Daughter getting fat in school

A few posters have assumed that this was cancer haven’t they ? Odd, since the OP has never actually mentioned the word and has said several times that her daughter is not on any medication.

If she had a tumor that could have affected her hormones that is probably your answer. 100% of weight gain or loss is determined by the complex interplay of hormones. Among other things, hormones determine 100% of appetite. Take her to an endocrinologist and figure out what is really going on. If they close the kitchen and she's starving because of a hormonal imbalance, she will get food elsewhere. Stop blaming the school and look for the real problem.

Okay thanks that helps and makes sense. I didn’t realise that boarding schools were full
of children from rich disabled single mothers. I thought it was rich people who couldn’t be asked.

Unfortunately the vast majority of scholarships at major public schools now have no monetary value, and they are for the “honour” (eg arrogance) of having one. When I was at school they awarded up to 50% fees for academic / music / other talent. I have no idea why this has changed - but the idea seems to have mostly gone.

At no point was there mention of an oncologist. You do know the word tumour doesn’t equal cancer, right?! The vast majority of tumours removed are benign, but depending on where they are located (eg hypothalamus / adrenal gland etc) can cause other clinical issues.

I didn’t claim anything. OP said it herself in a previous thread which has been linked to by several posters in this one. And your posts come across as anything but intelligent if you can’t link back to what’s been clearly said upthread, preferring to throw unfounded insults. Why don’t you own that ?

Hwy @ConstanceM in June 2019 @joey197860 posted

"... I have exactly the same problem with a 22-month-old toddler... I, as a disabled single mother with 3 children..."

It's all there. Advanced Search is your friend

Most kids at boarding school are either military or have parents who work abroad for part of the year.
Bursaries and scholarships exist in order to pay fees for less wealthy families..
Please link to the data for "95% of places are rich folk", or did you just make that up?

All very good points thank you. Yea absolutely they work for some and I guess my strong point was more about being aware that they aren’t perfect and not that they are bad. Totally take your point though and you are right. My sister lived and worked overseas for work and her kids went to international school in the country as a lot of kids did so there are alternatives too but isn’t easy if parents have split.

I’m a moron now am I ? have a look back through the thread and you’ll see that there were at least three posts referring to the OP’s last thread in which she detailed herself that she was disabled and a single mum of three children. One poster even provided a link to the previous thread. The poster you answered was upthread and I answered her myself with the relevant information. So I am neither twisting things nor pathetic. You on the other hand……………..

@ConstanceM op has said she is a disabled mum of 3 in previous posts

How old is she?
Surely the school have a duty of care? If she had put that amount of weight on at home, most schools would have had a chat with the parent about it.
The school can't just except no responsibility for this! It's like saying the parents have no responsibility when a child's over weight and living at home.

If my intelligence scares you I apologise. There is absolutely nothing aggressive in my responses. Your assumptions have been unpicked succinctly. You claimed OP was a disabled single mum and this is simply untrue. Own it.

It's not moronic, it's from op's previous posts

Exactly, this moron has added their own twist. Pathetic

The ES is getting on a bit. Modern boarding schools are very different with an emphasis on child protection and children having access to mobile phones and internet to contact parents at any time.

My my, we are aggressive tonight aren’t we ?

Now you're casting aspersions on ES lived experiences and traumas of ritual & systemic abuse. How dare you? Your also biased in that you work in such devious and toxic institutions. "Take his word for it" Yes, he will grasp an audience due to his status as a famous person, that's how literary autobiographies work, nobody buys a life story about Bob who lives down your road.

Presumably on this kind of bursary support there are significant challenges at home. Boarding school days are very different to state school days, they start much earlier and finish much much later (7pm when prep is finished) This is to accommodate all the extra sporting and cultural activities - sport will be daily with one day a week likely devoted entirely to sport. There will be classes on Saturday morning and sports matches on Saturday afternoons and Sundays after chapel. It’s full on and the much longer holidays reflect this. It would be exhausting to commute back and forth to school on this schedule and if all her friends are at school she would miss out on the in house downtime where strong friendships are bonded. She would be exhausted and isolated.

Not engaging with this any more. You posted in ignorance and you’ve been called out on it by several posters. Accept it and move on, because you’re derailing the thread with this nonsense.

Show me the data of a) How many disabled parents have children in boarding school? then b) Give me a social geo-demograhic breakdown of their social economic group (ABC1) and where they live in the country. Eg (South East) It will be groups with friends in high places. The SAHM in a tower block in Nechells Birmingham is NOT getting a place in boarding school. Stop being weird

Of course ES is someone we should all believe.

There are many many books on boarding school experiences by people who aren't aristocrats. Maybe you should read those? I would add he's only been able to be published because of his family connections.

Constance - you are a bit out of your depth here. I've worked in boarding schools and your opinions are not a reflection of reality.

No one is saying it’s the majority, but they’re not peddling mistruths. For myself, just putting in my tuppence worth based on actual experience instead of prejudice and ignorance.

This is not the majority, you are peddling mistruths. 95% of places are rich folk palming off their kids. I don't make the rules, it's weird and wrong in most cases. Read Earl Spencer's autobiography then get back to me

The friend I am referring to is a much older person.
There are some schools that provide places at 7 but very few.
Schools that educate very young children do so in a family setting around a housemaster/mistress. I'm not defending the system but it's important to know the facts.