My parents spend every weekend with DB.
DB: lives alone, unemployed, single, no children, and has several MH issues including bipolar and psychosis. He is also autistic. He can see my parents any day of the week but "prefers" to go to theirs all weekend, where DM waits on him hand and foot.
So I either don't see my parents at all on weekends, or I see them with him there.
In all honesty, I never relax in his presence. He's been restrained and sectioned twice and spent many months on psychiatric wards and warden assisted accommodation in the past. I have 3 DC, two of them girls, and DB likes to stroke their faces and tummy and tickle them and it is just - well.. weird to watch and feels so inappropriate. When I raise this with DM she is so defensive and thinks I'm being nasty and accusing him of stuff. She says i'm uncaring and it's "ok" for me because I have DH and DC whilst DB has nobody.
AIBU to ask them to see me and my family separately to DB?