To find this so cringeworthy?

Well the sneery way you commented about someone else’s husband not being manly makes me think you’re proud of the manliness of your OH.

I suppose our definitions of manly differ. I don’t see manly as a big sexist baby who is offended by a musical so huffs out the cinema.

Film review is ok, ‘belly’ is horrible

oh @pluvia you've jumped the shark now. I believed you really thought that about Wicked, but now you're just pretending you think it's Disney, to troll us.

I haven't swallowing any hype. I read some niche books about 15 years ago and followed the idea that they would be turned into a musical. I agree that there are broad emotional strokes in the story as it exists in the musical. It's not a spiky as Hadestown or Spring Awakening for example, other musicals about relationships, self image and politics. But I think that's partly the point of what it is trying to say. It isn't saying BeKind, and I'd be interested in which aspects of the work you think give that impression.

I don't think Stephen S's other musicals are much to write home about but the music here is undoubtedly very clever.

As it happens I think the film is a rather ponderous and heavy handed version of the musical, but it still isn't what you think it is based on no evidence.

@SleepyHippy3 as I explained or tried to in further posts, I thought this thread was light-hearted? It's true I don't like musical theatre but who cares if I know the plot/premise of Wicked or not? I did not think that was the point of the OP.

@EvilsElsasPetSnowman

was a film about Willy Wonka making his penis fall off or something? This is seriously odd behaviour, and your poor girls having to watch their dad leave family time. Let’s hope they find better men than you have.

You have issues

@EvilsElsasPetSnowman

I just find it sad that you’re so proud to be married to be a selfish sexist. It’s such a damaging trope

Not proud in the slightest. Actually the opposite.

@EvilsElsasPetSnowman

they’re probably TOO manly for the likes of respect and fidelity towards women and their families

Nice

@EvilsElsasPetSnowman

Honestly having a “Alpha” husband like yours isn’t the flex you think it is.

It's not a positive. I never said it was.

My dp is a cinephile - he watches absolutely every single new release in the cinema, except horror films because they scare him - and he would absolutely both 1) see this film (alone or with someone, as the case may be) 2) say something like the above, and I wouldn't find it odd at all.

He just loves the cinema and critiquing films, and he literally knows almost every single film that's ever been released in the western hemisphere. I think it's a great hobby!

Absolutely fine💯

Spectacularly missing the point

Yeah ‘hallmarks of a classic’ is a bit of a cliche… but then so is ‘makes me die a little inside’ so I guess we all have our little phrases. Maybe he cringes when he hears you say that?!

If you'd enabled voting then I would have definitely said you are being unreasonable.

He actually sounds really sweet. Is he too nice for you?

I feel sorry for him. What he said about the film sounded perfectly normal to me. It's not as if he went on and on - just a couple of sentences which give a bit more info than 'I really enjoyed it.' It's not as if he's being really pretentious - he isn't.

I like the sound of him. And the description of what it feels for him to be turned on is far more detailed than anything my husband would come out with...but if you've got the ick then you've got the ick.

I think Op that you need to move on.

Other people not being bothered isn't really relevant imo.

I wonder if this is how people get "stuck" in a relationship?

Well it does; molasses more so!

I’d find that cute. Are you sure you like him…

He is sharing his authentic self with you, and I think that’s great. If he’s not for you and the vocab is a deal breaker for you, that’s your choice. Just please don’t try to get him to wear a mask around you and hide his true self.

I dated a guy who was lovely but constantly made me cringe with expressions like "pop" for "popular" (appropriate for Wicked, I guess).

But the worst was the chap who told me he had "made a Proust joke" and everyone laughed. Pompous twat.

I just find it sad that you’re so proud to be married to be a selfish sexist. It’s such a damaging trope

Id die of embarrassment and shame if my DH walked out the cinema during a family film leaving me there. He doesn’t sound manly he sounds like a big baby - was a film about Willy Wonka making his penis fall off or something? This is seriously odd behaviour, and your poor girls having to watch their dad leave family time. Let’s hope they find better men than you have.

I meant that if you’re not up for occasionally doing things you don’t want to do, for the sake of spending time with your kids, what is even the point of being a parent?

Good vocabulary? You mean "hallmarks"? Or "vibes"? Or, um, "classic"? Not exactly sesquipedalian.

'tummy' would be even more cringe surely, coming from a bloke?

wicked is a bit like Barbie, visual fun for older kids and adults! I’m taking my DD11 but not my DS7 as so much content would fly over his head and it only ends up with him constantly asking me what’s happening

Yes, the alpha dad!