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Would you have had another child?

137 replies

Annabella92 · 26/11/2024 09:24

Or a couple more children if your circumstances were different?

What would you need in your life to have had more children?

For me, simply more money. Bigger house. I would have liked at least one more. Its OK, but it would have been nice.

OP posts:
LilacLilyBird · 26/11/2024 09:50

I stuck at 2 but that's because I had a boy then a girl

I'd have gone for 3 if I'd had 2 girls or 2 boys

tulipsunday · 26/11/2024 09:49

No I have two. Even if I had a bigger house and more money I wouldn't want more. I feel two is right for us

DebtinVegas · 26/11/2024 09:48

I have one. I would have loved more but I came off medication to tcc, during pg and 2 years of bf. It was extremely difficult. I’d hoped I could manage to have another while I was off it and tried for a short while but I just had to go back on it. I couldn’t cope with coming off it again plus now I have dd to think of and I’m getting too old now anyway so that’s that really.

Icantcarryher · 26/11/2024 09:47

Flowers @weareallcats and @barbarahunter

i hope you are both in better places now ❤️

weareallcats · 26/11/2024 09:46

I have 3. I did fall (intentionally) pregnant with a 4th, but had a miscarriage. I lost my confidence and we didn’t try again - I’ll always be a bit sad about the miscarriage (it’s actually around 10 years since the due date of that pregnancy now), but I think things turned out for the best. So no, I wouldn’t choose to have more, but I also wouldn’t send one back - I like having 3!

barbarahunter · 26/11/2024 09:46

I only wanted 2 really, but I got more. I love them all of course but I only wanted 2. People may ask why did you have more, but the truth is that my DH at the time was a rapey sex pest.

Silenus · 26/11/2024 09:44

No, I have one. I would have one again. Finances weren’t an issue.

Icantcarryher · 26/11/2024 09:43

I have two and a boy and a girl .

I adore them and I love / have loved the baby groups, the pram walks and the cuddles.

I find the constant neediness so draining and I’m stressed all the time ; I hate the broken nights and the mess and clutter and whinging and crying. The not being able to live a ‘normal’ existence - I mean I am normal but when I hear people chatting about strictly or Netflix and I can’t watch it I realise I’m so isolated in some ways.

But I do long for another. It won’t happen but I feel sad I won’t have another baby.

Printedword · 26/11/2024 09:42

I have one, we got lucky and I conceived in my early 40s. I felt I was too old to try again and we also just felt happy to just have one. I suspect if I had conceived younger, we would have felt the same

WatchOutForBabyHaggis · 26/11/2024 09:39

We have 3. Had we had unlimited money, enough to buy a 5 bed etc we'd have probably had 4.

So yeah, just purely money in our case. And time technically, but money buys time too if you can work P/T, outsource everything etc.

CharlotteRumpling · 26/11/2024 09:37

No. Not for all the money in the world. I have 2.

steppemum · 26/11/2024 09:36

I have 3.
I would not have had more even in different circumstances

In fact I might have stuck at 2.

(not because of my youngest, just because....simpler)