To wonder if my 6 year old thinks in a strange way

Stop projecting your expectations and how your childhood was into your kid

We're all different!

The questions she is asking are not odd, they're insightful

Answer everything honestly

Quite normal tbh.

I have a ND son who thinks in a very similar way. I under what you mean by it making you sad- I feel like he has never been able to get into the “magic” of some things the way our other children do. But he is a very intelligent, curious wee boy.

Should it make you feel any better OP I don't think I ever believed in Santa (or the tooth fairy) - certainly not by 6 - and my childhood Christmases were still completely magical. I could also never see the appeal of visiting Disneyland and 'meeting the real Mickey Mouse' as it was perfectly clear to me that it was just someone in a foam costume, given that Mickey was a cartoon. I'm sure some people would find that rather depressing, but I used to immerse myself in books (still do!) and was able to create magical / imaginative worlds that way - I certainly never felt that anything was lacking.

Fine but you keep posting lamenting her lack of magic. There is harm when it doesn't suit the child because then you are sending a message that her way is wrong and lacking versus celebrating her intellect and stop the magic which is lies 🤷‍♀️

@Andsoitgoeshey I think she's just remarkably bright.

When my dd was only just 3, she asked me what the moon was made of. I said it was just a big round rock and she said oh good - because other people thought it was made of cheese and that was just silly.

You want her to have 'magic' because it gave you pleasure.

Your daughter isn't the same as you, it isn't going to give her what you felt.

So why not do things she likes, so she has memories that make her happy.

Stop looking with your lens, try look at it from hers.

and your logical thinking daughter has other ideas.

One of my GC is very similar. It's just how her brain functions.

He didn’t tell us til about 2 years later, when he was still having a great time taking part in the tradition. We just laughed and put the sack outside his door as usual.

No it's not harsh. You are completely missing this child cleverness,her critical thinking, problem solving and complaining she doesn't believe lies.

That is it in a nutshell. Your posts are all about you, your feeling, your memories, her otherness, which sounds like intelligence.

I also have challenges in my family, so we embrace who we have as they are. We don't winge about unimportant things.

Honestly I would be so mad at a friend who was giving our about such an unimportant issue.

Mine worked out Santa when he was 4, based on logic and impossibility.

He got a top degree in a STEM subject, but had a fantastic fun filled childhood, and we always did stocking , Santas sack, etc.

Imagjnation and ‘acting as if…’ is just as much fun for kids, who enjoy stories, games, imagination.

i never know why people insist on maintaining belief in Santa to such extremes.

‘She’s very imaginative though and likes to pretend to be different characters or a dog, so it doesn’t really make sense’

Your DD has a creative imagination, so she doesn’t need other people’s stories or myths, she is making her own. It’s a great gift, OP, all creative artists of stature have it.

She just sounds smart and non-gullible to me. Certainly not strange.

Sounds like she's cleverer than you. It's sad that you are not proud of her for who she is.

Eldest daughter was exactly like this by the age of 4 and she ended up telling her twin sister all about it who refused to believe her till the age of 9 😁I just think kids like this are more problem solvers and it doesn't mean they're not as creative or not enjoying their childhood as much, I promise. I never felt as if either of my twins were being disadvantaged by their views.

My 6 year old daughter right now is fully confident about Santa's existence but since hearing me discuss about the Tooth Fairy doesn't believe about her anymore but simply pretends she does so she gets the money!

Get a grip, OP. It's not 'the best bits of childhood'. I have no memories of ever believing in Father Christmas – it was always just a jokey story in our house. Christmas was still always absolutely magical for me and I adored it. I still do as an adult.

I don't think this is that strange. My son, who is 6.5yrs, also questions and figures things out like this, as does my nephew who is almost 6. My daughter however (also 6.5) and my niece (8) are completely oblivious. My son is still completely obsessed with Christmas.

OP you aren't getting it at all. She isn't you her happy childhood memories will be different. You really are sounding ridiculously immature and selfish, your efforts to replicate your experience, she ain't you.

You have a clever child who will go far embrace it and stop the drama over a pack of lies. Honestly people have children with childhoods impacted by illness, SEN, grief this isn't something to be so upset about, head wobble now.

DD is the same, she decided that FC didn't exist aged 5 because it "doesn't make sense".

And bear in mind, we're a very, spangly-sparkly-magic-of-christmas family.

She is super smart, logical, observant.

She is NT, with exception of dyslexia. But even her dyslexia is a bit unusual, her reading age is well beyond her years, but she has severe phonological dyslexia.