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Damaged wrist

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Flute56 · 26/11/2024 19:19

Two days ago I bashed my left hand on a swing door when I was opening it and it didn't hurt but a few hours later it was very painful and I couldn't lift anything with that hand so I saw the rest was broken so I went to get an X-ray and the x-ray said nothing broken but just badly sprained. My wrist and hand was putting a splint and I was told to just go home and see my GP if I needed further advice. 1 end of the wrist is extremely painful so I was convinced that there was a hairline fracture but the doctor said nothing showed up on the x-ray but it is still extremely painful when any pressure is put to it so I'm going to my GP to ask for a further examination and I would like to know what the x-ray said if there's any tendon damage or anything like that and the reason why it is more painful at one end of the wrist and the other and also this Hospital doctor said to me it will be better within seven to ten days and I don't think she should say that because how does she know people get better at their own rates. I spoke to a friend of mine he used to working a hospital and she said are you sure that doctor was an orthopaedic doctor because sometimes when their short of staff they get another Doctor Who isn't and orthopaedic doctor just to cover I said I want someone to explain what they saw on the x-ray not just fog me off with oh it's not a fracture because I don't know if I've got tendon damage or what she didn't say and I'm on very strong the painkillers which masks the pain which means I can use the hand but because I'm using the hand with the stronger painkillers once they wear off my wrist will be twice as painful because I've been using it and putting stress to whatever is wrong with it so I'm going to get a second opinion because this doctor at the hospital said to me what job do you do and I said I work with computers can I type oh yes she said you can type what I can't type no way it's going to put stress on the finger stress on the the wrists and everything that don't think she should have said that

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Flute56 · 29/11/2024 09:39

Iamanunsafebuilding · 29/11/2024 07:11

You are making a huge fuss over a sprained wrist! I showered and washed my own hair with a fractured elbow, I was careful and it took me longer but I managed. I couldn't lift anything heavier than a cup of tea for 8 weeks (fracture clinic instructions) so I had to find other ways of doing things! And as for travelling I flew 2 weeks after my accident, I travelled alone with a rucksack and yes it was inconvenient and a bit awkward but I managed. You do you though!

Bully 4 u

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Iwontlethtesungodownonme · 29/11/2024 09:09

I have broken both wrists on separate occasions and both times I was still mostly able to go about my daily life. Ok my hair didn’t look as good as usual but I washed and dried it myself and turned up to work.

Iamanunsafebuilding · 29/11/2024 07:11

You are making a huge fuss over a sprained wrist! I showered and washed my own hair with a fractured elbow, I was careful and it took me longer but I managed. I couldn't lift anything heavier than a cup of tea for 8 weeks (fracture clinic instructions) so I had to find other ways of doing things! And as for travelling I flew 2 weeks after my accident, I travelled alone with a rucksack and yes it was inconvenient and a bit awkward but I managed. You do you though!

Flute56 · 28/11/2024 23:59

Let me also say that I had a wash and blow dry at the hairdressers because with a sprained wrist I cannot wash and blow dry my own hair and I bet some people on here would have something negative to say about that and as far as my job is concerned when I told them that I wanted to work from the home because of the situation with traveling and carrying a laptop they were fine about it they did not turn round and see have you tried putting your lap in her backpack over your back so you've got two hands Jesus bully I'm glad I don't work for any of you loved because if I had any of you as my boss I would be looking for another job because I've had buses with your attitude in the past and I haven't stayed I've left and looked for another job because life is too short to work for a bully

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Flute56 · 28/11/2024 23:36

TwinklyAmberOrca · 28/11/2024 20:42

Do people really make such a big deal over a sprained wrist?!?!?

I mean FFS it's a wrist sprain. Put the laptop in a backpack and get on with your life!

After damaging the tendon in my ankle I didn't miss a single day of work and I'm a teacher and on my feet all day! I just hopped and kept my weight of it or walked slowly!

Show some resilience!

