Is this Coercion? Going to the police to report? Please give me you opinions / help?

Very best of luck. Let us know how it goes.

Oh gosh - good luck @ThatFairDeer hope it goes well with the police. You should not have to live like this, you are not responsible for his sexual needs.

You don't need luck, you need justice. Well done for taking a massive step towards getting it.

Good luck!

@ThatFairDeer 🙌🙌🙌 Good luck! You deserve to feel safe! ❤️

It’s a real shame he doesn’t think about his children before he behaves this way. If he’s carted off in a police car and your children see it, they will see that actions have consequences. It won’t be your fault, and perhaps they’re a little young to immediately understand the situation, but they will understand one day.

Also, your children are probably far more aware of various things going on at home than you’d ever realise. I lose count of the amount of conversations I’ve had with now adults, who talk about things that happened in their childhood that their parents thought they knew nothing of. Kids are far more switched on than most parents realise.

You have a right to be safe in your own bed. That comes before anything or anyone else.

Oh Good Decision! Reporting to the police is the right thing to do. Stay safe and be well.

Well done! Good Luck.

Well done @ThatFairDeer. I wish you further courage and strength.

He sounds a complete pain in the rear and she needs rid of him - that much is clear.

Dont minimise his behaviour.

He has to date repeatedly carried out numerous crimimal acts - sexual assault and domestic violence / coercive control.

Would you define a stranger in the street sexually assauting you repeatedly as 'a pain in the rear'?

Can you put a lock on your door?

I am NOT blaming her - but she says she has asked him to not sleep in the same room/bed and I am simply puzzled as to why she might not make that choice for herself seeing as he is refusing to. If she thinks he can do it then so can she.

He sounds a complete pain in the rear and she needs rid of him - that much is clear.

Good luck. He's an arse hole

Good luck!

This resonates with me quite a bit.
Get in touch with Women’s Aid, find a rental and get out of that bed.
I, too, wanted to keep a lid on things for the sake of the children but in reality it made me more submissive.
Don’t listen to him telling you “it” will only work with you. This similar scenario only made me reaffirm my belief that he thought I was a woman to be used and his crying and moaning was a result of his realisation of not being able to get any.
I wish you all the best OP.

Assault op

Who owns the house? Can you force him, legally, to leave and change the locks?
If you aren't willing to put a lock on your door you will have to move out.

You are in a really dangerous and seemingly escalating situation.

Please take proportionate action and go to the police.

I expect that they will consider questioning / arresting your DH when your DCs are at school for instance.

Please do not wait another day. Sorry to be so graphic but your DCs do not need to hear / see their mother getting raped or the aftermath.

I used to have an app called sleep recorder or something like that. It basically starts recording if it hears anything. Could you get something like that? It will then just start recording without you doing anything and without your abusive ex realising you are getting evidence.

I'm so sorry you are going through this - I do think you should report him. Good luck.

Rubber door stop. Mattress in dc's room and jam it under the door.. If he attempts to get in ring the police. Would you accept a stranger trying to maul you?

Then you have the start of your recordings.
you will have time to put your phone on record .

sleep deprivation. Coercive control . sexual assault

Oh and absolutely report to the police.

Set a good example to your children that if assaulted - you report.

Doesn't matter who they are. There is no excuse for this behaviour.

He's a monster.

Move out of the shared marital bedroom into one of the kids bedrooms.

This is sexual assault.

Make it clear you are not sleeping anywhere near him, not in a space he can access and absolutely somewhere he cannot attempt to rape you.

It's not even coercion... it's plain sexual assault. It's not even that he's manipulated you into giving in.. it's that he's touching you abd rubbing you without your consent. He's not even had enough respect to coerce you.. doesn't give a shit that you haven't consented.
Yes go to the police. This is abuse. It would be abuse if it were coercion too.
Please go to the police.