Request from DH

I had a partner request naughty pics. I happily obliged. I googled nude pics from the internet, copied & sent. Stupid man didn't even know the boobs weren't mine until I pointed it out.

He's obviously thinking you should be sat there missing him and not knowing what to do with yourself. Make him feel wanted and let him feel part of your evening....

Send him a photo of your ironing pile or the kitchen floor that needs mopping.

It's not what couples "normally" do at all. Some couples may, but you shouldn't be made to feel badgered and pressured into doing something you don't want to do. Tell him to sod off.

I was in the bath once and he asked me to "send a pic" so I did. I am not sure that a picture of an empty bath really floated his boat. did this so many fucking times and he still didnt get it. Hence why I dumped him.

Urgh. Why do men only focus on "I am not getting enough sex" and not on "Why does she not want to have more sex". Never considering that if they gave more out of the bedroom, we might give more in it.

If they thought about the latter, they would get more sex!

I recently split up with my partner of 5 years (didnt live together by choice) as he was a sex pest. I have a serious chest injury (will be months before it heals, bit like a broken rib or nose, cant be set you just have to wait) and he said "Oh send me a picture" I asked why and basically it came down to him wanting a picture of my tits. When I went nuts he sulked for weeks. Normally I would have chased him but this time I didnt, went on for 6 weeks before I got bored and dumped him.

Totally OK not to be into it. The OP's partner shouldn't be pestering her about it if she doesn't want to do it.

But it's hardly 'weird' for two people who find each other sexually attractive to be turned on by pictures of each other naked. If someone's partner loves looking at them in bed, why would it be 'weird' to love looking at a picture of them too?

Obviously plenty of people are too self-conscious, or too worried that they pictures will fall into the wrong hands, or aren't comfortable being looked at, or don't find their partner very visually appealing, or don't have a sex drive high enough to want, er, relief when they're apart from their partner, or any number of other things. That's fine; nobody should be doing anything they're not into.

But 'weird' is a hell of a stretch to describe something that's basically just about two people each enjoying the fact that their partner finds them sexy enough to want to have a little reminder of what they're missing when they're away.

Basically, it's neither weird to want to send nudes, nor is it weird not to want to send them.

Spot on!

Don't send nude photos ever, it makes you extremely vulnerable.

Your problem isn't that you both work full time and have two young kids. The problem is is that you have an arsehole of a husband.

I wouldn’t be sending pictures for many reasons as pp have said - but also for the main reason that whilst you are juggling many plates a spinning, he seems to have no appreciation for this and can only think about his own wants!!

What an utterly depressing post.
He's away with a friend while you care for his children and he's still hassling you?

Utterly depressing.
What a selfish tosser.

Please don't send nudes or videos - someone I know has a less than charming husband who shared hers for money on porn sites (and she's still married to the twat who managed to convince her his laptop had been hacked and it wasn't him)

I’ve never sent a nude. Been with DH for nearly 20 years and we have never asked each other for pictures like this. It’s not “normal” in the sense that everyone does it except you, which is what your OH is implying. Some women will share them with a trusted partner, but most I know are too vain or too worried about the photos going astray.

I’m just imagining the reaction of my dh, if I were to send him a nudie pic of myself when he was away

This.
I would be angry with him whining on.The anser is NO!!!

You send them to him even when he is just at work ?

I’ve sent 1000s to my partner and he has to me over the years but we both enjoy them.

Never send any you aren’t comfortable with.

So he's away, and you've just put two little kids to bed, and you're supposed to be super keen to send him a picture of your tits?

Mmm sounds very unsexy to me.

He's got an imagination and a memory, and he's seen you before! Tell him he'll have to be resourceful and figure it out for himself!

My H would ask and also wanted to video us together. I always refused. Now I’m divorced I thank my lucky stars every day that I did!
Honestly it doesn’t sound like he has much respect for you.

So he’s child free in the evenings in a hotel room with no responsibility but to please himself…. while you’re holding the fort for the children and household!

Erm in what planet is he living on!!!

Nope and never will

Do you send nudes to him when the relationship is in a good place?

Dear bloody god. A partner moaning cos you don't send him nudes? That's a new fucking low.

Never sent one, never been asked, never will, no thanks.

@MoveToParis That really is an article women should read before even thinking of sending nudes photos.