You say you damage the tendon in your ankle and you didn't miss a single day off work well bully for you I'm glad I don't know you in real life because I would not go anywhere near you you were just a nasty bully

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Flute56 · 28/11/2024 23:33

TwinklyAmberOrca · 28/11/2024 20:42

Do people really make such a big deal over a sprained wrist?!?!?

I mean FFS it's a wrist sprain. Put the laptop in a backpack and get on with your life!

After damaging the tendon in my ankle I didn't miss a single day of work and I'm a teacher and on my feet all day! I just hopped and kept my weight of it or walked slowly!

Show some resilience!

I think there are a lot of bullies on Mum's net

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Flute56 · 28/11/2024 23:31

JurassicPark4Eva · 28/11/2024 19:19

Or you could put the laptop in a cross body bag or rucksack and eliminate carrying it in the hand completely.

And you should take ibuprofen to assist with the swelling inside the injury.

Looks like you're trying to find any excuse not to go to work.

You have no right to accuse me of making excuses I can work from home for your information I have a colleague Who has been working from home for three months I have no idea what her situation is but she isn't coming into the office

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TwinklyAmberOrca · 28/11/2024 20:42

Do people really make such a big deal over a sprained wrist?!?!?

I mean FFS it's a wrist sprain. Put the laptop in a backpack and get on with your life!

After damaging the tendon in my ankle I didn't miss a single day of work and I'm a teacher and on my feet all day! I just hopped and kept my weight of it or walked slowly!

Show some resilience!

JurassicPark4Eva · 28/11/2024 19:19

Flute56 · 28/11/2024 18:48

When to see the GP and she said it will take another six days at least to recover and that's why I'm still in pain and I probably have some tendon damage and she said do not take the splint off and because I can move my fingers I told her I think I will be back working on Monday but I won't be traveling to the office because it's not ideal because I need two good hands one to carry my laptop and one to maneuver myself on and off public transport so I will be working from home until my wrist is fully better

Or you could put the laptop in a cross body bag or rucksack and eliminate carrying it in the hand completely.

And you should take ibuprofen to assist with the swelling inside the injury.

Looks like you're trying to find any excuse not to go to work.

Flute56 · 28/11/2024 18:49

I have not taking painkillers anymore because the wrist only really hurts when I put pressure on it or try and pick up something too heavy for the wrist which the doctor said I must not do but because I've got an injured wrist it's making me quite tired and so I'm spending a lot of time sleeping

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Flute56 · 28/11/2024 18:48

When to see the GP and she said it will take another six days at least to recover and that's why I'm still in pain and I probably have some tendon damage and she said do not take the splint off and because I can move my fingers I told her I think I will be back working on Monday but I won't be traveling to the office because it's not ideal because I need two good hands one to carry my laptop and one to maneuver myself on and off public transport so I will be working from home until my wrist is fully better

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SD1978 · 28/11/2024 03:21

There are several bones which will not show up initially actually- scaphoid and triquetral are 2 I can think of and need either a cone bone CT or a repeat X-ray approx a week later to show calcification. So I'd keep the brace on and re asses in a week with the GP.

Flute56 · 27/11/2024 23:24

SleepyRich · 27/11/2024 22:54

That just sounds so unbelievable now, I mean it's not even what a fit note is for, which is specifically for work. Essentially you're saying your GP wrote a 'not fit to take the bus when it's busy' note.

That your employer was happy for you to just not show upto work for 3 months so you didn't have to take a particular bus? That you couldn't just shift your working hours/reduced hours they didn't make any effort to help you return? I presuming you were in a surgical cage/must have been a pretty nasty fracture/multiple surgeries so not saying adaptations wouldn't have been needed, but presumably you weren't house bound for 3 months!

