Is it reasonable to ask a woman to change her profile picture?

This is a post of beauty and magnificence @MistressoftheDarkSide

It's all about the Hagitude x

Ooh, hadn't watched it but have just put it on - it's exactly the sort of thing my late DP would have adored x

Thank you kindly for the recommendation and your too kind comparison 🥰

You have brightened my day - and your robe sounds fabulous 😍

Thank you 😘

Anyone watched Kaos on Netflix? There’s scene right at the end where Hera strides out on a dusty road with her tacitas encircled around her. @MistressoftheDarkSide is Hera, I (as a not-widow) am a tacita in this drama.

In Kaos their costumes were designed with images to signify their personalities and particular gifts. My robe is adorned with bitter old bats and it’s fabulous.

@MistressoftheDarkSide 🤗 😘😍

Sad and bitter old trollbat WIDOW reporting for duty - and what I wouldn't give for a fine bottle of absinthe right now 😆

The problem with Mr "I'm dating a widow and it's so haaaard" is that his original question was asked and answered reasonably politely in the first few posts by several people including widows who I think have the last word on how a widow might be feeling, but he just couldn't let it lie, and introduced a fair amount of dubious speculation about his paramour's general character.

So he's painted a bit of a target on his own back, and must therefore be prepared for the comeback.

I actually think the calibre of humour on this thread is top notch and shows a certain resilience that widows have to learn pretty sharpish as it can be yet another phase of womanhood where one can't do right for doing wrong.

It's a paradox by which we must "move on" and manage our grief to other people's standards with just the right balance of "Miss Haversham", Queen Victoria and Lady Bountiful, while navigating thigh rubbing knights in shining armour. Woe betide those of us who flounder and feel as if it would be more convenient if we just flung ourselves into the grave / onto the pyre and saved the world from the awkwardness of it all.

But chin chin - raising my morning tea to the other vipers on the thread who ain't taking it lying down because we're still human after all 😘

It is a word, but "unalived" is not.

I agree. 'Unalive' really pisses me right off. It sounds ridiculous! 😂

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 X a million!

Well, good morning to all the sad and bitter old trollbats on this thread. It appears someone hit the Christmas liqueurs early, last night and no mistake!

Question for your @NewmanintownRob : which side of the pond are you on. You talk about family across America and also your apartment, your love interest's girlfriends, unalive husband's ATV plus with your general spelling (and general attitude) - are you UK or US?

Maybe she's unsure about you @NewmanintownRob ?

You're divorced. Your marriage failed.

You have a family (although they don't seem to figure much in your posts, other than when you mention your maintenance payments will stop soonish.)

You too have past. And, unlike a dead husband, your children will be part of your life.

Are you not realising this?

I just need to learn to get past this one thing of her being a widow and living in same house and with things everywhere - absolutely everywhere even after 4.5 years and with other men she has dated, some longer duration than me - reminding her and me of her unalived husband.

Is 'unalived' a word? Why not try 'dead'?

You aren't ready for this relationship.

I suggest you end it, move on and get your head sorted out.

You may have 'chemistry' (ie great sex and more I assume) but you're behaving as if you know nothing about emotions.

Your fixation with 'advertising' your relationship on social media is ridiculous. It's not what people in their 50s do.

I'm sorry but time and time again you come over as being insensitive and not showing much emotional intelligence. I'm sorry to say that you sound like someone with very little experience of relationships at all.

It's only very recently that you have mentioned paying maintenance for your child(ren).

So in all of these posts you've only once mentioned that you have a family and children under 18. That's something for any woman to take on too - widow or not- but you don't talk about your ex or your family at all.

A friend of my Mum's married a widow (she was a widower when they were in their 50.)

He had the larger house and she moved into it. I'm pretty sure that photos of his wife were in the house . She accepted that. It didn't mean they weren't a couple, but why should his past be cancelled?

She'd known his wife too and I'm sure she wasn't too worried about the photos or even all the things in the house they'd had before she moved in.

My sister still uses her high school graduation picture on Facebook….from 1977. It doesn’t matter.

Welcome to the belfry 😆

Just woken up from a nap to find the thread has taken a somewhat a - moo - sing turn.

Shall prepare some popcorn for breakfast.

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I have been someone’s mistress once before and it is a weird feeling that I don’t want to experience again

I'm not surprised, given that you're a man.

????????

As has been said, a man isn't a mistress, and you said you're a man?

Also, unalive is a ridiculous word.. Just say dead!

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But not "dead", apparently.

I thought I was just overtired. I wondered that too!

@TheMamaLife why do you keep quoting yourself?

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😆 bitter old bat. Genuinely love that. Has made my night. Hey @MistressoftheDarkSide i think I’ve taken my first tiny step towards gothdom!

Is that alright with you?? Want to try troll me??