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Husband doesnt wear his wedding ring

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NavyFox · 26/11/2024 19:41

Hi, I got married a year ago. My husband always takes his wedding ring off for football, taking a shower, washing the pots. However, he often doesn't put it back on. He can go for days without wearing it until I say something. Last week I said you're not wearing your ring and he put it on. Later that night it was off again and he said its coz he washed the pots.
I am very hurt by it and took my rings and his and put them away in a box. I told him I won't be wearing them and if people ask why I'm not wearing them, I will just tell them the truth. He doesn't care and hasn't asked me about them since. I raised it again the other day and he just looked at me. Again, he hasn't asked about them or offered to wear them. I am really fed up at the moment and to be honest have considered leaving. I've told him so many times it's an important thing to me but he doesn't seem to care.

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GettingThemFromHereToThere · 26/11/2024 19:45

This is very dramatic and makes me think you haven't taken your vows seriously. You can't really think you'll leave someone over this?!

What would you do if there was a real issue in your relationship?!

LoquaciousPineapple · 26/11/2024 19:44

It's absolutely mental that you'd consider leaving over whether he wears a ring or not.

It's reasonable to be mildly disappointed. The symbolism of a wedding ring is obviously very meaningful to most people. I can understand why you'd like him to wear it. But being so upset that he doesn't is not normal or acceptable at all.

I don't wear my wedding ring. I don't like sleeping in it and my fingers swell up quite easily when I'm warm. So I take it off and just forget to put it back on. I haven't worn it for weeks. It says absolutely nothing about my commitment to my husband and I'd think he was a lunatic if he threatened to leave me over it.

Spagettifunctional · 26/11/2024 19:42

My husband doesn’t really wear his. It doesn’t bother me (he does wear his ring if we are out for a night out or as a family eg Sunday church)

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