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Dad going to Disneyland without his son

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Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 08:24

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

OP posts:
LBFseBrom · 25/11/2024 12:14

BunnyLake · 25/11/2024 12:12

Keep in mind that the boys mother may not want her son holidaying abroad with his dad and girlfriend at 8yrs old. Have you thought about that?

That's a very good point, Bunny.

Silvers11 · 25/11/2024 12:14

KateDelRick · 25/11/2024 11:48

I'm just going to repeat pp - why are you referring to this woman as a "Bimbo"? Do you know how offensive this is?
Are you the disgruntled ex?

I wouldn't be surprised if the OP does turn out to be the Ex. The language and judgement coming from her would be a lot more understandable. People do try change details on here, to avoid being too outing!

BunnyLake · 25/11/2024 12:12

Keep in mind that the boys mother may not want her son holidaying abroad with his dad and girlfriend at 8yrs old. Have you thought about that?

CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 25/11/2024 12:10

Also, we do not need to take our kids everywhere we go.

RareLemur · 25/11/2024 12:10

Is he an arsehole? yes
If he was taking a holiday with his girlfriend anywhere else but Disneyland, would it be an issue? Probably not. It is a bit odd that they would pick a destination that kid centric as adults, but to each their own.
Also, for all you know, the new girlfriend is paying for this.
I don't understand why you are being so nasty about her, she hasn't done anything wrong as far as we know.

CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 25/11/2024 12:08

Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 08:24

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

You are far to emotionally invested to say you don't really know these people.

Also, mysoginistic (bimbo, really?)

itsgettingweird · 25/11/2024 12:07

I don't like your descriptions - especially "bimbo"

However - to answer - you seem irrationally crooks with said "bimbo" for being with a man who has a child.

It is not her responsibility to parent said child.

Or her responsibility to make said man(child) take his kid on holiday.

Parents can - and often do - holiday without their children. They do this as a married couple or second relationship etc.

ExhaustedHousewife · 25/11/2024 12:06

HMW1906 · 25/11/2024 11:49

I’m considering going to Disneyland without my young kids for my 40th birthday, what kind of parent does that make me?? 🙈. You are allowed to have experiences without your children. We’re taking our children in the summer and I’m sure that although it will be amazing, it will also be 4 days of wrestling 2 overtired children in queues for the ‘little kids’ rides.
i want to go and do the big rides and queue without having to wrestle with my kids…it will be a completely different experience where I get to do what I want to do without the stress that travelling with children entails instead of what the kids want to do for a change.

No,you MUST take them,or are you some sort of bimbo? 😂

BestZebbie · 25/11/2024 12:06

Adults go to Disneyland without children all the time - but there is a bit of an ick factor to a middle-aged man taking a much younger girlfriend there as a couples holiday, almost infantilising her/really leaning in to treating her as if she were even younger (not suggesting this wouldn't be entirely consensual, either!).

Hobnobswantshernameback · 25/11/2024 12:05

<hands op an even bigger spoon>

Silvers11 · 25/11/2024 12:05

mamajong · 25/11/2024 08:52

You don't know the whole story. Maybe the Mum has said no to the older child going or they have plans for that period. It's easy to judge from the outside looking in but what does any of it have to do with you, really. You speak in very derogatory terms so it's clear you'd be judging them whatever they do.

Except that the Dad asked OP not to tell his Ex or 'Ben'? I agree with the rest of your post though!

Margorett · 25/11/2024 12:05

I couldn't even go without my grandchildren, yeah it is very selfish of him in my opinion !

CoffeeAndPeanuts · 25/11/2024 12:03

Catza · 25/11/2024 08:28

I fail to see a problem, to be honest. It’s fine for a parent to have experiences without a child every now and again.

Yeah of course, but Disneyland?? I'd spend the entire time thinking 'Ben' would love this.

Though it would be a different experience without kids & three is an awkward number, as a parent I'd want to sit with my child on the rides & the other person would feel left out/like a spare part & 10 is too young to be left waiting for them if he doesn't fancy one of the rides.

at lastvthe new gf would be slim enough to go with him on the 'younger' rudes!!

@Maria1979 stay out of it. He'll drop himself in the mud!!

BunnyLake · 25/11/2024 12:03

You lost me at bimbo. Younger, blonde, ergo bimbo.m

If she was forty and a neurosurgeon would your op rant be same or different?

ExhaustedHousewife · 25/11/2024 12:00

Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 10:23

I believe you're right. It has sparked more outrage than a father who doesn't like paying for his kid splurges on Disneyland for himself and his bimbo. Oops I did it again.

What a disgrace you are,shame on you.

SmalllChange · 25/11/2024 11:56

Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 10:23

I believe you're right. It has sparked more outrage than a father who doesn't like paying for his kid splurges on Disneyland for himself and his bimbo. Oops I did it again.

Bimbo means attractive but unintelligent.

Now we have no idea what you look like, but the fact you've continued to use such a misogynistic term on a largely female dominated website, would definitely put you in the second bracket.

Give her a chance, it sounds as though you two have much more in common than you think.

bluefingertips · 25/11/2024 11:55

He's being really stingy with ex and his son so this whole splashing money and not on his son it does feel very immoral

I agree with you on this.

KateDelRick · 25/11/2024 11:53

HMW1906 · 25/11/2024 11:49

I’m considering going to Disneyland without my young kids for my 40th birthday, what kind of parent does that make me?? 🙈. You are allowed to have experiences without your children. We’re taking our children in the summer and I’m sure that although it will be amazing, it will also be 4 days of wrestling 2 overtired children in queues for the ‘little kids’ rides.
i want to go and do the big rides and queue without having to wrestle with my kids…it will be a completely different experience where I get to do what I want to do without the stress that travelling with children entails instead of what the kids want to do for a change.

The OP will probably think you're a "Bimbo"! 😂

bluefingertips · 25/11/2024 11:53

getthosetitsup · 25/11/2024 08:31

YANBU about the rubbish parenting of the dad.

YABU with the "bimbo" name calling.

Agree with this.

Butterworths · 25/11/2024 11:52

Bimbo is such a retro insult! I haven't heard that for ages.

m00rfarm · 25/11/2024 11:51

It’s a holiday. Would you be so upset if they were going for a city break? Let them go wherever they want. It’s up to them.

HMW1906 · 25/11/2024 11:49

I’m considering going to Disneyland without my young kids for my 40th birthday, what kind of parent does that make me?? 🙈. You are allowed to have experiences without your children. We’re taking our children in the summer and I’m sure that although it will be amazing, it will also be 4 days of wrestling 2 overtired children in queues for the ‘little kids’ rides.
i want to go and do the big rides and queue without having to wrestle with my kids…it will be a completely different experience where I get to do what I want to do without the stress that travelling with children entails instead of what the kids want to do for a change.

KateDelRick · 25/11/2024 11:49

getthosetitsup · 25/11/2024 11:40

There are worse things to be than a "bimbo". She could have an attitude on her like the OP's for instance 🤷‍♀️

Fair point!

KateDelRick · 25/11/2024 11:48

I'm just going to repeat pp - why are you referring to this woman as a "Bimbo"? Do you know how offensive this is?
Are you the disgruntled ex?

EffortlesslyInelegant · 25/11/2024 11:45

I'm sorry you went numb. That must have been shocking. Have you regained all the feeling now?

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