I'm absolutely mortified

Why did you feel the need to tell anyone this? What made you think ‘I must post this on mumsnet!’

Oh well - you won't do it again. Lesson learnt.

Pretty mean to film anyone with a view to mocking them, special needs or not.
You're not a horrible person but imho you did behave horribly.

@h733 I do love a good knock knock joke. I've never felt the urge to film a complete stranger and share the video with family or friends with the sole purpose to mock them, I guess I'm just way too sanctimonious to do something so childish and shitty.

If I grabbed a microphone and started singing on my local high street then I would have to anticipate that people would make comments to each other about the standard of my performance. I would have imposed myself onto them in a public setting so I would be fair game to some extent.

Obviously it wouldn't be nice for people to start shouting mean things or posting clips on the internet because that would be humiliating. A comment or video shared privately is totally different though because I would have no idea about what had been said and it wouldn't be a source of embarrassment or humiliation for me.

Oh I'm getting the gist of the new movement being pushed by the woke left now.

Stealth brag with about something wicked you have done, through self-flagellation and self-chastisement and a performance of enlightenment, a statement of how much more ‘aware’ you are than people to the right of you.

Await people calling you out and wait for the other saviours of your new found faith to call them out sanctimonious!

The fact that some posters are being called sanctimonious for not agreeing with what the OP was trying to do in the first place, says it all really. Oh well.

Disability or not, filming strangers in public for the express purpose of making fun of them is fairly obviously shitty behaviour.

Social media has normalised this kind of thing but take a step back and consider how genuinely cruel and dehumanising it is to treat people this way. It’s good you’ve had a realisation that it’s poor behaviour but please recognise that it’s a horrible thing to do whether someone has a visible disability or not.

Whilst it’s probably not something I’d have done either way, I’m amazed (but not surprised in the slightest) by the sanctimonious responses on here.

He would have been completely unaware, so basically didn't affect him in anyway at all.

I hope everyone on here is whiter than white and basically only ever laugh at bland Knock Knock jokes

@Bumpitybumper aaahhhh, right, gotcha, so because she didn't plan on mocking him to his face, it's totally OK to film him and make fun of him behind his back, right'o

People on Mumsnet are so sanctimonious!

Because they call out arsehole behaviour? Or because people who do shitty things like to assume that everyone does shitty things and people who say they don’t are just lying to look superior?

Maybe you've had a lightbulb moment and realised its not kind to take the piss out of people?

Special needs or not, you were nasty to video this guy just to jeer at his poor singing. You are right to be mortified.

Unfortunately, this happens all the time now - people filming others to have a laugh and send on a video to their friends of some random person who was videoed unawares.

People on Mumsnet are so sanctimonious!

OP really hasn't done anything wrong. The singing was dreadful so she was going to send the video to her mum for a laugh. She didn't plan to upload it on the internet or mock him to his face. If the man hadn't had disabilities then he would have been none the wiser and to be honest, if you put yourself out there to perform in public then you have to expect that people will comment on your performance.

OP realises that the man has disabilities so doesn't send the video. Of course this changes things in the same way that we all sit through children's questionable performances each year and clap politely whereas nobody would humour adults in the same way. Allowances are made for the vulnerable and that's how it should be! That doesn't mean that every Tom, Dick and Harry should be tolerated if they are basically pumping out noise pollution through a microphone in a public place. I say this as someone that enjoys singing, has no talent and understands that this would be unpleasant for other people if I were to do this.

Exactly.

Hardly the best thing to do, but hardly the worst

Taking videos of strangers so you can send them to your friends and laugh at them together isn’t ok. It’s the kind of thing we tell children not to do and expect adults to know not to do.

Does not sound like the OP had anything better to do either than film someone trying to make a bit of money, so she could have a laugh at him. How sad.

I would have just thought "oops" and deleted it, no further thought given.

It's not like you posted it on social media laughing at the chap.

Just forget about it. Hardly worth being "mortified"!

Woman takes a quick video to share with her mother to bemoan the lack of decent attractions in a lighthearted way.

Posts to mumsnet and makes a complete song and dance about it.

Gets told she's mean and nasty by spiteful, over the top people who haven't got anything better to do.

Well you should be mortified. And what would you feel like if you had postes and the person had an invisible disability.

Your approach was from a place of meanness and nastiness, that doesn't exactly show you as a decent person. I would suggest you throw the lens on yourself it sounds like you could do with a bit of reflection.

I hope everyone clapped

I am absolutely mortified but genuinely didn't know he had a disability

God I hate this shit, why does that matter. You filmed someone to take the piss out of them. Disability or otherwise, you were v unpleasant

OP, I'm genuinely not sure why you would start a thread like this? Why on earth do you think a bunch of strangers on the internet would give you the reassurance you want? If you want to be told you are not a terrible person, speak to your mum!

Have to agree OP. Taking a video to take the piss isn’t exactly a nice thing to do is it? But why would it have been OK for you if there were no additional needs but it was mortifying as they did?