To be annoyed at my neighbour?

Too volatile a household to risk approaching any of you probably.
That said, if you take on board the complaint and stop throwing darts at your walls then there's no reason to think you'll be scrutinised going forwards unless you're being anti social again.

In an ideal world, yes, one should be straightforward. However she was probably nervous of you, she doesn't know you, you are just chavvy new neighbours to her who play darts in the garden and have noisy kids. I'm not sure I would have wanted to confront you. There have been endless threads on Mumsnet in which people have said they are scared and/or intimidated by neighbours. Don't forget, she is a single person with a daughter, she doesn't have a partner to back her up.

I doubt you'll lose your home as long as you have assured the landlord you'll keep quieter from now on, and won't knock any more holes without permission, as long as you pay your rent.

Why not apologise to your neighbour, invite her round for a meal or something so she can be reassured you are not as bad as you sound.

When you say " Like many we argue most days, kids play loudly, and we probably haven't been as aware of noise as we should have been", honestly do you mean that she's never talked to you about the noise before, and it's never crossed your mind that you maybe make a bit too much noise? Or do you mean she has asked you to be quieter, but in your mind your kids are just being kids and the noise isn't that bad so you've just ignored her?

If you mean the first one, then you VERY MUCH need to be aware of how much noise you are making, and tone it down, and obviously you need to place the dart board elsewhere, but yes she should have come to you before seeing the landlord. If you mean the second one, then you are being deliberately disrespectful of her, and going to the landlord was her only option. If you do get evicted - well maybe it will teach you to be less selfish.

I mean yeah. Everything will be heightened now. She could have spoken with you but she didn’t. 🤷‍♀️

I'm trying to remember the last argument in this house. It's not normal to argue so frequently. The dart board on the wall in a rented house sounds pretty rough and noisy, to be fair. I wouldn't contact you directly either; I would potentially be afraid of an argument. It sounds like they are dealing with it as peacefully as they can.

I'd be tempted to send a card through the door, apologising for any noise; no hard feelings.

Nor do we.

A dart board and constant “duff duff duff” would be extremely annoying. It’s just inconsiderate to nail one to an adjoining wall.

However if you’re tenants who pay on time and look after the house then he’d be a fool to kick you out (and would find it difficult anyway) over a dispute which can be easily overcome.

I love that you’re shouting, arguing, playing darts etc and you’re worried you might lose your home, yet it’s all somehow your neighbours fault 🤣.

Be a less shit neighbour, perhaps?

Great response OP. You’ve recognised that maybe your neighbour was not being unreasonable.

but I hope your DH isn’t too much of an issue. Arguing every day is not normal at all. Hope things improve - maybe you’ll have a friend in your neighbour??

Good luck coming up with some resolution, OP. Sounds like the noise complaint is the least of it. Not easy to respond to a MN pile-on, taking it on the chin.

This. ^ No emotional intelligence or common sense at all. Completely clueless. I feel sorry for the OP's neighbour! And as many posters have said, 'arguing every day' is not normal at all.

That said, I would not wish for you to lose your home @PeachHog

You need to sort out your attitude - and your family though. If you DON'T, then you will lose your tenancy! Apologise to your neighbour, and your landlord, and start behaving better!

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Ment to say noisy

I think this is the single mum neighbour writing as if she’s the nosey one with a dart board

This!

Semi detached house and you chose to install a dartboard on a party wall. And it didn’t occur to you that literal thuds into the wall would be audible next door? Or to ask the landlord who is likely to sustain damage to his property as a result? Honestly some people have no clue.

You too. Many would.

If you’re a screaming shouting arguing family, I’m not surprised they went straight to the landlord. They were probably nervous of you!
Go round and apologise would be my advice.

And FYI - we have a couple of rentals, the neighbours all have our contact details for situations such as this.

Bully for you. Many wouldn't.

I would.

however he didn’t realise it would be heard by next door until we could hear her turn the music up whenever he was throwing darts.

You clearly aren't aware of any noise you make so I'd imagine your neighbour didn't want to stand at your doorstep wasting her time trying to explain about noise to two grow adults that think arguing is the norm.

You didn't think anything of it, that the two could be connected, especially as by the sound of it it wasn't a regular occurance from them and only happened so they could try to block out the thudding of your making.

You just continued to use the dartboard whenever it suited you.

@PeachHog - as @MissUltraViolet said:

”Be more respectful, apologise to her. Make sure she knows that it is absolutely fine for her to approach you in the future with any other problems.’

hopefully you can then be on good terms and sort this kind of thing out easily

But why??
lonely?
attention seeking?
just enjoys being a nuisance?

I'm extremely happy you're not my neighbor, OP

Of course it's a wind up. Plop and run after dropping an OP with so many froth triggers. What else could it be?

It's either a reverse or a wind up. Nobody could be that stupid.