at night? What do other pet owners do and do you ever worry about this?

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Christmasatcadburys · 27/11/2024 20:32

This can’t be a genuine post.

hamsandyams · 27/11/2024 20:30

TrotFox · 27/11/2024 16:39

But what else would my cat do then? Say for instance there’s a fire downstairs, we would have to evacuate through the top window (it’s massive and opens out wide and there is something directly underneath for us to stand on) we don’t have a cat flap and my cat can’t open doors by himself. So what are you suggesting he would do to get himself out? Walk through a walk like a Casper the ghost? Suddenly develop fingers and thumbs to unlock the door?

Why wouldn’t you unlock and open the door from
the outside once you got out?!

hamsandyams · 27/11/2024 20:29

We have smoke alarms (which have defected the most minute amount of smoke from a fire in the past) and my dog is kept in a room with two external doors. I have the keys for the external doors next to my bed, so if we got out and couldn’t get to her on the way out we would go round the back and open the doors to get her. We have a house rabbit in another room without doors, but we keep a cat carrier in the room next to his so we have something to put him in if we can get to him. The rabbit would be the most likely casualty of a fire though.

Juno86 · 27/11/2024 20:24

JMSA · 27/11/2024 17:03

I'd be more worried about the impending doom of your relationship, in this batshit crazy situation!

This.

INeedAnotherName · 27/11/2024 18:12

JMSA · 27/11/2024 17:03

I'd be more worried about the impending doom of your relationship, in this batshit crazy situation!

I assume one is a snorer. Hopefully not the one who has locked a cat in with them since cats having sensitive hearing.

I agree with others. Sort out your fire precautions of doors, smoke detectors, fire blankets and extinguishers, unplugging everything at night, don't leave a washer, dryer or cooker unattended. Get the fire brigade round to give advice and make a sensible escape plan.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 27/11/2024 17:53

Are they house cats? The chances of a house fire are extremely low. I'd focus on what you can do to lessen the risk of a fire rather than lessen the risk of not being able to rescue your cat in a fire. Don't smoke, use candles, deep fat fry, overload sockets or charge e scooters or bikes over night

Catza · 27/11/2024 17:49

we don’t have a cat flap and my cat can’t open doors by himself

So install a cat flap...

JMSA · 27/11/2024 17:03

I'd be more worried about the impending doom of your relationship, in this batshit crazy situation!

INeedAnotherName · 27/11/2024 16:59

TrotFox · 27/11/2024 14:01

I’m not presuming those things I’m just saying it will be safer to have the cat with me so that I know where they are. Yes they may be hiding in my wardrobe or something but at least I have a greater chance of finding them than I do if they’re downstairs. Downstairs we have a living room, dining room/kitchen and then like a conservatory area but it’s all open plan, there’s no doors so would be tricky to find him! I do feel daft tbh writing this because it’s a situation that is unlikely to happen.. it’s just always in the back of my mind so just wondered

they may be hiding in my wardrobe or something but at least I have a greater chance of finding them than I do if they’re downstairs?
So you would spend 5 or 10 minutes searching your room whilst the fire and smoke got nearer to you rather than you escaping and leaving your bedroom door open for them to escape? Every minute counts if you want to survive.

Downstairs we have a living room, dining room/kitchen and then like a conservatory area but it’s all open plan, there’s no doors so would be tricky to find him!
You have no door between you and the kitchen? I think you need to concentrate on that as that's scary!! It wouldn't be allowed in a rental as they would insist on fire doors 😮

maverickfox · 27/11/2024 16:48

Time searching your bedroom for your cat is time you should be using for leaving the house. Even a minute or two delay can be fatal either from fire or smoke inhalation. I would expect my cat to get out by herself and if she didn’t I would be sad but wouldn’t risk my life to search for her.

TrotFox · 27/11/2024 16:39

Quitelikeit · 27/11/2024 16:26

How bizarre

You think any type of animal is going to sit in the corner whilst there’s a natural disaster looming?!

Honestly I despair 😩

But what else would my cat do then? Say for instance there’s a fire downstairs, we would have to evacuate through the top window (it’s massive and opens out wide and there is something directly underneath for us to stand on) we don’t have a cat flap and my cat can’t open doors by himself. So what are you suggesting he would do to get himself out? Walk through a walk like a Casper the ghost? Suddenly develop fingers and thumbs to unlock the door?

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recipientofraspberries · 27/11/2024 16:37

I don't think you'll have any success in getting your cat to stay in a particular room if that's not where they want to be. You'll have even less success getting a peaceful night's sleep.

Noseybookworm · 27/11/2024 16:34

I think your cat would probably try and get out, especially if the fire alarm is going off, that would scare him surely? Do you have a cat flap? If so, I bet he'd be out in a flash! Does he have a spot where he usually sleeps downstairs so you have an idea where he is?

Quitelikeit · 27/11/2024 16:26

How bizarre

You think any type of animal is going to sit in the corner whilst there’s a natural disaster looming?!

