Dee Devlin (Conor McGregor's partner) victim blaming a rape victim

@Holymoleyitscold if you read about the case you would also know that she was pretty much covered head to toe in bruising (all four limbs, her neck, her hands etc). She had to have her tampon removed with forceps because it was lodged at the top of her vagina. Staff said they either hadn't seen anything so severe before, or hadn't for a long time. She had her house broken into, her partner stabbed etc.

I find it pretty repugnant that you say you don't have any sympathy for this woman.

Maybe she did want to party with him, it's not unusual for young women to seek attention from rich, influential, celebrities. That does not mean that those men are within their rights to beat and rape those women after supplying them with drugs and alcohol.

This woman has never tried to present herself as perfect, that was made quite clear in the trial. It doesn't mean she had it coming to her though and that sentiment is foul.

Please don’t say she has no money. She will not have £0 in her bank account. She is far more privileged than the vast majority of women. She CAN leave. She doesn’t want to. She likes her cushy number and being blind to her idiot OH.

I've just read this open mouthed! Had no idea he had a partner let alone 4 CHILDREN! Sick sick sick. She's a stupid stupid person.

There was a thread the other day about the case and it seemed that the rhetoric on Dee is “Poor woman is probably terrified abused and can’t leave and can’t be expected to rote to her children from a violent man”. A few of us pushed back to say “What if she’s not a victim but an enabler” and got absolute tore a new one, told we were victim blaming.

But I KNEW my instinct was right. People need to accept that women can be just fucking awful abuse enablers. And she is - you don’t have to be the one carrying out abuse to have a responsibility for stopping it.

I feel awful for those kids and can only hope social services are involved

I don’t think there’s any evidence that she was after money but certainly she was a terrible mother who set out to shag CM and probably his mate too. His reputation was well known but she probably turned a blind eye to it as she wouldn’t be fearing rape as she went back willingly for sex and drugs. What he then did was evil and he should be in jail. He has no respect for women including Dee, but he’s surrounded my women with no respect for themselves too.

Did you read the evidence that Nikita was battered black and blue and the treating paramedic had never seen bruising so bad? Or that her tampon had to be removed by forceps? Or that a psychiatrist diagnosed her with severe PTSD?

Even if she set out to party and have sex with him, at some point that turned into rape.

Abuse of his partner that is so awful that it can't be hidden.

I would say its about as close to impossible as you could get. He's got links to organised crime, she's not living in a world where the normal rules apply.

This is very true. There’s plenty of women like that out there, rather than being downtrodden they seem to revel in the belief that they’re a special chosen one.

Like what?

@Beezknees

It's never impossible. She's choosing to stay. I was in an abusive relationship so I'm not speaking from no experience and I didn't have half the money she's got.

Firstly I congratulate you on getting out.

But if she is indeed a victim, her abuser has essentially limitless cash, literally millions of fans - thousands of whom could be willing to 'punish' a woman for leaving him and strong established connections to organised crime groups responsible for countless attacks and many murders.

Her situation in that sense is pretty rare, even if being a victim of abuse unfortunately isn't.

So why would you start this thread knowing she's likely a victim of serious physical abuse and presumably coercive control?

Men like him would demand their partner publicly condemn the victim.

It's odd you believe it's possible she's being horrifically abused to the point of being beaten unconscious and requiring medical treatment, but started this thread.

And if the chief witness and plaintiff in the highest profile court case of the year in Ireland can have her boyfriend stabbed, masked men break into her house and threaten her and have to relocate under protection, then what chance has she got of being safe two years down the line when things are quieter after leaving the scum bag.

She lives in a community where it is seen as the ultimate betrayal for a mother of the men's children to leave them. It's a personal insult and is dealt with as such. She is in extreme danger if she leaves him. He's closely connected to serious criminals in Dublin who have killed around 20 people in the last 10 years that we know about. That included a young girl they abducted off O'Connel Bridge in the middle of Dublin, held captive for abuse from numerous criminals that he associates with, killed, cut up and put in a bag and dumped in the Dublin mountains. Then burnt the house down she was held in. These are the people she lives amongst. So people saying she should just leave have no concept of the consequences.

That is some horrible stuff there, but I've read many a OW thread on MN and some sexual 'impropriety' by men and women on this very forum will descend to berate, shut shame and victim blame. Nothing new or shocking really.

Oh and I had to laugh at the last screen shot.

I wonder if she will also be warning her daughter that rapists like her dad exist?

I can’t believe how many people are slating her for this. Just because it’s on her Instagram doesn’t mean she actually wrote it. Maybe she did, maybe he did. There’s no way to know.

But we simply do not know if Dee is in an abusive relationship. He's a scumbag but for all I know it could be a case of Madonna/whore, where Dee, as the mother of his children, is the Madonna here and any other woman who gives him sexual attention is a whore. Maybe he compartmentalises this and treats her well, and maybe her internalise misogyny means she thinks he can't help himself (so it's the other women's fault he had sex with them). She lives in her "happy family" bubble and sticks her fingers in her ears to his shitty ways outside. We can't assume she wants to leave but is too scared to.

I agree to some extent but once you come out and publicly make statements like this you have well and truly placed yourself in the discussion.

It's interesting her anger is totally centred on what she perceives N's actions to be and conveniently ignore her husband's disgusting behaviour.

She is clearly the sort of woman who still believes you can be "asking for it".

Exactly. And he has fans and supporters all over the world, where would she move to where no one would ever see her and contact him with that info.

She’s likely a victim too and I feel very sorry for her, the money she has doesn’t really help, when he has not only money but thugs to do his bidding.

In England, abusing your spouse doesn’t prevent you getting contact with your kids. Even though she has her own money, he could outlawyer her several times over.

Men like that don’t let their exes live in peace. If she left then the police will want info about what she knows about the comings and goings of the said criminals and she will spend her time trying to convince her ex that she’s no snitch

It's never easy to leave, but this is a man who isn't just violent, he is connected to an enormous organised crime group.