to think boarding schools are no longer ok...

You can’t see because one of them is your own post.
Read that from the perspective of a parent using the system

‘once they’ve made the decision they’d rather not think about the risks ‘etc

You can’t see because one of them is your own post.
Read that from the perspective of a parent using the system

‘once they’ve made the decision they’d rather not think about the risks ‘etc

NO ONE has said that!! How dare you suggest that.

I can't see anyone has been insulting?

But it is interesting to wonder why people find this topic uncomfortable.

If you read back over posts suggesting parents chose schools irrespective of abuse. !!!
That’s is a truly horrible thing to suggest.
To suggest that parents don’t care about their children.

If those sort of accusations are deemed alright to make then really I think anyone that doesn’t feel uncomfortable by them should ask themselves why !
Obviously !

If you read back over posts suggesting parents chose schools irrespective of abuse. !!!
That’s is a truly horrible thing to suggest.
To suggest that parents don’t care about their children.

If those sort of accusations are deemed alright to make then really I think anyone that doesn’t feel uncomfortable by them should ask themselves why !
Obviously !

It's not a "bashing fest" to talk about things that actually happened no matter how uncomfortable it makes people feel. A quick Google shows a devastating number of abuse convictions related to boarding schools. And that's just the cases that didn't get hushed away by hefty NDAs.

No doubt there are issues in other sectors too, but this was a thread about boarding schools and some reasons parents may be reluctant to use them. It's not derailing a thread about boarding schools to , you know, talk about boarding schools.

If it makes you feel that uncomfortable you might want to ask yourself why.

My children are privately educated. This is about the specific risks of boarding school. You can't make this state v private as there are boarding schools in both sectors

Unfortunately the conversation derailed into a bashing fest about abuse in private schools whilst ignoring all other types of schools.
Its now continuing to derail on other issues not related either

Agree there are both state and private boarding schools. I personally know little about state boarding so I can’t comment on that. It would be interesting if any MNs have any actual experience of them though ….. I’m aware of some in Scotland serving kids who live on the islands that’s about all really

This isn't about state Vs private. It's about boarding Vs day (my children go to private school). There are state boarding schools too

Just squishing some state school abuse there
Pot kettle black

And yet no one has pointed out the harm to kids of state schools as a parallel.
Who then is squishing discussion……

If MNs make a choice to use state then that is their choice, no one is here pointing out what a terrible choice they have made because that is rude and judgemental ( Irrespective of the state of state at the moment.).

To say people don’t look at the schools they chose and throw their kids to the wolves is disgusting!

One of the reasons that private/boarding schools might reduce the free use of sports facilities by state schools is so that they can then rent these facilities out in the same manner that a private gym does. It’s not through spite or bloody mindedness. No teacher (to the best of my knowledge) gets up in the morning and decides to “stick it” to a bunch of kids they’ve never met. If however the schools are treated as businesses legally, politically, and financially, they must act like businesses to survive.

@StandingSideBySide Saying the school supports the community because parents spend money in local businesses is disingenuous.
I deliberately quoted one of your examples of something the school is stopping i.e. use of the schools sports facilities, which has no or a very low cost to the school. You came back explaining why they can no longer provide free scholarships - the highest cost activity you quoted.
Lots of private schools did local community things to keep their charitable status as it saved them money. Overall it helped them make more profit. And that is all that mattered. As soon as those things do not help them make more profit, they ditch them.

I think you may find that some of us on here are anti Boarding school not anti private school. My DC go to Private school and I am very anti boarding

@StandingSideBySide these stories hit the papers when it happens in children's homes. I think the sexual abuse scandals in boarding schools have got fairly low coverage given how terrible some of them are and how the signs were ignored.

These stories hit the papers because they are news worthy.
People love to bash private schools and especially boarding schools.

That’s why threads like this exist.

Of course. But in boarding schools and children's homes (the equivalent for poor children I guess) , children are uniquely vulnerable because they are there over night and for weeks on end

https://www.hampshirechronicle.co.uk/news/24729639.winchester-college-cover-up-let-john-smyth-continue-abuse/

www.itv.com/news/calendar/2023-09-25/ex-deputy-head-of-boarding-school-jailed-for-abusing-20-pupils

There are so many examples, in fact there are other fairly recent ones just relating to those two schools. I don't know why people are uncomfortable to have discussions about the risks of boarding schools and keep trying to divert onto other things.

I guess once people have made the decision to send their children they would rather not think about the risks so they try and squish any discussion (as witnessed on this thread)

Of course. But in boarding schools and children's homes (the equivalent for poor children I guess) , children are uniquely vulnerable because they are there over night and for weeks on end

https://www.hampshirechronicle.co.uk/news/24729639.winchester-college-cover-up-let-john-smyth-continue-abuse/

www.itv.com/news/calendar/2023-09-25/ex-deputy-head-of-boarding-school-jailed-for-abusing-20-pupils

There are so many examples, in fact there are other fairly recent ones just relating to those two schools. I don't know why people are uncomfortable to have discussions about the risks of boarding schools and keep trying to divert onto other things.