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Dad going to Disneyland without his son

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Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 08:24

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

OP posts:
Whyherewego · 25/11/2024 10:10

Just none of your business.
Where he goes on holiday with his gf is none of your business. She may be a life long Disney fan that's her dream holiday. She may be paying for it.
He will have to deal with the fallout with his own family and child
Don't interfere. Don't say anything.

Bachellerie · 25/11/2024 10:10

Thread translation - I'm overcome with jealousy whenever I see a man and his new partner who is younger and more attractive than me.

afrikat · 25/11/2024 10:05

He sounds like a shit dad but you sound super judgemental and mean

KeenCat · 25/11/2024 10:05

I think you lost 99% of the audience when you called (and kept calling her) a bimbo.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 25/11/2024 10:04

You sound horrendous, OP. Calling a woman 'bimbo' and doubling down in your pointless follow up post.

It's this man who deserves your ire, it's his son. Whatever this woman is or isn't, she isn't responsible for him.

JeanLundegaard · 25/11/2024 10:03

And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.

I’m 53 and DH is 56 and we went to Disneyland Paris this time last year. No children, just the two of us, we love it.

Anywherebuthere · 25/11/2024 10:03

Tbh you don't sound any better than the man. To call someone a bimbo says a lot about you.

It's also non of your business.

BibbityBobbityToo · 25/11/2024 10:02

Are you 12 as you're the only one coming across as having little up top......

ConcernedOfClapham · 25/11/2024 10:02

Your continued use of the derogatory term ‘bimbo’ makes me think you are more invested in this than you have led us to believe.

Winesoup · 25/11/2024 10:00

This happened to my child - ex and his new wife went to Disney as part of their honeymoon, but they bought DS, then 6, a Disney bauble, so he has a memento that they thought of him when they were away.

Can you cut off contact with the father and his girlfriend - even if they're family you can can reduce contact to a minimum.

I am a bit surprised that most posters are much more shocked about how you refer to the new girlfriend that what an awful father this man is, I suppose few of us are shocked that men do this. At least he's showing the new girlfriend what a shite father he is, so she won't be too surprised if she has a kid with him.

holju · 25/11/2024 09:59

I agree they both sound awful ( him for being a shit dad, her for being OW ) but why are you exchanging pleasantries with them? They're not family members, so you don't need to keep them sweet. Next time tell them exactly what you think of them, and wipe the smug little smile off their faces. Sometimes conflict is necessary.

Lemonadeand · 25/11/2024 09:58

JeanLundegaard · 25/11/2024 09:53

Better to be a bimbo than a b#tch.

To be fair, I don’t see how you can go off with a married man who has a kid without being a bitch.

CurlewKate · 25/11/2024 09:58

@Maria1979 " but in this case the woman does look and acts like a bimbo."

Not sure that helps as much as you think it does.

needsomewarmsunshine · 25/11/2024 09:58

I knew someone who referred to her ex as 'the retard' and her two sons did the same. There really are some very bitter and nasty people out there.

Lemonadeand · 25/11/2024 09:57

The Dad sounds like an asshole, but your stereotyping of the woman is poor. How can you tell how intelligent someone is from passing conversations? Sometimes the people who come across as absolute space cadets during small talks are actually nuclear physicists!

LouiseD1977 · 25/11/2024 09:56

I’m disinclined to read anything after “bimbo” as you’re clearly misogynistic and over-invested so I’m guessing this whole thing is a pile of nonsense anyway.

Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 09:55

Sorry for those taking offense with bimbo. I think I just went on with what ex calls her. She would ofcourse, but in this case the woman does look and acts like a bimbo. She even exaggerates it to the point I wonder if she's roleplaying. But ofcourse we shouldn't call other women bimbos, sorry for that.
He's being really stingy with ex and his son so this whole splashing money and not on his son it does feel very immoral. I won't tell her as I said and I'm not invested more than that I had a few minutes rant on mn since I can't tell my friends about it.

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Helpmebestylish · 25/11/2024 09:54

Well as you said "it's none of your business"

needsomewarmsunshine · 25/11/2024 09:53

Speaks volumes about you calling the gf a bimbo. Are you jealous because she's younger / more attractive than you? Whatever the reason you are over invested in the relationship which ever way you look at it.
I certainly wouldn't want you as a friend if that's how you talk about other women even if it's only on here.

JeanLundegaard · 25/11/2024 09:53

Better to be a bimbo than a b#tch.

CurlewKate · 25/11/2024 09:51

"Bimbo"? Seriously?

notbelieved · 25/11/2024 09:51

Strange nowadays to hear women speaking of other women in such a misogynistic way

Nah. Have a look on at anything to do with being a single parent. Truly terrifying.

but bimbo, OP, really?

Chellybelle · 25/11/2024 09:51

You sound very bitter towards this woman. Maybe you wish you were going to Disneyland with him.
For what it's worth I don't see the appeal of Disneyland as an adult but that's beside the point. Not everything has to involve children. And it's none of your business really.

LatteLady · 25/11/2024 09:49

I was prepared to side with you until you used the term Bimbo, and that is why I think you are being unreasonable.

Isometimeswonder · 25/11/2024 09:48

Not quite the responses you expected @Maria1979 ?
I'm sure he's ot the first man to get with a younger woman after divorce. As long as she wasn't an OW she has done nothing wrong.

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