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To find this so cringeworthy?

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Bpuss · 25/11/2024 07:29

(I realise using the word cringeworthy is a bit cringeworthy in itself, but here we are...)

Literally posting this so I don't end up telling him what I'm thinking!

I've been seeing a guy off and on for a year and he's a lovely person, but keeps coming out with things that just make me die a little inside.

The latest one is he went to the cinema with his friends last night to see Wicked.
He has this habit of messaging me after he's seen a film to let me know how he found it and the message last night read "It had greatest showman vibes, and the hallmarks of a classic". I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick but I thought I should try and be kind so I just said something about being glad he likes it.

But I've never heard anyone in real life use the phrase "hallmarks of a classic" to describe a film, let alone something like Wicked?!

He also uses the word belly for his stomach...

I like him, but omg I cringe so hard sometimes at his choice of words!

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Doggojumpsdoggo · 25/11/2024 09:25

You need to split up.

If my son was dating a girl who didn’t appreciate him sharing his love for something I would cry. And made fun of him as well?

Autism is no excuse for rudeness.

Baguettesandcheeseforever · 25/11/2024 09:24

DustyLee123 · 25/11/2024 07:34

I don’t know any male who wants to see Wicked.

What are you trying to imply here? ‘Real men’ don’t like musicals?…nasty comment.

I echo a poster above and hope my son can be enthusiastic about any film he wants and communicate it using whichever words he chooses.

This is a nasty thread poking fun at a man who seems lovely.

GameOfJones · 25/11/2024 09:24

Bpuss · 25/11/2024 09:22

"I enjoyed the film" would have been fine...

It was just the cliche 'hallmarks of a classic" like that got me. I mean, I don't understand what he meant by that. I haven't seen the film but to me, classic has an incredible musical score, complex characters, that kind of thing. Wicked just seems like Hollywood fluff with a typically predictable plot so I also took issue with the comment for that reason too.

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If the film is anything like the musical it IS going to have an excellent musical score. Honestly OP the issue here is yours......your comments about his wedding speech made me feel really sad for him. I bet he'd be gutted if he knew you were bitching about him.

You're allowed to find him cringeworthy and as you clearly do, you should probably end it. But you're giving off mean girl vibes here.

Cozylozy · 25/11/2024 09:24

You can’t dictate the way he speaks it’s not possible and if you’re picking up on this all the time then do him a favour and stop seeing him. He’s failing your move in together test

ButFirstCovfefe · 25/11/2024 09:23

I think he sounds sweet.

Then again my husband, whilst eating a cake, said to me “it has a very subtle buttercream” and whilst laughing in his face, it just made me love him more.

(edit: he also loves theatre/musicals and is “gasp”, not gay.)

sweetpickle2 · 25/11/2024 09:23

BackOnTheAntibiotics · 25/11/2024 09:21

Just had to Google Wicked and a bloke going to see that with his mates would give me the vomitorious ick. Sorry.

You need to grow up then.

Needmorelego · 25/11/2024 09:23

@BackOnTheAntibiotics why?

BackOnTheAntibiotics · 25/11/2024 09:23

Bpuss · 25/11/2024 09:22

Stomach ache = belly ache.
"The feeling in my belly is that I love you"

That kind of thing.

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Belly ache is OK. It's a bit archaic but OK IMHO.

sweetpickle2 · 25/11/2024 09:22

Bpuss · 25/11/2024 09:22

"I enjoyed the film" would have been fine...

It was just the cliche 'hallmarks of a classic" like that got me. I mean, I don't understand what he meant by that. I haven't seen the film but to me, classic has an incredible musical score, complex characters, that kind of thing. Wicked just seems like Hollywood fluff with a typically predictable plot so I also took issue with the comment for that reason too.

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Wicked has all those things?

If you don't like what he said as you objectively don't agree, that seems a bit unfair. You're allowed to have different tastes.

Although as you haven't even seen the film yourself that seems particularly harsh a judgement.

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Bpuss · 25/11/2024 09:22

BackOnTheAntibiotics · 25/11/2024 09:14

Do you mean he used the term belly for abdomen? The stomach is the stomach. If he uses the term belly to describe his abdomen, he is correct in that and the rest of the world makes me cringe when they use the term stomach to describe their entire belly/abdomen.

Stomach ache = belly ache.
"The feeling in my belly is that I love you"

That kind of thing.

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Bpuss · 25/11/2024 09:22

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 25/11/2024 09:10

What would you have preferred him to say? "That film had sick vibez, I thought it was mint."