Honestly I despair 😩

suki1964 · 27/11/2024 16:23

Animals sense danger long before humans, your cat will be out the cat flap like a rocket with the first sniff of smoke

If you are being fire aware , internal doors should be shut at night - all doors.

Our cat can come and go as far as the kitchen - that door is closed at night.

Dog sleeps outside our bedroom door . Im just praying Im not the one having to carry the fat git down a ladder

Catza · 27/11/2024 16:09

TrotFox · 27/11/2024 14:08

See I feel like my cat would just crouch himself into a corner in the back of the pantry or something to hide, rather than try to escape the house

How you feel about your cat's abilities and personality really doesn't have any consequences on their actual behaviour and self-preservation instincts. You may think that you yourself will behave in a particular way in a dangerous situation but it doesn't mean you actually would.
But to answer your question, no. I don't worry about my pets. Anything that is not caged, I presume to have capacity to get out.

TheSilkWorm · 27/11/2024 14:54

I have a cat flap and would expect my cat to scarper PDQ of his own accord.

Ellie1015 · 27/11/2024 14:36
  1. fire unlikely
  2. if it happens cat will probably escape
  3. you cant make the cat sleep in your room anyway.

I think you are worrying disproportionately about this and should look to resovle that.

toomuchfaff · 27/11/2024 14:27

TrotFox · 27/11/2024 14:13

It’s not that I sit shaking and biting my fingernails worrying myself into a frenzy over this. It’s just in the back of my mind sometimes. I was only prompted to write this because someone on my local town FB group mentioned it and I wondered what other people thought

It's not unreasonable, your post has triggered me to think what I'd do with my dogs, especiallythe elderly infirm one whos a bit deaf! My focus is warning (alarms etc.), so to give more time to escape with all pets intact. I suppose I'd also look to areas that might be "hiding" places, and see how you'd get to them if there were a fire, can you just break windows to give the cat opportunity to escape, or is there places where it'd be stuck!

Laiste · 27/11/2024 14:15

I have kids and cats (and dogs and 11 guinea pigs at one point) and i have never gone to bed wondering what i would do in a fire.

Kids out and leave the front door open for pets is the extent of my plan.

Herewegoago · 27/11/2024 14:14

TrotFox · 27/11/2024 14:10

Yeah but we had a talk from some firemen once that said you should sleep with your bedroom door shut as this delays the fire a bit from getting to you. If your child is asleep with their door shut and there’s a fire downstairs, they’ll hear the alarm and wake up and know what is happening etc. a cat won’t.. I can’t keep a door shut to delay anything as downstairs is all open plan and if I did manage to get downstairs to find him (I know you shouldn’t do this though and should just get out of the house asap) I wouldn’t know where to find him. I would know where my child is.. in their room

Cats are not oblivious to danger and would probably be aware of a fire much sooner than we would, and manage to keep well away.

TrotFox · 27/11/2024 14:13

toomuchfaff · 27/11/2024 14:06

Get a fire alarm, get a smoke detector, reduce the risk rather than worrying about consequences?

If you have fire alarms and smoke detectors, then why are you still worrying? Do you think you'll sleep through them? Can't you hear them from your rooms? add more so you're risk of waking to a blazing fire are reduced. In all likelihood if there is a fire, the cat will be as far away as possible from the fire, never met a cat that will run towards a live fire, they are usually good at self preservation.

It’s not that I sit shaking and biting my fingernails worrying myself into a frenzy over this. It’s just in the back of my mind sometimes. I was only prompted to write this because someone on my local town FB group mentioned it and I wondered what other people thought

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TrotFox · 27/11/2024 14:10

Anoisagusaris · 27/11/2024 14:07

People don’t keep their children in their bedrooms in case of fire, nevermind their cats.

Yeah but we had a talk from some firemen once that said you should sleep with your bedroom door shut as this delays the fire a bit from getting to you. If your child is asleep with their door shut and there’s a fire downstairs, they’ll hear the alarm and wake up and know what is happening etc. a cat won’t.. I can’t keep a door shut to delay anything as downstairs is all open plan and if I did manage to get downstairs to find him (I know you shouldn’t do this though and should just get out of the house asap) I wouldn’t know where to find him. I would know where my child is.. in their room

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Potentialmadcatlady · 27/11/2024 14:09

Herewegoago · 27/11/2024 14:06

I was given advice from a firefighter once that if there’s a fire in the house, not to go back into the house to look for pets, especially not cats as they’re ‘excellent at getting themselves to safety’ and id be more likely to harm myself than help my cat. I have 6 and always used to worry about it lol.

Me too! Last week

Potentialmadcatlady · 27/11/2024 14:09

I have eight cats and three dogs.
After a recent issue with my C02 alarms we got a fire safety check carried out. Fireman asked if we have a fire routine. I said yes, get my adult son into the car and throw as many dogs/cats as I can catch into him via a window ( indoor cats and ex feral rescues so no mean feat) then I would open doors and hope the rest got out. He told me to get out and in most cases the animals find their own way out. He also told me to have living room door etc shut at night as that is likely to give us 20mins extra to get to safety.
I keep carriers in shed and rest in attic so I could get to shed ones easily.

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