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Dad going to Disneyland without his son

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Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 08:24

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

OP posts:
ChubbyBubbyBoo · 26/11/2024 09:19

Heatherbell1978 · 26/11/2024 06:59

Is he actually 'neglecting his son financially' though? I took from the OP that this 8 year old has already been to Disneyland which is quite privileged in my opinion. My kids haven't been as I can't justify £10K for a holiday. What is the boy missing out on that his father should be paying for?

You can do Disneyland Paris for much less than 10k! We did it last year for five of us for 1.5k with the eating plan for five nights!

Heatherbell1978 · 26/11/2024 06:59

Is he actually 'neglecting his son financially' though? I took from the OP that this 8 year old has already been to Disneyland which is quite privileged in my opinion. My kids haven't been as I can't justify £10K for a holiday. What is the boy missing out on that his father should be paying for?

KateDelRick · 26/11/2024 06:50

TroysMammy · 26/11/2024 06:48

Isn't the male equivalent a himbo?

Yes, I've seen that! Rarely, of course, because it's men! However, I've seen bimbo changed to himbo to make it applicable to men.
"Unisex"? Nonsense.

TroysMammy · 26/11/2024 06:48

Isn't the male equivalent a himbo?

KateDelRick · 26/11/2024 06:43

Bimbo is not unisex. It is a term used against women to label them both stupid and sexually available. It's a way of putting women down and is judgemental.
Of course you're getting a hard time. This is a predominantly female space, so we're going to be critical of terminology, used to put women down, which many of us thought had gone out of common usage in about 1975.

Maria1979 · 26/11/2024 06:24

To all the folks who like Disneyland : Ofcourse you're entitled to like whatever you want. For me it's torture but endurable when I see the joy of my kids but each to their own and I'm sure you would be bored by a lot of things I like as well.

For me the bimbo epithet is unisex and I have met some male bimbos as well as female so I don't get the sexist connotation.

I do meet ex frequently even though we're not close and she has been through hell after the divorce fighting for every penny and going through mh problems. My sympathy is clearly with her and not with her ex who cheated on her with younger woman until she found out the hard way and broke it off. A normal father would atleast have the decency to not be stingy with his son. If he'd paid what he owns without trying to stall and whine (he's well off) I wouldn't care if he goes to Hawaï or Disneyland with his new gf. But under the circumstances it's really vile to neglect his son financially while splurging on himself. For those who can't see that, well I hope you never have to go through something similar.

For those who are being vile and agressive: you can disagree with someone without making personal attacks. It really shows your double standards and I understand why some people say that Mn is a hostile place.

OP posts:
Rosscameasdoody · 25/11/2024 19:02

ChillysWaterBottle · 25/11/2024 15:07

I don't know what other people are apparently telling you on other threads, that's between you and them.

A parent who sees their kids 4 days a month is a lazy parent. One who does that and then whinges about how much money he pays in child maintenance is a shittier one. One who does both those and then goes on holiday to Disneyland without his child is worse.

I don't know why I'm bothering. There will always be women lining up to defend shit men.

And we know that EOW isn’t at the instigation of the mum how ?

Rosscameasdoody · 25/11/2024 18:59

ChillysWaterBottle · 25/11/2024 12:58

As unpleasant as the responses she's getting on this thread? A lot of posters bypassing a man who only sees his son two weekends a month taking his girlfriend to Disney (explicitly behind his son's back) to focus on name calling a woman who used a term they don't like.

But why hold a man accountable when you can pile on another woman and imply she's jealous of a 'younger, more attractive' woman and call her 'catty' and 'a bitch' (no misogyny there!).

The most telling comment is: 'He may be a crap man and a shit father, but you are really showing yourself up with your OP'. Lmao.

Nope. EOW is common. And why are you taking it as gospel at the word of an OP who has admitted that she doesn’t know any of them very well. I’d bet the farm that this is far from how it seems, and possibly posted with the intention of getting MN frothing. Oh, and ‘Bimbo’ is misogyny - unacceptable enough from men, but even more concerning when it’s a woman.

Rosscameasdoody · 25/11/2024 18:55

Startinganew32 · 25/11/2024 15:27

Every other weekend is the most common contact arrangement and there may be good reasons for it. People are always saying kids need a stable home and a base and that most adults wouldn’t like it if they lived between two places so why should kids?
It’s not shit to go on holiday without your child on days when they are not with you. You’d never say it to a mum going on holiday with her boyfriend while kids are with dad.
He moans about paying - so he does pay. He’s a hell of a lot better than the many who don’t pay. Who knows why he moans? Maybe he knows the mum doesn’t spend the money on the kids.

This.

Rosscameasdoody · 25/11/2024 18:54

MissUltraViolet · 25/11/2024 18:35

Nine fucking pages of people kicking off that OP called some random person that nobody knows a bimbo. but no shits given about the poor kid that isn't going to Disney with his dad, that he only gets to see twice a month, because he would rather go with his new girlfriend.

Heh.

If that’s what you took away from it, you haven’t understood the thread properly.