Poor bloke. It was a bit clichéd and he might not make it on to the pages of Empire anytime soon, but he seems alright to me.

"I enjoyed the film" would have been fine...

It was just the cliche 'hallmarks of a classic" like that got me. I mean, I don't understand what he meant by that. I haven't seen the film but to me, classic has an incredible musical score, complex characters, that kind of thing. Wicked just seems like Hollywood fluff with a typically predictable plot so I also took issue with the comment for that reason too.

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BackOnTheAntibiotics · 25/11/2024 09:21

Just had to Google Wicked and a bloke going to see that with his mates would give me the vomitorious ick. Sorry.

GameOfJones · 25/11/2024 09:21

I don't see anything wrong with what he said at all, in fact I think it's quite endearing.....and I'd probably text something like that myself 🤣

The issue here is you have the ick, so pretty much anything he does is going to make you cringe. If you were really into him this wouldn't be an issue at all.

But then my DH is a complete geek, can be a bit cringey sometimes but is the loveliest man I've ever met and has a heart of gold. I'd take him any day over some alpha type that was worried seeing Wicked would hurt his street cred. That poster saying her DH wouldn't even take his teenage daughters to see it isn't the mic drop she thought it was......he sounds like a total dickhead!

Throw this one back OP so he can find someone that appreciates his idiosyncrasies.

ichifanny · 25/11/2024 09:19

My husband is as manly as they come and came to see wicked with me and our daughters and gasp enjoyed it .

BackOnTheAntibiotics · 25/11/2024 09:19

You have the ick. We've all been there.

I had a first and only date with a bloke that turned up wearing really old and worn out clothes. He's loaded. I wondered if it was some sort of test.

We got along OKish and it might have grown legs but I couldn't get past that he didn't think I was worth more than a frayed and stained tee shirt that I would only wear if I was creosoting a gate.

It's the little things that add up.

menopausalminnie1 · 25/11/2024 09:17

My DH's favourite film is The Greatest Showman.

He's 6 ft 3, with a rugby player body, and he is a Police Officer. But yeh, he cries at that film every time. LOL.

Sounds like you have the ICK.

CucumberBagel · 25/11/2024 09:17

I talk like this sometimes, probably because I'm autistic, well-read and like to express myself precisely.

I think YOU are cringe with your little mean girl bullshit. Poor guy.

TobaccoFlower · 25/11/2024 09:17

I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick
That would have been bitchy.

rewilded · 25/11/2024 09:16

I would definitely say this - I did about La La Land! I love film and so do my family this is how we talk about film, books etc Confused

BackOnTheAntibiotics · 25/11/2024 09:14

Do you mean he used the term belly for abdomen? The stomach is the stomach. If he uses the term belly to describe his abdomen, he is correct in that and the rest of the world makes me cringe when they use the term stomach to describe their entire belly/abdomen.

EvilsElsasPetSnowman · 25/11/2024 09:14

I don’t think you do like him OP and it’s time to let you both move on

sweetpickle2 · 25/11/2024 09:14

Objectively there is nothing wrong with what he said, if it's caused this much of a reaction then you probably don't like him very much.

Your assessment of his wedding speech made me sad, the poor guy! Let him go so he can date someone who is nicer about him.

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Bpuss · 25/11/2024 09:14

fearfulworrier · 25/11/2024 08:44

^^ this

can you imagine how you would feel during his wedding speech 🤣

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I've seen his previous wedding speech and it also made me cringe! :(

Every other word was "umm" and it was so wooden and forced, with a joke where everyone looked confused afterwards and sat in silence. Not even a polite giggle. Could be seen as quite rude of the guests obviously but I think they genuinely didn't understand it was meant to be a joke (it was about herding cats).

I really like him, but his idiosyncrasies are just a bit...well basically he reminds me of the class geek at school. And I was the class 'girl geek' so why does it bother me?!

I'm also autistic so I wonder why I can't accept his little quirks when I have a bunch myself?

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Ratisshortforratthew · 25/11/2024 09:11

I’m going to hazard a guess that the Venn diagram of disrespectful men who think chores and parenting are a woman’s job but expect a shag every night, and the men who think going to see Wicked isn’t manly, is a circle. I know which one I’d rather date.

Needmorelego · 25/11/2024 09:10

@Bpuss Wicked isn't a U certificate. It's PG.
Apparently the stage version isn't recommended for under 7s. The book is for adults.
Conclusion..... a bunch of blokes going to see Wicked is..... normal 🤔

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