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Dad going to Disneyland without his son

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Maria1979 · 25/11/2024 08:24

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

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Hairyesterdaygonetoday · 28/11/2024 01:11

TheYeaSayer · 25/11/2024 08:43

Mind your own business. Parents are entitled to some alone time occasionally, if they take their children away at other times.
Your description of the man’s girlfriend as “bimbo” makes you seem utterly vile. Are you jealous of her?

OP doesn’t sound vile to me. She is not going to like or respect the woman who helped break up her friend’s marriage. Nor would I.

I’d dislike both the ex and his girlfriend, especially for leaving the little boy behind. I hope they have a crap time at Disneyland and the son has much more fun with his mum.

NewDaye · 28/11/2024 01:10

I think you’re angry at the wrong things. People of any age can enjoy Disney and Disneyland. It certainly is a couple’s holiday too, not just a children’s holiday.

Stolengoat · 28/11/2024 00:57

Op, I bet if you and the mum wanted to go on holiday, while the kid stayed with the dad, you wouldn't have a problem with it.

KateDelRick · 27/11/2024 17:28

Cornettoninja · 27/11/2024 17:20

PMSL GrinGrin

stop digging!!!!

😂it's just so ludicrous, isn't it?!

Cornettoninja · 27/11/2024 17:20

Maria1979 · 26/11/2024 12:00

The word bimbo derives from the Italian bimbo, a masculine-gender term that means "little or baby boy" or "young (male) child" (the feminine form of the Italian word is bimba). Use of this term began in the United States as early as 1919, and was a slang word used to describe an unintelligent or brutish man.

PMSL GrinGrin

stop digging!!!!

Cornettoninja · 27/11/2024 17:17

I've seen FAR more offensive comments than 'bimbo' directed at younger models that poster's exDHs have left them for. Where is your female solidarity then?

@namechangetheworld

dunno, do I have to search your username every time I log on to see the same things you’ve seen just so I can keep your opinion of my opinion consistent? Seems ridiculous and takes the fun out of the forum tbh…

aside from that, I’m inclined to let far more slide when it’s a conversation involving the injured party and them dealing with current emotions. Certainly more than someone jumping on a third hand bandwagon. Life is nuanced, but it’s worth the effort to decode.

labamba007 · 27/11/2024 15:45

JeanLundegaard · 25/11/2024 09:53

Better to be a bimbo than a b#tch.

Honestly I'd prefer bitch

chargethecat · 27/11/2024 11:40

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 27/11/2024 11:08

Exactly. Disney, like most holidays, is what you make of it. I don't enjoy Magic Kingdom but I love the animals at Animal Kingdom and the pavilions at Epcot.

Oh and thank you for my current earworm, 'I'm living in a box, living in a cardboard box'! 😂

Stop it! It’s in my head and I can’t get it out. 😂

But yeah, Animal Kingdom, as hot as it is, is great and I’ve never seen that happy lions or wild animals up close before. I love Epcot too. I’ve been many times, and no regrets. Sadly it’s so expensive now compared to a few years ago.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 27/11/2024 11:08

chargethecat · 27/11/2024 10:59

Actually it’s interesting that Disney is all about Imagination, no matter what age you are.
The people on here that can’t imagine adults wanting to go to Disneyland or World because they wouldn’t, are perhaps the ones that should go! °o°

Exactly. Disney, like most holidays, is what you make of it. I don't enjoy Magic Kingdom but I love the animals at Animal Kingdom and the pavilions at Epcot.

Oh and thank you for my current earworm, 'I'm living in a box, living in a cardboard box'! 😂

chargethecat · 27/11/2024 10:59

Actually it’s interesting that Disney is all about Imagination, no matter what age you are.
The people on here that can’t imagine adults wanting to go to Disneyland or World because they wouldn’t, are perhaps the ones that should go! °o°

chargethecat · 27/11/2024 10:55

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 27/11/2024 10:50

What? I have no clue what you're saying! I just know it as a catchy song from the 80s!

So do I as soon as I wrote it. 😂

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 27/11/2024 10:50

chargethecat · 27/11/2024 10:46

Living in a box.. 📦

What? I have no clue what you're saying! I just know it as a catchy song from the 80s!

chargethecat · 27/11/2024 10:46

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 27/11/2024 10:44

Of course parents can have experiences without their DC but Disneyland isn't one of them imo

Why not? I'm glad DH's children are adults! Mind you, does that mean we should be taking his grandchildren...

Living in a box.. 📦

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 27/11/2024 10:44

Of course parents can have experiences without their DC but Disneyland isn't one of them imo

Why not? I'm glad DH's children are adults! Mind you, does that mean we should be taking his grandchildren...

Dutchhouse14 · 27/11/2024 10:06

Marblesbackagain · 25/11/2024 08:30

Stop judgement of the girlfriend. YABU with that!

Yanbu of him being a shit dad 🤷‍♀️

This is a nutshell!
No need to insult the girlfriend, hate it when women attack each other.
It's the dad that's a fault here.
Of course parents can have experiences without their DC but Disneyland isn't one of them imo

chargethecat · 27/11/2024 09:29

ByHardyRubyEagle · 26/11/2024 18:00

I can make judgements where I like to and I do think it odd for adults to go on holiday to something that in my view is made specifically for children, or people who have the mental age much younger than their years. Get offended all you like.

Made for children, have you even been to Orlando? On Drinking around the World or Flower and garden festival. Many of their events are not even suitable for kids.

MullersCorner · 27/11/2024 06:23

This “bimbo” who doesn’t have “alot of brain activity”, does she also believe that “alot” and “ofcourse” are actual words?

Donsyb · 26/11/2024 22:25

I know lots of grown adults who live Disneyland and go without kids 🤷🏼‍♀️

Letmegohome · 26/11/2024 21:45

KateDelRick · 26/11/2024 21:37

"an unintelligent brutish man" 😂

Obvs 🫣😬

KateDelRick · 26/11/2024 21:37

Ladymeade · 26/11/2024 21:22

I have now....... 😂

"an unintelligent brutish man" 😂

Createausername1970 · 26/11/2024 21:32

For what it's worth DH and myself went to Disneyland a couple of times in our 30/40s before DS came along, we have taken him a few times, and I am now in my 60s and would happily go again with or without DS.

Ladymeade · 26/11/2024 21:22

Letmegohome · 26/11/2024 21:19

Have you read the op's reasoning for using the word bimbo ? 😂🤐

I have now....... 😂

Letmegohome · 26/11/2024 21:19

Ladymeade · 26/11/2024 21:18

"Bimbo?" Wow - not heard that word since circa 1986......... 🙄

Have you read the op's reasoning for using the word bimbo ? 😂🤐

Ladymeade · 26/11/2024 21:18

"Bimbo?" Wow - not heard that word since circa 1986......... 🙄

ChubbyBubbyBoo · 26/11/2024 21:14

BeMintSwan · 26/11/2024 20:22

My father went to Disneyland a couple of times in his 40’s- he did bring me back a Minnie Mouse fridge magnet. 😆
Now he’s 84, and although I wasn’t bought up by him after the age of 4 and he never paid maintenance, I’m still expected to look after him now he has dementia. He has put himself first his whole life.

Don’t look after him then!

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