Taking a bus would have taken hours on the train I have a two hour journey

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Flute56 · 27/11/2024 23:21

I was doing online shopping because you try going around the supermarket with a trolley and crutches it's almost impossible and then if by some miraculous way you could get shopping by going to a supermarket how could you use crutches with your two hands and then carry a bag of shopping I don't live with anyone who can help me I live by myself

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Flute56 · 27/11/2024 23:19

SleepyRich · 27/11/2024 22:54

That just sounds so unbelievable now, I mean it's not even what a fit note is for, which is specifically for work. Essentially you're saying your GP wrote a 'not fit to take the bus when it's busy' note.

That your employer was happy for you to just not show upto work for 3 months so you didn't have to take a particular bus? That you couldn't just shift your working hours/reduced hours they didn't make any effort to help you return? I presuming you were in a surgical cage/must have been a pretty nasty fracture/multiple surgeries so not saying adaptations wouldn't have been needed, but presumably you weren't house bound for 3 months!

I was on crutches for three months

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SleepyRich · 27/11/2024 22:54

That just sounds so unbelievable now, I mean it's not even what a fit note is for, which is specifically for work. Essentially you're saying your GP wrote a 'not fit to take the bus when it's busy' note.

That your employer was happy for you to just not show upto work for 3 months so you didn't have to take a particular bus? That you couldn't just shift your working hours/reduced hours they didn't make any effort to help you return? I presuming you were in a surgical cage/must have been a pretty nasty fracture/multiple surgeries so not saying adaptations wouldn't have been needed, but presumably you weren't house bound for 3 months!

ilovesooty · 27/11/2024 22:32

Flute56 · 27/11/2024 22:19

You cannot say What Every employer would do based on what you would do they are all individuals with their own decisions and if they want to go along with a GP that says three months then that's up to them

Where did I say what every employer would do?

ilovesooty · 27/11/2024 22:31

Flute56 · 27/11/2024 22:17

You are not my employer and my employer was more than happy to go along with it they gave me three months off no questions asked and they said to me if your GP won't allow you to come back until three months time then that's fine

No I'm not your employer. That's rather stating the obvious. You will note that I said if I'd been your employer.

Flute56 · 27/11/2024 22:21

I did say to the GP I want to go back to work and she said no I won't allow you to I will sign you off until I think you are fit to travel without crutches and in those days we didn't work from home if we had worked from home then that would have been a different matter I would have been fully back to work because obviously I wouldn't have to travel on public transport

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Flute56 · 27/11/2024 22:19

You cannot say What Every employer would do based on what you would do they are all individuals with their own decisions and if they want to go along with a GP that says three months then that's up to them

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Flute56 · 27/11/2024 22:17

ilovesooty · 27/11/2024 21:46

If I'd been your employer I'd have been looking at adaptation of your working hours rather than your being absent for three months. That's the sort of thing that could have been covered in a fit note to encourage a return to work.

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You are not my employer and my employer was more than happy to go along with it they gave me three months off no questions asked and they said to me if your GP won't allow you to come back until three months time then that's fine

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iamme21 · 27/11/2024 21:49

When I broke my scaphoid all the pain was at the base of my thumb, not in my wrist

ilovesooty · 27/11/2024 21:46

Flute56 · 27/11/2024 21:18

When I broke my foot I had three months of work because my GP said it would be dangerous to travel on public transport using crutches in the rush hour and I said to her I have seen other people on crutches in the rush hour and she said maybe you have but I am the one that's dealing with you and if I say it's dangerous then I'm not going to allow you to travel in the rush hour so I will sign you off

If I'd been your employer I'd have been looking at adaptation of your working hours rather than your being absent for three months. That's the sort of thing that could have been covered in a fit note to encourage a return to work.

MiniCooperLover · 27/11/2024 21:42

You were off for 3 months with a broken foot? OP they've told you it isn't broken and you've got a note for a week. Don't panic, wait and see how you feel at the end of the week.

Theoscargoesto · 27/11/2024 21:28

I fell last week and landed with wrist bent. There is some doubt as to whether it is broken or sprained/damaged but THE TREATMENT IS THE SAME- splint, rest. Broken or not it will hurt for 4 weeks or so. Give it time.

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