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Sushi restaurant drama

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Cwazycupcake · 27/11/2024 07:35

After reading another similar post I had to get opinions on if I was unreasonable.

I was at a sushi train a few weeks ago with DH and kids. It was close to closing time so there wasn’t a huge selection left. At the booth next to us were four kids, their parents ( four adults) were at the booth opposite the kids. My kids were loudly calling out what they wanted, and as the food went past the table of kids before us they took everything my kids wanted. Despite telling my kids to stop calling out what they wanted, it continued. The kids at the next table had quite a bit of half eaten sushi piled up, the parents hadn’t noticed. I know I should have told the parents their kids were being silly, but due to being a little hangry I said I wanted octopus balls, it was the most expensive plate colour and there were a few, and this is when the parents realised what was happening. They were not pleased, one of the men picked up the plates and put them on our table and said we were paying for it. I grabbed the couple of plates we had actually eaten from and went to the checkout and explained what happened. I only paid what I should have.
A couple of friends said I should have paid for at least some of it.
Was I in the wrong?

OP posts:
NewDaye · 27/11/2024 17:13

JohnTheRevelator · 27/11/2024 17:05

Sorry,you lost me at 'octopus balls'. Do they have balls? And do people actually eat them?! 🤢

I just assumed it’s octopus flesh in that shape? Like sweet and sour chicken balls or chicken nuggets

birdiesings · 27/11/2024 17:10

YABU for wanting to eat an octopus at all.

JohnTheRevelator · 27/11/2024 17:05

Sorry,you lost me at 'octopus balls'. Do they have balls? And do people actually eat them?! 🤢

napody · 27/11/2024 17:01

YANBU OP- brilliant way to handle it!
Did the parents actually tell the kids off for their bratty behaviour, or did the kids see that Dad took it all out on you instead?

Good luck in the future... sushi brat parents!

BunnyLake · 27/11/2024 16:55

MereDintofPandiculation · 27/11/2024 16:46

Why not goat?

Affectionate, like having a dog apparently.

BunnyLake · 27/11/2024 16:55

MarkWithaC · 27/11/2024 16:49

I largely eat fish and chicken now, and those rarely.
I sometimes housesit for friends who keep chickens though (for eggs only) and do feel a bit weird about continuing to eat the meat after I've been feeding/talking to a little flock of happy, live ones.

I can relate. Mainly chicken and fish too.

On topic, OP most certainly shouldn’t need be paying in these circumstances.

MarkWithaC · 27/11/2024 16:49

BunnyLake · 27/11/2024 16:41

Me too. I have found over the years I’ve taken things off the list that I’ll eat. I won’t ever eat octopus, veal or lamb. I have dilemmas over pigs and would never eat goat. I think it’s likely I’ll take meat out the equation once my kids have left home. Not as a die hard vegetarian but I’ll limit it to maybe eating out sometimes, maybe.

I largely eat fish and chicken now, and those rarely.
I sometimes housesit for friends who keep chickens though (for eggs only) and do feel a bit weird about continuing to eat the meat after I've been feeding/talking to a little flock of happy, live ones.

CowTown · 27/11/2024 16:47

Annabella92 · 27/11/2024 16:44

I'd love to see how this man approached you with the expectation that you somehow needed to pay for this? It's wild

“My kids were bullying your kids by pulling stuff they didn’t want to eat—simply for the joy of depriving your kids. I was sitting at a separate table and not supervising my kids. I’m not paying; you can pay”

MereDintofPandiculation · 27/11/2024 16:46

BunnyLake · 27/11/2024 16:41

Me too. I have found over the years I’ve taken things off the list that I’ll eat. I won’t ever eat octopus, veal or lamb. I have dilemmas over pigs and would never eat goat. I think it’s likely I’ll take meat out the equation once my kids have left home. Not as a die hard vegetarian but I’ll limit it to maybe eating out sometimes, maybe.

Why not goat?

Annabella92 · 27/11/2024 16:44

I'd love to see how this man approached you with the expectation that you somehow needed to pay for this? It's wild

BunnyLake · 27/11/2024 16:41

MarkWithaC · 27/11/2024 16:37

I find myself eating meat less and less. It was for sustainability and cost reasons, but increasingly I feel ethically troubled by it. Yes, pigs are so clever. And delightful.

Me too. I have found over the years I’ve taken things off the list that I’ll eat. I won’t ever eat octopus, veal or lamb. I have dilemmas over pigs and would never eat goat. I think it’s likely I’ll take meat out the equation once my kids have left home. Not as a die hard vegetarian but I’ll limit it to maybe eating out sometimes, maybe.

44PumpLane · 27/11/2024 16:40

Honestly OP it's not your job to monitor their kids ......they didn't give a shit when their kids were preventing your kids eating what they wanted, they only cared when it got a bit expensive.

Idiots, and honestly if your mate would have paid then they're and idiot too!

sweetpickle2 · 27/11/2024 16:40

BunnyLake · 27/11/2024 16:36

I’ve been to lots of sushi places but I can’t see what’s coming down the conveyor belt until it’s practically on top of me. I can see the plates and the plastic dome covers but not the contents.

