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Dad going to Disneyland without his son

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Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 08:24

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

OP posts:
Nothatgingerpirate · 25/11/2024 09:45

What's up, bitter much?
Bimbo - haven't heard that one for some time.
Adults make their own choices, fortunately.
That includes "bimbos", too.

Naunet · 25/11/2024 09:44

He sounds like a crap, selfish father, but I don't think telling his ex will help anything, she can't force him to take his son.

Beezknees · 25/11/2024 09:42

Pinkelephant66 · 25/11/2024 09:27

Sorry, have you ever been rude to anyone in your whole life? I’m sure you have. It’s not a crime

I've never used misogynistic language towards another woman.

stayathomer · 25/11/2024 09:41

Personally I think laughing about it makes him a pretty rubbish person but then sometimes you say things to cover up the discomfort so could be that too. I don’t think you’re being unreasonable but at the same time I suppose new relationship etc.

LoveBluey · 25/11/2024 09:39

Disney is amazing for adults. I've been twice with the kids and while it's magical there's lots of planning around them, trying to entertain them in queues, accommodate their food preferences, go back to the hotel for a rest when they need it, miss the fireworks as they are on too late.
I would totally go (to Disney Paris) with my husband for a couple of days without the kids. It would be a different experience altogether.

RossGellersCat · 25/11/2024 09:35

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 25/11/2024 08:31

Strange nowadays to hear women speaking of other women in such a misogynistic way.

My thought exactly. Your issue with the dad's parenting stance is nothing to do with your use of outdated and misogynistic stereotypes OP. To me, your unkind and judgemental language stands out more than the issue you had in the first place!

Stickseas0n · 25/11/2024 09:34

Don't see anything wrong with him going to Disney land.
Me and DP would absolutely go without dc as it's under a grand for just us two but to add in dc it's closer to six grand.
I'd go but I know the guilt would eat at me, so I haven't

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 25/11/2024 09:34

Your point is a good one. I agree with others you shouldn’t have called the woman a bimbo or taken this out on her in your post.

But yes the man is being ridiculous and very cruel.

Imbusytodaysorry · 25/11/2024 09:33

FupaTrooper · 25/11/2024 08:51

Maybe do some work on your internalised misogyny.

Once you've figured that out, unpack why you believe parents must do everything with their child?
Many adults love Disney.

He may be a crap man and a shit father, but you are really showing yourself up with your OP.

This

housethatbuiltme · 25/11/2024 09:32

The use of the word Bimbo means you lost ANY credibility at all.

Way to attack and put down other women for no reason while also showing how incredibly bias your story is to one side.

Wendolino · 25/11/2024 09:30

You sound a bit jealous to be honest. I'd guess that you're the ex wife, not your "friend". I can't think why you'd be so catty about his new "bimbo" otherwise.
He doesn't sound very nice either tbh.
YABU

NotMyCircus99 · 25/11/2024 09:30

Well that’s not very nice.

Goldengirl123 · 25/11/2024 09:29

Disneyland is good for adults too. Why would you hurt the ex. and child’s feeling by telling them?

Hobnobswantshernameback · 25/11/2024 09:28

Another goady bitchplop and run thread
<sigh>

WhatInFreshHell · 25/11/2024 09:28

Bimbo??? What a disgusting word!

cgwmtl · 25/11/2024 09:28

Stop using the word bimbo.
Why are you so invested in this? Is the ex not in fact a friend of a friend of as you claim but is actually you? The level of anger levelled at the new girlfriend would suggest you are closer to this than you claim.

As to your question. You should stay out of it. It's none of your business. Some adults like to go to Disneyland too and the couple are perfectly entitled to have a holiday anywhere they want without his son.

Penguinmouse · 25/11/2024 09:28

He sounds like a prat but she’s done nothing wrong and you’re calling her derogatory names presumably because she’s what…young? Blonde? Doesn’t help your cause. I’d just leave it - the ex sounds shot of him.

Pinkelephant66 · 25/11/2024 09:27

Beezknees · 25/11/2024 09:26

No it isn't. It's just fucking rude to call someone a bimbo.

Sorry, have you ever been rude to anyone in your whole life? I’m sure you have. It’s not a crime

Beezknees · 25/11/2024 09:26

Pinkelephant66 · 25/11/2024 09:25

If she is indeed a young woman considered to be attractive but not intelligent, then she probably is a bimbo as that is how one is defined. Dunno why people are getting so hung up on this.

and what mother would be happy about the father of their 8 year old child, getting with someone nearly half their age, slagging their kid off, then to top it off, go to a CHILD ORIENTED PLACE without them. A 40 something man going to Disney land with his new 25 year old bit of fluff… c’mon! It’s just selfish and unnecessary

No it isn't. It's just fucking rude to call someone a bimbo.

ExtraOnions · 25/11/2024 09:25

You are allowed to go on holiday without your children …

Pinkelephant66 · 25/11/2024 09:25

If she is indeed a young woman considered to be attractive but not intelligent, then she probably is a bimbo as that is how one is defined. Dunno why people are getting so hung up on this.

and what mother would be happy about the father of their 8 year old child, getting with someone nearly half their age, slagging their kid off, then to top it off, go to a CHILD ORIENTED PLACE without them. A 40 something man going to Disney land with his new 25 year old bit of fluff… c’mon! It’s just selfish and unnecessary

Danghormones · 25/11/2024 09:23

You lost me at bimbo

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 25/11/2024 09:22

Yeah, I couldn't get past you calling her a bimbo. Nasty, misogynist term.

WonderWizard · 25/11/2024 09:22

Clearly a trip as a couple is different from a trip with his son. Just stay out of it.

Notwhatuwanttohear · 25/11/2024 09:20

Completely pathetic op with the repeated uses of "Bimbo"

Also the pathetic poster siding with the op use of said word like criticism of op is enabling the dad's behaviour.

It's two different things.

The only one with seemingly less intelligence seems to be the op.

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