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Who was in the wrong - bakery or me?

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Doijb · 26/11/2024 11:56

I take my kids to a bakery after swimming. Most of the time they choose sausage rolls or similar. There is a tiny table with two chairs. I plop one of my kids on my lap and we eat our treat. I prefer this as otherwise the flakes would go everywhere.

Anyway, after going every week to this place for a year one of the staff members tells me we’re not really a sit down food place. I inquire about the chairs and she said it’s more for people who wait.

I just found this odd. My kids are brilliantly behaved and I make sure not loud. My oldest will wipe down the table with a serviette.

Who is being weird?

OP posts:
KnopkaPixie · 26/11/2024 19:28

Doijb · 26/11/2024 17:51

Of course I’m not going to sit there now. I will take my kids to the chain bakery down the street where you are allowed to eat in.

Hello OP, you probably had no idea how intellectually stimulating this thread would turn out to be but:

How big is this bakery?
Is it a small family business?
Can you in any way describe the set up, personalities involved etc?

I, personally, do not buy the argument that they are living in fear of the VAT. Mind you, I realise that I live in a different culture or cultures where the 'Family table' is a given in any business.

theilltemperedqueenofspacetime · 26/11/2024 19:26

dreamer24 · 26/11/2024 19:20

My 18 yo daughter works at Greggs and she has to ask customers whether they're eating in or taking out as there's a price difference. So I'd assume if you aren't asked that question, there's no option to eat in. That said, it's odd that there's a table at all if eating in isn't an option (chairs would suffice for waiting customers), and the fact that it's taken them a year to raise it with OP is frankly bizarre.

Greggs deliberately don't keep their bakes hot so they don't incur the 'pasty tax' for takeaway, only for eat-in.

Shops that serve hot bakes pay the tax irrespective of location of consumption.

dreamer24 · 26/11/2024 19:20

My 18 yo daughter works at Greggs and she has to ask customers whether they're eating in or taking out as there's a price difference. So I'd assume if you aren't asked that question, there's no option to eat in. That said, it's odd that there's a table at all if eating in isn't an option (chairs would suffice for waiting customers), and the fact that it's taken them a year to raise it with OP is frankly bizarre.

SpiggingBelgium · 26/11/2024 19:17

2024riot · 26/11/2024 19:04

Why are you taking VAT laws so
Personally?

Eh? How is she taking VAT laws personally?

OP wants somewhere she and her kids can eat in rather than getting something to take out. So she’s going somewhere else where it’s not an issue. She’s not trying to organise a boycott 🙄

taxguru · 26/11/2024 19:17

Maverickess · 26/11/2024 16:37

Objection!

We're working on the assumption there that the cafe staff knew that a customer sitting in wasn't allowed. Before I climbed the ladder to the dizzy heights of management and became enlightened on such matters as VAT, a customer sitting at a table we've provided, to eat something we've sold to them, wouldn't have been an issue to me in the slightest, because alongside OP I also wouldn't know.
And if management/owners are not around at the times this happens, then they'd have no reason to believe that it was happening. Strikes me as either a comment has been passed to enlighten the staff/management/owners and a conversation ensued or there's been a complaint about it happening and an investigation into the cafe serving food for eat in and not sticking to the rules on that.

But of course it cannot ever be as simple as that on MN, someone's just got to have an agenda to make other people's lives an absolute misery for absolutely no reason whatsoever.

Where it applies, the cafe's till will be programmed with "eat in" and "eat out" buttons which will work out the VAT automatically. No need for counter staff to know nor understand the VAT laws at all. They just press one or the other button and the VAT numbers are all automatically calculated in the background and "pinged" through to populate the accounts and VAT return in turn.

Same happens with the likes of convenience stores - those using bar codes the till will be pre-programmed with the different VAT rates for different categories of sale. Those without bar codes, the till will have different buttons for different categories of sale, so, say a newspaper will be entered by manually entering the price and then pressing the "news" button, whereas a Mars bar will be manually entered by entering the price and then the "confectionary" button, a pack of logs will be entered by entering the price and then the "fuel" button, etc.

No need at all for the counter staff to know as it's all pre-programmed to work it out in the background. Staff only need to know to press the right button which is pretty simple/basic training.

Oodiks · 26/11/2024 19:15

OolongTeaDrinker · 26/11/2024 18:48

I don't think it's that odd, the tills are likely manned by minimum waged staff who may not know about VAT laws, perhaps one day the owner happened to be in there when the OP was sitting down and reminded the staff of the rules.

An entire year??

Oodiks · 26/11/2024 19:15

2024riot · 26/11/2024 19:04

Why are you taking VAT laws so
Personally?

OP just wants to be able to sit and eat some bakery goods with her kids, the bakery she's been frequenting won't allow that, so she's going somewhere else. How is that taking VAT laws so personally?

2024riot · 26/11/2024 19:04

Doijb · 26/11/2024 17:51

Of course I’m not going to sit there now. I will take my kids to the chain bakery down the street where you are allowed to eat in.

Why are you taking VAT laws so
Personally?

OolongTeaDrinker · 26/11/2024 18:48

Oodiks · 26/11/2024 15:59

I do think it a little odd that they took an entire year to inform you that the table and chairs were for waiting, not eating at.

I don't think it's that odd, the tills are likely manned by minimum waged staff who may not know about VAT laws, perhaps one day the owner happened to be in there when the OP was sitting down and reminded the staff of the rules.

SpiggingBelgium · 26/11/2024 18:35

Nodlikeyouwerelistening · 26/11/2024 17:47

What on earth do you mean? She didn’t know she shouldn’t sit there so she sat there. Now she knows she shouldn’t sit there, so she shouldn’t sit there anymore. If she continues to sit there she’s KNOWINGLY doing something she is aware she shouldn’t be doing.