Letmegohome · 25/11/2024 18:47

@MissUltraViolet my daddy didn't take me to Disney either...... But did buy a new tent take his "lady friend" camping . Haven't seen him in ten years

BunnyLake · 25/11/2024 18:47

MissUltraViolet · 25/11/2024 18:35

Nine fucking pages of people kicking off that OP called some random person that nobody knows a bimbo. but no shits given about the poor kid that isn't going to Disney with his dad, that he only gets to see twice a month, because he would rather go with his new girlfriend.

Heh.

I wouldn’t even let my son go with the dad and his gf at that age. He wouldn’t even have a sibling to keep him company, just a part time dad with his girlfriend. Would any child really even want that holiday arrangement, I know mine would have been begging me not to go.

MissUltraViolet · 25/11/2024 18:35

Nine fucking pages of people kicking off that OP called some random person that nobody knows a bimbo. but no shits given about the poor kid that isn't going to Disney with his dad, that he only gets to see twice a month, because he would rather go with his new girlfriend.

Heh.

KateDelRick · 25/11/2024 18:30

KeenCat · 25/11/2024 18:11

But why hold a man accountable when you can pile on another woman.

Is that not what OP has done with this thread by inserting irrelevant insults about the new girlfriends appearance and intellect?

Edited

That's exactly what she's done.

KeenCat · 25/11/2024 18:11

ChillysWaterBottle · 25/11/2024 12:58

As unpleasant as the responses she's getting on this thread? A lot of posters bypassing a man who only sees his son two weekends a month taking his girlfriend to Disney (explicitly behind his son's back) to focus on name calling a woman who used a term they don't like.

But why hold a man accountable when you can pile on another woman and imply she's jealous of a 'younger, more attractive' woman and call her 'catty' and 'a bitch' (no misogyny there!).

The most telling comment is: 'He may be a crap man and a shit father, but you are really showing yourself up with your OP'. Lmao.

But why hold a man accountable when you can pile on another woman.

Is that not what OP has done with this thread by inserting irrelevant insults about the new girlfriends appearance and intellect?

KateDelRick · 25/11/2024 17:20

chickenlettuceunderbacon · 25/11/2024 13:35

Mind your own business. Also, calling another woman a bimbo is never a good look. If you're going to call anyone names, it's the ex-husband that deserves it, not the woman he's not with.

Yes, the ex husband's appearance and intellect isn't called into question is it? No offensive term for him.

NiftyKoala · 25/11/2024 15:57

Cornettoninja · 25/11/2024 08:27

I think you should probably wind your neck in generally tbh.

i would be fascinated to hear this ‘bimbos’ assessment of you tbh.

Agreed.

Startinganew32 · 25/11/2024 15:27

ChillysWaterBottle · 25/11/2024 15:07

I don't know what other people are apparently telling you on other threads, that's between you and them.

A parent who sees their kids 4 days a month is a lazy parent. One who does that and then whinges about how much money he pays in child maintenance is a shittier one. One who does both those and then goes on holiday to Disneyland without his child is worse.

I don't know why I'm bothering. There will always be women lining up to defend shit men.

Every other weekend is the most common contact arrangement and there may be good reasons for it. People are always saying kids need a stable home and a base and that most adults wouldn’t like it if they lived between two places so why should kids?
It’s not shit to go on holiday without your child on days when they are not with you. You’d never say it to a mum going on holiday with her boyfriend while kids are with dad.
He moans about paying - so he does pay. He’s a hell of a lot better than the many who don’t pay. Who knows why he moans? Maybe he knows the mum doesn’t spend the money on the kids.

ChillysWaterBottle · 25/11/2024 15:07

Startinganew32 · 25/11/2024 13:08

EOW is a common arrangement. On other threads we’re always told that men who want 50/50 are wankers who want to deprive kids of their mums and to save on child maintenance. Which is it?

Going on holiday with his girlfriend when he doesn’t have his son is fine, absolutely fine and a total non event.

I don't know what other people are apparently telling you on other threads, that's between you and them.

A parent who sees their kids 4 days a month is a lazy parent. One who does that and then whinges about how much money he pays in child maintenance is a shittier one. One who does both those and then goes on holiday to Disneyland without his child is worse.

I don't know why I'm bothering. There will always be women lining up to defend shit men.

Christmasatcadburys · 25/11/2024 14:14

Nice bit of misogyny there re your attitude to his new partner. The reality is you have no idea how clever she is. Of course he can have a holiday without his child. You’re being far too invested and you sound a bit jealous.

BaronessMachiavelli · 25/11/2024 13:53

Don't be a knob OP. You lost all moral highground when you started calling out his seemingly innocent partner on her brains, looks and age despite that having sweet FA to do with your outrage.

luckylavender · 25/11/2024 13:42

Wind your neck in

chickenlettuceunderbacon · 25/11/2024 13:41

Oh the irony of OP calling someone else a bimbo while using alot (sic) instead of a lot 😂

chickenlettuceunderbacon · 25/11/2024 13:35

Mind your own business. Also, calling another woman a bimbo is never a good look. If you're going to call anyone names, it's the ex-husband that deserves it, not the woman he's not with.

LuckySantangelo35 · 25/11/2024 13:16

@Maria1979

YABU to use the word Bimbo.
HTH. 👍

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