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Daughter getting fat in school

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joey197860 · 24/11/2024 07:49

Teenage daughter has gained 22kg in new boarding school. No medical explanation for it and she's very happy, wrll integrated and academically excelling. School has a shop on site and girls have access to kitchen in the evenings. Daughter had major surgery last year and specifically should not eat sugar loaded food. What am I to do? I want to pull her from the school at the end of this term. The school is absolutely no help when I discussed this with them.

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PTSDBarbiegirl · 24/11/2024 08:04

Has she had the pill injection?
Have her home if you want to supervise.

XxSideshowAuntSallyx · 24/11/2024 08:02

Are you sure she's happy? I only ask as I went to boarding school, on the outside I was happy and well integrated, however I was actually miserable and being bullied.

VoyagerOfTheTeenYears · 24/11/2024 08:02

Was the surgery something that might affect her weight set point?

barofsoap · 24/11/2024 08:01

schools very quickly fret when the girls lose top much weight - I would hope they would pay attention here too

Sheepsandcows · 24/11/2024 08:00

is there a reason she is boarding? Why can't she live with you? If there is.no underlying medical cause, it sounds like comfort eating. Maybe she isn't happy there?

InfoSecInTheCity · 24/11/2024 08:00

She's happy and well settled. Your solution to her weight gain is to say "you're fat so I'm punishing you by taking you away from the place where you are happy".

Can you see why that may not be the best or most supportive thing that you as a parent could do?

CookieMonster28 · 24/11/2024 07:59

I think you need to find out the cause. Is it comfort eating because she's unhappy? Is it because she doesn't like the meals so supplements with unhealthy snacks and treats so she doesn't go hungry? Etc.

Marblesbackagain · 24/11/2024 07:59

She is not happy, happy teens don't eat three and a half stone on.

mm81736 · 24/11/2024 07:57

You send her away from home, and wonder why she comfort eats!

LauraNorda · 24/11/2024 07:52

Pulling her from the school is no good. She needs to learn some self-control.

90yomakeuproom · 24/11/2024 07:51

What is the time frame for the weight gain? And how old is your child? 3.5stone weight gain is quite a lot

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