But she hasn’t suggested she’s going to do this!! And no one else has suggested she do it!!!

BobbyBiscuits · 26/11/2024 18:19

@theilltemperedqueenofspacetime yeah, there's some Hella regulatory stuff going on. I think takeaway business is charged differently by the council than sit down etc? Kind of like an off license can't have you sit and drink there.

ginasevern · 26/11/2024 18:11

Yes, it is a bit odd. All of the bakeries I've ever been to with tables and chairs, or sometimes stools at a counter in the window, are for customers to sit and eat their purchase. Tables and chairs in a place selling food is an indication that you are welcome to sit and eat it, although the usual expectation is that you'll be fairly quick doing so. We have 4 independent bakeries in my vicinity, all with a few tables and chairs in the corner and they are always used by customers to eat their purchases. How many customers really have to sit down at a table to wait their turn to buy a loaf of bread or sausage roll? How long does it take! You don't have tables and chairs in other shops for disabled or pregnant customers (not normally anyway), so tables and chairs in a food shop only suggests one thing.

Doijb · 26/11/2024 17:51

Of course I’m not going to sit there now. I will take my kids to the chain bakery down the street where you are allowed to eat in.

OP posts:
Nodlikeyouwerelistening · 26/11/2024 17:47

SpiggingBelgium · 26/11/2024 17:36

How’s that any different?

What on earth do you mean? She didn’t know she shouldn’t sit there so she sat there. Now she knows she shouldn’t sit there, so she shouldn’t sit there anymore. If she continues to sit there she’s KNOWINGLY doing something she is aware she shouldn’t be doing.

Wonderi · 26/11/2024 17:43

BoogieBoogieWoogie · 26/11/2024 16:51

No it’s this part of your post I was referring to
“OP sounds like she was already familiar with the rules anyway, considering she admitted she would move if a disabled person was waiting.”

She was being polite

So if you were sat at a restaurant eating a meal and a disabled person walked in to pick up a takeaway.

You would stop eating and let them sit down whilst they were waiting?

And then what sit back down and carry on eating after they had gone?

There’s being polite but that’s pretty extreme.

40YearOldDad · 26/11/2024 17:43

LTB - Leave the Bakery @😂

SpiggingBelgium · 26/11/2024 17:36

Nodlikeyouwerelistening · 26/11/2024 17:35

Oh dear heavens! I also didn’t I say that! I’m saying she’s been told so she shouldn’t do it because she doesn’t have ignorance on her side anymore where she did this time.

How’s that any different?

maudelovesharold · 26/11/2024 17:36

Cerealkiller4U · 26/11/2024 17:31

Well the bakery said they were for people waiting. 🤷‍♀️

It’s the table which is the controversial piece of furniture here, though. Elderly/disabled people might need to sit down, granted, but they don’t need a table. A table and chairs implies sitting down to eat.

Nodlikeyouwerelistening · 26/11/2024 17:35

SpiggingBelgium · 26/11/2024 17:19

But… she hasn’t said she’s going to “plead ignorance”. You’re just making things up.

Oh dear heavens! I also didn’t I say that! I’m saying she’s been told so she shouldn’t do it because she doesn’t have ignorance on her side anymore where she did this time.

PeloMom · 26/11/2024 17:34

Until now- no one was weird as you didn’t know. Now you know so you have to decide- are you ok going and grabbing the food to go or go elsewhere.

sharpclawedkitten · 26/11/2024 17:33

Why do they need a waiting area for sausage rolls anyway.

It's not a fish and chip bar or standard takeaway where you wait a while. Surely you go in, ask for your sausage roll, pay, walk away sit down and eat.

If they need a waiting area they must be superslow and therefore have other problems...

Cerealkiller4U · 26/11/2024 17:31

EauNeu · 26/11/2024 13:51

What are the seats for then?

Well the bakery said they were for people waiting. 🤷‍♀️

NewName24 · 26/11/2024 17:31

LilacLilyBird · 26/11/2024 12:03

I'd be mortified that I'd never bothered to ask if it's ok to sit at the table all this time

"mortified" Hmm

The presence of a table and chairs does imply it is there for customers to be able to sit at them.

theilltemperedqueenofspacetime · 26/11/2024 17:24

EauNeu · 26/11/2024 17:19

I know what I use tables for. But I admit I don't know your life, perhaps when you see your kitchen table you instinctually stand

It's for the staff to put their ashtray and scotch glasses on during their breaks.

Or it hinges upwards to reveal a rocket launcher.

Nodlikeyouwerelistening · 26/11/2024 17:24

Butterworths · 26/11/2024 17:16

You said she shouldn't sit on a (non-priority) chair in case a disabled person needed it but didn't want to/ couldn't ask.

I asked if this was your own approach - i.e. did you never sit down in a public space in case a disabled person needed it but didn't want to/ couldn't ask.

You then said you would only not sit in case it was needed if it was a priority seat. If you know that the seat we are talking about is not a priority seat then what was the relevance in you raising it!

Nope. Someone said maybe it’s needed for people waiting who may have a disability. OP said she would have moved if someone was disabled. I said that not all disabilities are visible.

I said that now she knows she isn’t to sit there then she shouldn’t sit there. It’s that simple. She’s been told not to sit there- for whatever reason that is (I’m not saying it IS a priority seat)- but it is NOT for the OP and her kids to sit at. So she needs to not sit there.

You’ve completely missed my point. As for the priority seating comment of yours, on buses, trains, with toilets etc. no, I would not sit in these seats because I know that not all disabilities are visible and others needs may trump my own.

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