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Dad going to Disneyland without his son

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Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 08:24

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

OP posts:
AquaLeader · 25/11/2024 11:43

Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 10:23

I believe you're right. It has sparked more outrage than a father who doesn't like paying for his kid splurges on Disneyland for himself and his bimbo. Oops I did it again.

Better a 'bimbo' as you so vulgarly refer to it, than a nasty piece of work.

getthosetitsup · 25/11/2024 11:40

HappyTwo · 25/11/2024 10:45

You deciding another woman is a bimbo is horrible. How would you like it if others were labelling you a bimbo behind your back.

There are worse things to be than a "bimbo". She could have an attitude on her like the OP's for instance 🤷‍♀️

funinthesun19 · 25/11/2024 11:40

ChillysWaterBottle · 25/11/2024 11:23

He sounds awful and this is a horrible thing to do to his child.

Your wording is irrelevant here, unlike his behaviour. But people will do anything to avoid judging a shit dad.

It’s not irrelevant. She’s unpleasant and a bully and she’s been called out on it.

The irony is that if OP came on here and asked her question without resorting to lots of misogynistic swipes at his girlfriend, people would have taken the time to give her some helpful and sympathetic responses.

jaimelesoleil · 25/11/2024 11:37

You lost me at 'bimbo'
FFS who even says that

Badburyrings · 25/11/2024 11:37

I don't see what the problem is tbh. If you swapped Disneyland for Mauritius would that make a difference? There is nothing wrong in wanted an adult holiday IMHO.

AMAthistimeroud · 25/11/2024 11:36

Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 10:23

I believe you're right. It has sparked more outrage than a father who doesn't like paying for his kid splurges on Disneyland for himself and his bimbo. Oops I did it again.

But he does pay for his kid? You said so in your OP.

AMAthistimeroud · 25/11/2024 11:35

DaftyLass · 25/11/2024 08:28

What does the woman's hair colour or body shape have to do with anything?

Jealousy.

coffeesaveslives · 25/11/2024 11:33

Adults go on child-free holiday shocker.

Alicecatto · 25/11/2024 11:28

Mind your own business.

HeadacheEarthquake · 25/11/2024 11:27

Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 08:24

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

I'd check your spelling and grammar, which in places is dismal, before you insult another woman's intelligence.

funinthesun19 · 25/11/2024 11:27

BeMintBee · 25/11/2024 11:22

You do realise you are perpetuating the problem and are part of the reason men like this can go largely unchallenged? You’ve purposely made a point of shifting the main focus onto the woman with your misogyny so really although you want to appear outraged by this man you would prefer the main focus of hate is directed at the woman.

congratulations on your own goal there 🙄

So many women do this and I don’t get it. The man has caused the hurt but they direct their anger at his girlfriend!
Ex wife, her friends, her mum, etc.. they’re all full of hate towards ex husband’s girlfriend because it feels so much better and cathartic to have a pop at her instead. And it doesn’t stop when she becomes his long term partner or wife either. Pathetic.

Dontcallmescarface · 25/11/2024 11:26

Chellybelle · 25/11/2024 09:51

You sound very bitter towards this woman. Maybe you wish you were going to Disneyland with him.
For what it's worth I don't see the appeal of Disneyland as an adult but that's beside the point. Not everything has to involve children. And it's none of your business really.

Sorry forgot to quote the post I was commenting on.

Dontcallmescarface · 25/11/2024 11:24

I thought the same. The description of the Gf smacks of jealousy IMO.

ChillysWaterBottle · 25/11/2024 11:23

He sounds awful and this is a horrible thing to do to his child.

Your wording is irrelevant here, unlike his behaviour. But people will do anything to avoid judging a shit dad.

BeMintBee · 25/11/2024 11:22

Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 10:23

I believe you're right. It has sparked more outrage than a father who doesn't like paying for his kid splurges on Disneyland for himself and his bimbo. Oops I did it again.

You do realise you are perpetuating the problem and are part of the reason men like this can go largely unchallenged? You’ve purposely made a point of shifting the main focus onto the woman with your misogyny so really although you want to appear outraged by this man you would prefer the main focus of hate is directed at the woman.

congratulations on your own goal there 🙄

housemaus · 25/11/2024 11:20

Cornettoninja · 25/11/2024 08:27

I think you should probably wind your neck in generally tbh.

i would be fascinated to hear this ‘bimbos’ assessment of you tbh.

"My partner's ex has a really weird nosy friend who clearly thinks she's better than me because I'm... blonde and have curves? I dunno, it's weird", probably.

OP, you were correct that it's none of your business that a man is taking his 'sweet, kind' girlfriend on holiday. Perhaps get over it.

funinthesun19 · 25/11/2024 11:18

LurkingFromTheShadows · 25/11/2024 11:11

If you had posted this without insulting the girlfriend, you would've had very different responses.

I think this too. Just goes to show it achieves nothing when you start being bitter. OP, You’re just the friend who parrots the ex wife. Lucky you!

Artistbythewater · 25/11/2024 11:17

I could t get past your misogyny not the term ‘bimbo’ your point has been completely lost.

CrispieCake · 25/11/2024 11:16

Sometimes I take the last chocolate bar or chocolate biscuit and lock myself in the bathroom to eat it because I don't want to share it with my kids.

Whyherewego · 25/11/2024 11:15

Because she's done nothing wrong. She wants to go to Disney? Who cares. Loads of Disney obsessed adults out there.
He has the child. He has responsibility to think about it.
Just because she's young and had a nice figure doesn't mean you should use derogatory terms

LurkingFromTheShadows · 25/11/2024 11:11

If you had posted this without insulting the girlfriend, you would've had very different responses.

Allthehorsesintheworld · 25/11/2024 11:03

Would it matter o much if he was going to Thailand/ Riviera/ Turkey/ anywhere else?
I can’t see the attraction of a 40something and partner going to Disney but each to their own. If it’s their idea of fun let them crack on.

Startinganew32 · 25/11/2024 10:58

You sound so so awful and also separated parents are allowed to go on holidays without their children when it’s not their contact time. It doesn’t sound like there was any cheating so the way you lay into the new girlfriend who has done nothing wrong and who you say is nice and sweet is just shocking.

Gettingbysomehow · 25/11/2024 10:56

What a selfish piece of shit.

ChubbyBubbyBoo · 25/11/2024 10:56

I’ve been to Disneyland with my partner when I had a 3 y/o and didn’t take them. It was amazing, a really romantic and fun trip. I took DD when she was 7 instead and she could really appreciate it. So YABU in that a 40 something year old man can enjoy Disneyland, it’s a brilliant experience for adults and different when not looking after kids/limited by ride heights and nap times and tantrums.

However, if I were the ex-wife of the man I’d be expecting him to look after the son for long enough that I could date if I wished and go on holiday too, and for him to take his son on fun adventures as well as his new girlfriend!