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Narcissistic personality disorder

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mummabearxoo · 26/11/2024 09:49

How does one attempt to help someone with Narcissistic personality disorder..

I've watched my husband grow from a boy to a man, once apon a time he was normal and with adulthood he just got worse and worse. This is a mentally deluded man who truly believes he is the gift of good, he sees himself as an extremely important person who no one can live without, he's super hot headed and you have to watch your words when in conversation with him because somehow he turns every comment into a negative. He believes there's no one out there quite like him and everyone should be lucky to have him, however he also has good traits he is very caring and protective to the people he loves, he is a great dad and his ways never actually show around the children. He's has just lost the last good friend he has because of the bullshit he spews, he cannot be told, he is always right, he doesn't think there is anything wrong with him. I believe he is mentally unwell. You may think I'm a fool for wanting to help but I'm the only person this man has left. Is it a lost cause, is there a way to help?

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mummabearxoo · 26/11/2024 09:53

My children don't see him this way, when the kids are around it's almost like a show, it's normal.. they are 6 and 3

Normal is not "a show".

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When he was around 19-20 he had regular appointments with doctors/ psychiatrist due to childhood trauma and unhealthy behaviours, it when on for a while he was diagnosed as BPD and NPD. Around 21he stopped going things was ok for a few years he was on antidepressants and then he started going to the gym is ego grew and things went downhill slowly and this leads us to now

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Plastictrees · 26/11/2024 10:09

Intensive psychotherapy! Ideally schema therapy. And even then there needs to be a level of insight and willingness to engage.

romdowa · 26/11/2024 10:08

You can't, they don't want help because they don't see anything wrong with themselves. He'll only be kind when you are useful and going along with his wants but once you start to go against him and are no longer a yes man. Then he'll turn on you. The charming , caring person is a mask. He couldn't care less about you or anyone.

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mummabearxoo · 26/11/2024 10:06

Thatdarncat44 · 26/11/2024 10:04

You both need therapy.

You can’t just pseudo diagnose NPD.

If you are not happy. Leave!

This is actually diagnosed but in the early stages, it has gotten much worse but he doesn't think so

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mummabearxoo · 26/11/2024 10:05

Isitmeyourecookingfor · 26/11/2024 10:01

"he is very caring and protective to the people he loves"

Does this include you?

Yes me included he would not let a soul disrespect or hurt me other than himself of course with his words.

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Thatdarncat44 · 26/11/2024 10:04

You both need therapy.

You can’t just pseudo diagnose NPD.

If you are not happy. Leave!

Isitmeyourecookingfor · 26/11/2024 10:01

"he is very caring and protective to the people he loves"

Does this include you?

Isitmeyourecookingfor · 26/11/2024 09:59

In my personal experience you leave. And then you spend time to rebuild your broken self esteem and start to feel well again. And after that you enjoy your life again. Sorry, OP, but in my experience they do not change. I went to therapy to learn how to communicate better with my ex, and when I said some of the things out of loud it made me realise I was in an abusive relationship. Good luck x

mummabearxoo · 26/11/2024 09:59

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Our relationship is rocky to say the least, I've adjusted to his behaviours and learnt to not poke the bear. But of course I do not want to live my life walking on eggshells.. our kids see us happy and fun, behind that there's a lot of unsolved problems and issues obviously

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My children don't see him this way, when the kids are around it's almost like a show, it's normal.. they are 6 and 3

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