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DH and his jeans..

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NavyOrca · 26/11/2024 03:53

I’ve been having an ongoing issue with DH for many years regarding how often he does - or more accurately, doesn’t - change his jeans.

The rest of his personal hygiene is absolutely fine.. showers thoroughly once a day, changes top / underwear / socks daily, shaves, brushes teeth twice a day, uses deodorant.

But his jeans. Oh god. He changes them usually once a week / 10 days. He’ll wear the same pair for work (desk job from home), walking dog (road walks, not muddy ones), and going to shops etc.

I think this is vile. I half-joked about this with my MIL one time, and her response to me was “well, he’s just like his dad”. This terrifies me as my FIL’s personal hygiene is atrocious and I couldn’t bear being with somebody like this. DH swears he will never get as bad as this.

He has plenty of pairs, and can offer no explanation as to why he doesn’t change them more frequently.

We argued about this issue last night, which makes me sad, as we rarely argue. He’s a wonderful husband and my best friend.. but he doesn’t see the issue with changing his jeans as infrequently as this!

Which one of us is BU here?!

OP posts:
BeMintBee · 26/11/2024 09:38

Yup another one here who wears and washes jeans after a week (sometimes more)

Rarely wash knit wear either. I do have a clothes steamer though and i’ll give them a refresh with that

Losingthetimber · 26/11/2024 09:37

On this he’s right and you’re wrong, you need to apologise I’m afraid.

JohnTheRevelator · 26/11/2024 09:35

I thought you were going to say he changed his jeans only once a year! A friend of mine told me that he was actually advised by 'someone who knew about these things' that the less you washed jeans,the better. 🤢 I think changing them every 7 - 10 days is fine as long as they going on a clean body every day.

Newdaynewstarts · 26/11/2024 09:33

DustyLee123 · 26/11/2024 06:47

Why don’t you just put them in the wash and put another pair out if it bothers you that much.

Because he is not a child.
jeez leave him alone. No wonder the planet is in danger. If it’s not dirty, why wash it.

Schoolchoicesucks · 26/11/2024 09:29

How frequently do you think he should wash them OP?

If they are dirty or smelly then they need washing more frequently. I probably wash jeans after 4 or 5 wears, more if they get dirty.

RosesAndHellebores · 26/11/2024 07:37

I think that's fine, providing they don't smell/aren't stained. I'd probably have 2/3 pairs on the go and air them between wears.

ZenNudist · 26/11/2024 07:30

Agree they don't need that much washing

DappledThings · 26/11/2024 07:30

YABU. He sounds fine and this is definitely your issue to deal with.

Ginmonkeyagain · 26/11/2024 07:28

YABU, you are not supposed to wash jeans that often, all the good quality jeans makers recommend at least six months without washing them.

He should make sure he spot cleans them, airs them regularly and it they pick up smells like cooking smells etc.. use a fabric freshener.

twentysevendresses · 26/11/2024 07:25

DustyLee123 · 26/11/2024 06:47

Why don’t you just put them in the wash and put another pair out if it bothers you that much.

No...don't do this!!! 🤦‍♀️

twentysevendresses · 26/11/2024 07:23

You're being weird OP!

How often do you wash your jeans? (Or how many times do you wear them before you put them in the wash?)

I can honestly say that mine can go for many weeks of wear before I even think of putting them in the wash! I might just think to myself, "oh these haven't been washed in a while!" 😂

Jeans can go for a long old time...that's what makes them so great 🙌🏼👌🏻

pizzaHeart · 26/11/2024 07:07

I’m a bit confused. Do you want him to wear something different for inside and outside or just wash jeans more often ? Because in my view they are two different issues. A week doesn’t sound too long to wear the same jeans but wearing the same clothes inside and outside is gross imo (putting my tin hat on but still sticking to this view)

BetteDavisChin · 26/11/2024 07:03

I'd be glad if I were you. Jeans are a bulky item in the washing load and take longer to dry than other items, whether in the tumble dryer or on the washing line.

It's ecologically more sound to wear them more times before laundering. Ten times is fine.

greengreyblue · 26/11/2024 06:54

Just to add that I have no idea how many days DH wears his jeans and I do the washing. He puts them in the washing basket when he wants them washed.

K0OLA1D · 26/11/2024 06:51

DustyLee123 · 26/11/2024 06:47

Why don’t you just put them in the wash and put another pair out if it bothers you that much.

I'm assuming with the arguing that he doesn't want her to.

My dp doesn't want me to wash his jeans. I ask, he says no, no argument.

greengreyblue · 26/11/2024 06:51

We do the same op .Jeans aren’t supposed to be washed too often .If you’re cleaned daily then your jeans should be fairly clean. Do you think he should wash every item of clothing after wearing? Only underwear and socks need that.
YABU

DustyLee123 · 26/11/2024 06:47

Why don’t you just put them in the wash and put another pair out if it bothers you that much.

InTheRainOnATrain · 26/11/2024 06:46

Sorry but he’s right and is following the suggested care instructions for denim! It’d only be gross if they’re visibly stained and/or he goes commando!

ForGreyKoala · 26/11/2024 06:40

YABU. Jeans are not supposed to be washed often. We have messages on TV here about washing clothes less, and from memory jeans are recommended to be washed after around 10 wears.

moose62 · 26/11/2024 06:33

If he smells, just put the jeans in the machine at night so he has to wear another pair. If they don't smell, leave him to it. I don't wash my family's jeans every day...more like every 4 or 5.

TheScoop · 26/11/2024 06:30

YABU. All this unnecessary washing. No wonder the planet is fucked.

eurochick · 26/11/2024 06:24

That sounds fine to me. I probably wear mine at least seven times between washes, albeit not on consecutive days.

K0OLA1D · 26/11/2024 06:22

Sorry you are being unreasonable.

Keepmedicationoutofthereachofchildren · 26/11/2024 06:22

If he showers everyday with clean underwear then all sounds fine to me.

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