But the OP and their DCs could? What you can normally see when you go to sushi places isn't really relevant.

MarkWithaC · 27/11/2024 16:37

oakleaffy · 27/11/2024 16:30

@MarkWithaC Agree so much about the intelligence of 🐙 octopuses- Pigs too are incredibly bright.
A local butcher says the most humane meat ( in his experience) is shot wild deer 🦌- but these are expensive .

People eating octopus alive ( where they are fighting for life ) is grotesque.

IF animals are eaten, their lives and deaths should be as humane as possible. ( Anyone who has had rescued battery hens knows how happy these birds are and they still lay wonky eggs for you.💕

I find myself eating meat less and less. It was for sustainability and cost reasons, but increasingly I feel ethically troubled by it. Yes, pigs are so clever. And delightful.

BunnyLake · 27/11/2024 16:36

MarkWithaC · 27/11/2024 16:34

Thank you for explaining. Why are people finding it so hard to understand the scenario here? The OP was perfectly clear.

I’ve been to lots of sushi places but I can’t see what’s coming down the conveyor belt until it’s practically on top of me. I can see the plates and the plastic dome covers but not the contents.

BunnyLake · 27/11/2024 16:34

oakleaffy · 27/11/2024 16:30

@MarkWithaC Agree so much about the intelligence of 🐙 octopuses- Pigs too are incredibly bright.
A local butcher says the most humane meat ( in his experience) is shot wild deer 🦌- but these are expensive .

People eating octopus alive ( where they are fighting for life ) is grotesque.

IF animals are eaten, their lives and deaths should be as humane as possible. ( Anyone who has had rescued battery hens knows how happy these birds are and they still lay wonky eggs for you.💕

It’s really a massive dilemma for me. I don’t want to eat animals but at the same time I don’t want to be vegetarian and I definitely don’t want to be vegan.

I sometimes think when I’m living on my own I’ll go vegetarian.

MarkWithaC · 27/11/2024 16:34

CowTown · 27/11/2024 16:23

You don’t shout your order! You pick what you want off of the conveyor belt as it passes, and pay based on the empty plates you have left on your table at the end of the meal. OP’s DC were excitedly saying what they were wanting as they could see it coming down the conveyor belt. The CF children overheard OP’s children, and pulled the items from the conveyor belt as it passed, in order to deprive OP’s DC from getting what they wanted.

Thank you for explaining. Why are people finding it so hard to understand the scenario here? The OP was perfectly clear.

oakleaffy · 27/11/2024 16:30

@MarkWithaC Agree so much about the intelligence of 🐙 octopuses- Pigs too are incredibly bright.
A local butcher says the most humane meat ( in his experience) is shot wild deer 🦌- but these are expensive .

People eating octopus alive ( where they are fighting for life ) is grotesque.

IF animals are eaten, their lives and deaths should be as humane as possible. ( Anyone who has had rescued battery hens knows how happy these birds are and they still lay wonky eggs for you.💕

CowTown · 27/11/2024 16:23

BunnyLake · 27/11/2024 15:07

I’m quite confused by the whole set up. I’ve never been to a sushi place where you shout your order, sounds very loud and chaotic.

You don’t shout your order! You pick what you want off of the conveyor belt as it passes, and pay based on the empty plates you have left on your table at the end of the meal. OP’s DC were excitedly saying what they were wanting as they could see it coming down the conveyor belt. The CF children overheard OP’s children, and pulled the items from the conveyor belt as it passed, in order to deprive OP’s DC from getting what they wanted.

MarkWithaC · 27/11/2024 16:15

BunnyLake · 27/11/2024 15:04

I can’t eat octopus anymore since finding out they are very intelligent and affectionate creatures.

Can’t really work out what was happening but you weren’t those kids babysitters so I don’t see why you should pay.

Who leaves their kids unsupervised at a sushi conveyor belt?

I can't eat octopus any more either. I've read too many books and seen too many heartwarming documentaries about them.
Pity: one of the best things I've ever eaten was takoyaki from a little stand in, of all places, Essaouira.

extrasushiplease · 27/11/2024 16:12

You are definitely not being unreasonable: Ignore your kids, reap the consequences. CF raising CFers: You hate to see it.

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 27/11/2024 16:09

The only mistake you made here was taking DH and the kids and forgetting to bring your own lightning-tentacled highly trained octopus along to make sure you had first dibs on all the dishes. Not sure it would have appreciated those balls on the Sushi train though.

Glittertwins · 27/11/2024 16:03

Cwazycupcake · 27/11/2024 10:24

Thanks all. My friend felt I should pay as I had goaded the kids into grabbing four expensive plates of food they wouldn’t eat.

I do promise to be more adventurous next time I get sushi.

Not your problem that the kids were greedy. It's quite obvious from that octopus grab that they were intentionally taking what others wanted just because they could and not because they wanted to eat it

Hyperbowl · 27/11/2024 15:56

ThanksItHasPockets · 27/11/2024 12:50

He almost certainly wasn’t and the only loser here will have been the restaurant, sadly.

Disgraceful, isn’t it?

dibbles81 · 27/11/2024 15:42

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