My husband regularly leaves the light on in his office all night long and I usually see it when I get up to go to the toilet in the middle of the night. I turn it off and tell him he’s done it when up in the morning. It really pisses me off, but he often leaves other lights on for hours too…like the bathroom light in the day. So I tell him that too (and turn it off when I see it on). I also get annoyed about the bathroom light because it shines directly into our neighbours little boys bedroom window although he does have what looks like blackout blinds on his window. Some light might get in…I don’t know but I think it makes us look like inconsiderate twats if it’s left on until the early hours.
Tonight, I woke up and could feel that he was awake….he moved around and rolled over etc. Anyway after a minute or so I get up to go to the loo, see the light it is on, turn it off and tell him when I get back into bed that he left it on. He says “oh no did I?! Sorry”. After another 5 mins or so he says “Did you know I was awake when you told me that”. I said yes you were moving around. He responds with “bit of a fucking gamble. It’s only a fucking light”. He’s gone off downstairs in a huff. Now I’m lying here unable to sleep.
i know I should have waited til morning but it happens at least once a week, sometimes more and I thought he was awake (which he was). The irony is he did exactly the same to me….ie just blurted something out when I could have dozed off after first telling him about the light. Seems silly over a light but it’s clearly about me finding his actions inconsiderate (of course he’s not doing it on purpose though) and him thinking I’m nagging I guess.
was I being really unreasonable to raise it as soon as I got back to bed??