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To be worried about stains on my boyfriend’s sofa

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DemiSec9 · 27/11/2024 06:14

I spotted a v bright pink sticky stain (bubble gum colour and thick) on my bf’s sofa. I asked him about it and he said he had no idea what it was. He’s renting and the sofa doesn’t belong to him but I feel sure I would have noticed it if it’d been there from when he moved in?

He cleaned it off a few weeks ago but when I went back today, there’s a similar texture and shape black stain in exactly the same place! I’ll photograph this one, wish I had done the last one.

I’ve been seeing him for 6 months. We both have kids in their early 20s and are separated. We live in separate flats to each other. He has a history of cheating which he speaks openly about. I have never cheated but I have been cheated on many times and I’m beginning to worry.

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coffeesaveslives · 27/11/2024 06:44

Why on earth are you with someone who openly admits to being a cheat?

Fuck him off.

Annabella92 · 27/11/2024 06:38

I thought lipgloss/stick, eyemakeup

Annabella92 · 27/11/2024 06:37

Period blood and semen?

! I thought lipgloss

Teanbiscuits33 · 27/11/2024 06:31

Are you thinking it’s period blood which can sometimes be pink or dark brown/black depending on flow and whether or not it’s at the beginning or end of a period? I feel like this might be what you mean. If you don’t trust him though, leave. Who can be arsed with this shit? 🤣

Edit to add that having re read your post it doesn’t sound like blood given that it’s bright pink and really thick but I can’t see why these stains would suggest cheating? They sound odd but could be anything and if you have no other evidence I’m struggling to see how you have arrived at this conclusion?

KimberleyClark · 27/11/2024 06:29

Why date someone with a history of cheating?

EmotionalSupportPotato · 27/11/2024 06:26

@EmotionalSupportBiscuit love the name!!!!

desperatedaysareover · 27/11/2024 06:20

So from the cheating chat, you think it’s a sex stain? The second stain, well, I know what it sounds like but I’m buggered if I can think of what the bright pink could be? Like, menstrual blood and semen? Would it be sticky? You’d think he’d be wanting to cover up signs of sex if e was up to no good, no?

Is it not possible it’s one of the kids doing it on the sofa?

EmotionalSupportBiscuit · 27/11/2024 06:20

So it’s either food, dropped by BF or one of his adult children when visiting.

Or it’s lip gloss and that’s what you think it is, isn’t it?

Could be his adult daughter, if he has one. Could be another woman.

But you’re only six months in and he’s told you he’s a serial cheater. If you don’t trust him, and can’t face a life of always wondering and worrying, move on.

EmotionalSupportPotato · 27/11/2024 06:18

He cleaned it off a few weeks ago but when I went back today, there’s a similar texture and shape black stain in exactly the same place so the outline of what was there before?

If you think he's shagging someone (who likes bubblegum) then just leave him. The trust isn't there and this sort of detective work will leave you spiralling until everything becomes a sign of cheating and then even if he isn't cheating he'll probably feel like cheating or just end it himself.