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How interested were your in laws in your pregnancy?

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Strawberrycream123 · 25/11/2024 20:27

Mine haven’t asked how I am, sent congratulations, haven’t shown one iota of interest.

They have never really liked me to be honest, I’ve always been the outsider. I did think they might be a little interested in the upcoming birth of another family member however!

AIBU to expect interest? Or is interest in the pregnancy completely uncorrelated to interest in the baby when they’ve arrived?

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Strawberrycream123 · 25/11/2024 20:44

Atishooo · 25/11/2024 20:32

Mine have never shown an interest in me. I’ve only recently realised I don’t think they’ve ever asked anything about me. I am there to facilitate DH (MIL told me this). I don’t see them now, they can fuck off.

Edited

Oh my god, exact same! My SIL, I was actually taken aback the one time she asked me a question. It was so unexpected it really caught me off guard!

It’s weird with mine. They show ZERO interest in me, exclude me, and try and make events quite uncomfortable for me at times I feel. But then if I ever miss an event, they get all offended. Sorry, why?! Not like you would have registered my presence there anyway!

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TMess · 25/11/2024 20:36

Zero. Even the one who nearly died. They have 30+ gc and I’m not married to a favorite child so mine don’t make the cut. 🙄

Brbreeze · 25/11/2024 20:33

Mine said congratulations when we told them in person, but beyond that didn’t ask anything about it. They aren’t that type of people and would feel it was asking personal questions, I think.
LO is now 3 and they are brilliant grandparents. They help us out with regular childcare and are planning to do the same for our second.

Atishooo · 25/11/2024 20:32

Mine have never shown an interest in me. I’ve only recently realised I don’t think they’ve ever asked anything about me. I am there to facilitate DH (MIL told me this). I don’t see them now, they can fuck off.

U53rName · 25/11/2024 20:31

Same.

They’re sort of interested in DC, but it’s glaringly obvious that their preferred GCs are SIL’s.