Shoes on around the house

I’m in the shoes on camp - partly a sensory issue, and partly because of inattentive adhd I’d end up outside in slippers anyway.

My dc are shoes off since lockdown when they went feral. Sensory reasons more tgan anything.

I will take my shoes off if it’s pointed out - it just wouldn't occur to me though. And it feels very awkward. The worst thing is when people insist on loaning slippers - shoe sharing is grim but they were grossed out by potential sock and feet germs (I never went back)

It didn’t bother me if people wanted to keep shoes on, I did. However I now have pale carpets so prefer shoes off, or at least make sure they are clean

never had anyone complain about taking shoes off or covering them

We have hard floor in the hallway and kitchen (front door, through to kitchen then back door) so here people can leave shoes on - we all have slippers or sliders (hate slippers personally 🤢) to wear. Carpeted areas are living room, bedrooms and stairs/landing; these are shoe free/off BUT given some traders (boiler upstairs) I'm more relaxed if a dry day - most put shoe covers on if raining and ask if dry. We had a suprise visitor recently who had walked through to lounge with (albeit, what looked like new shoes from the box, so less twitchy 🙊) shoes on before could say anything - living room door is just off from front door/entrance. I admit, I was sat with SOCKS ON occasionally glancing at their shoes in judgement having not asked and I, for not mentioning 🙈 one friend keeps a pair of socks in their bag incase wearing barefoot shoes 🤭 I approve, all feet are ick 🤣🤣🤣

Hard floor, shoes on; carpet, shoes off

Couldn’t have put it better.

It very rude not to remove your shoes

Brought up that it was ok to wear shoes indoors, used to allow them indoors as an adult in own home(s), since getting new carpets we're now firmly shoes off (except for tradespeople, but I do point out the newish carpets and provide plenty mats/offcuts to wipe feet on!
Each to their own but I do wish we'd gone shoes off sooner.

Wait, my family are Scandinavian, not sure if these things are related.

I don't wear crocs as slippers and I do genuinely carry shoes to the back door if I need to put the bin out

I do a lot of home visits for work. I always shoe off unless explicitly told not to by the homeowner. I’m sure that was something I was told early on to do at work as in some cultures shoes on is very offensive. Generally if you start to take your shoes off the minute you get through the door home owner will either appreciate it or say ‘don’t worry about that…’ I figure there’s nothing to lose by taking them off, although I did occasionally have a visit where the house was filthy so would make a note and keep them on the next time I visited!

Mumsnet posters who won't allow outdoor shoes in their house, then say they wear crocs as slippers so they can take the bins out/turn the compost heap/pick up the dog poo.

I don't care what other people do in their homes but definitely no shoes in my house.

Ironic when you've just become far more worked up about it than anyone else on the thread. 😂 Perhaps you ought to take your own advice?!

This is a massive thing in SE Asia. When living in Singapore we don’t even step inside the front door with our shoes on.

I always offer to take shoes off in other peoples house and really want people to take them off in mine.

I normally say somethinglike - you can leave your shoes there - so not a direct question, its a fine line. I think its rude not to ask in all
honesty. We have wooden floors but I still dont want people with outdoor shoes in my house.

shoes off always at the door. i think its rude not to do so. i also think people shouldnt ask 'do you want our shoes off' when they walk in, especially in a carpeted home. just take your damn shoes off!

So we're not allowed to be annoyed or upset by anything that isn't cancer, starvation or homelessness? If that's the case then why are you so upset and annoyed by a thread on a website? I think it's you that needs to grow the fuck up.

I'm a shoes off person and would always take them off at someone else's house unless they walked in with their shoes on themselves.

I only ask shoes to be removed if they are wet or muddy. Our house has hard floors which are easy to clean and are too cold to go round in socks. I will always remove my shoes if asked to in anyone else's house; their home, their rules.

Mine is a shoes off house because when we moved in and had the carpet laid my little one was just starting to crawl so I didn't want crap from shoes where he spent alot of time crawling round and putting everything in his mouth. It is definitely a contentious issue on here though😂

We are shoes off but it's an unspoken rule, we don't insist upon it at all. Always take off when we go to to others houses. I usually take slipper socks if I'm going to be staying a while.

We are a shoes off household but I'd never expect a guest to take theirs off.
I was never raised like that and never bothered when I lived alone.
When I got with DH, he asked me to take my shoes off the first time I went to his and I was a bit surprised. Now it's just normal.

My dad makes a point of keeping his shoes on when he's round and the amount of mud he's traipsed through the house is vile. I always mop once he's left.

Thermal socks.

In other words, all the people of Japan and Middle East have to grow up because your culture is the only right one? Only you truly know what we should all be worrying about. Did I get this right?

I want guests to be comfortable. They're pretty sensible about not traipsing clumps of mud in if we've done something like a woodland walk, but generally they've driven over in nice shoes so aren't covered in filth and won't destroy the flooring.

I don't lick my carpets often. The hall carpet is rather ancient and the previous owner had dogs. It's not immaculate. Our floors are often cold and draughty compared to the temperature above knee level.

I generally take my shoes off soon after coming in because I like to curl up on the sofa. The DCs are told to take theirs off and store them in the hall so they can find them again. Guests can do what they're comfortable with.

It's very unwelcoming to make guests teeter around in the doorway faffing around on one leg doing laces/ buckles. It's also embarasing in the summer when sandaled feet get dusty then sweaty and end up looking grubby even though they started off clean. Please just let me keep the sandals on, they're cleaner than the feet!

Slippers are awful. They make feet sweaty and then they go cold. By the time you buy them wide enough to get your arches in, they slop off all over because they're way too long. They have flat, usually plastic soles that stop you feeling the ground under you, and you just end up shuffling flat-footed on the ground. Nasty, nasty things.

They think people shouldn’t have nice carpets and take two seconds to take shoes off because other people are homeless

I've got quite a lot to worry about thanks, I just happen to have a tiny corner of my brain reserved just for this subject 🤷‍♀️
Always shoes off, despite having hard floors downstairs I still prefer not to have muck walked all over if I can help it. I do enough cleaning without four people's dirty shoes adding to it.
I'm certainly not a germaphobe, I have multiple pets in the house but something about dirty shoes on the floor grinds my gears!
I always take my shoes off when visiting other people's home, I wouldn't dream of walking in with them on.

That old cliche. Haven't seen that in the internet for ooo 2 or 3 days.