I think what I am looking for here is just some sisterly words of encouragement. I’m trying to work up the courage to ask for some more grandparent support. Our child is 3 1/2. He starts school in September next year. Grandparents live two hours away.
Before we had him MIL made a big song and dance about how wonderful it was to have a grandchild and she can’t wait to spend loads of time with him. Sadly, it’s panned out that they just have/see him 3 to 4 times a year on the weekend. It’s not for want of asking. They’re always ‘busy’, but when we ask father-in-law, he says they have nothing on.
I’m not resentful of this, but in my mind it was going to be more like once every six weeks.
my husband and I have full-time jobs & are really tired and could do with some more support. But also, whilst he is in private nursery and we just take him in and out as I like. So they want to see him on a Friday one of us pick him up and drives two hours round-trip to meet them halfway and our son stays overnight. Mother-in-law said more than once to me on a FaceTime call that Family is more than anything to her, and she loves to spend more time with him.
How do say to my mother-in-law you should make hay while the sunshines because when he’s at school in September I can’t just be getting him in and out of nursery to see you guys.
They’re both fit & have plenty of money.
Has anyone ever achieved this request? Mother-in-law is quite nice but also been known to have a couple of drinks and get a bit prickly. If you try to say something in conversation it often gets twisted, but I’m not sue I’d be able to word a text without offending.
They are coming to us for Christmas , and I just kindly want to say if you’d like to spend more time with your grandson between now and September is a perfect opportunity, why don’t we get a plan in place?
Any ideas? I am cringing at the thought of even asking her. Why do I always feel like a failure when I need to ask for my help?