Is this Coercion? Going to the police to report? Please give me you opinions / help?

Am I wrong to think he shouldn't be insisting on wanting to have sex or sexual activities with his ex W who is divorcing him? is this a genuine question because you don’t know the answer?

Really glad to hear the update OP, you've done the right thing and please put any feelings of guilt for him being arrested out of your head. HE did this to himself with his despicable actions.

Congrats on the decree nisi, I hope this is the start of a wonderful new chapter for you x

Thank you for taking the time to update.
It all sounds positive and I hope this awful man is punished and you and your DC can move forward in peace

Lock the door and tell him to sleep on the sofa/spare room if he is refusing to move out.

Him touching you without consent has nothing to do with divorce etc. It's unwanted physical contact even in a together relationship.

How did you get on @ThatFairDeer - did you get the support you need?

So pleased to see this update. I hope you get a good team of officers to help.
At the very least you should get a restraining order.
Don’t feel guilty for the children, it’s your sex pest ex that’s guilty. You need to show them love, stability & how to get away from abusive people. It’s sad for them that their father is a sex offender, but it’s not your fault, it’s all his.
Good luck.

How did you get on at the police station yesterday OP? c

He’s doing this because it makes him think he has power over you. And that is what’s getting him off. It is a very concerning red flag and it is almost definite that he will escalate.

I hope the police were helpful and proactive.

I hope the police were helpful OP.

It's only a matter of time before this man rapes you. He's not stopping because you're saying no, he's stopping because he's still hoping there's a chance you'll stay together. Once he realises it's definitely over they'll be nothing to stop him.

I hope the police have removed him - but whatever happens you need to get away from this man, immediately.

Thinking of you

Also it's not a case of telling him "oh ok I'll just stay in the spare room "
This man is a vile abusing creep , what if moving rooms etc pushes him to escalate the abuse further this poor woman has to try and keep herself and her children safe
It's not so easy when you're walking on eggshells and fearing every day

Even if the police don't take the criminal allegations further, you could apply for a non molestation order, which could include the court telling him not to enter the house.

No its not
They are sharing a HOUSE while getting divorced. Not everyone has the family or money to just house themselves elsewhere. This revolting man is coming into her room at night and assaulting her
Maybe read the whole thread before commenting, if its too much then just read OP's posts.

Why are you sharing a bed with a man you're divorcing?

Is this yet another weird post that will get deleted in a day or so?

@ThatFairDeer well done for reporting him!

He knows he's not supposed to get into bed with you. He knows what he is doing is wrong. You're doing great standing your ground and enforcing boundaries.

Your job isn't to make his life easier.

Good luck viewing the new house as well. Fingers crossed for you!

Good grief I am not minimizing his behaviour! - I have very good reason to understand her situation - I am just suggesting she is proactive in being out of his way when sleeping. I presume there is space for this or she would not have asked him to do this.

He's disgusting. I'm so sorry.

If this was a man in a bar he'd be thrown out. The same should happen to him.

If another adult did this to you you wouldn't even question whether it was sexual assault. The law doesn't change just because he's your ex husband.

He is climbing into bed and touching you in ways you don't consent to. He is applying pressure to try and get you to have sex with him. That IS abuse and it IS assault.

@ThatFairDeer just a message to say I’m thinking about you.
I hope it went ok yesterday but even if it didn’t get yourself onto a dv charity.

I’m sending you strength from someone who’s been through it and is years on the other side can tell you once you get through and look back from your future you’ll always treasure the new life you will have forged. Don’t lose hope now this is the last hardest bit keep going then one day it will be your history.

Can't believe you've been asked why you don't move rooms etc
This is all On him ,
Of course it is. But she's asked him, he's refused, so her only options are to continue to be sexually assaulted or to remove herself from the situation, it really is that simple. If he won't change his behaviour then she needs to change her response, but in no way is this situation her fault.

Good luck OP

Can't believe you've been asked why you don't move rooms etc
This is all
On him , I hope today goes the right way and well done , this is awful what you're going through and the fear you have , I would also be scared of this man his actions apart from disturbing are scary.
Please talk to women's aid etc , leaving / breaking up is always the most dangerous time x

Is getting him out of the house an option? Hope it went well for you today

I'm so proud of you

Good luck op, thinking of you

Good luck!