Daughter getting fat in school

Boarding from prep and "not that type of girl". Fuck.

OP that's a massive weight gain in such a short period, she needs to see a doctor. Whether it's related to the tumour or an eating disorder she needs help. It's beyond the "comfort eating while away from home" level of gain.

How often do you see her ?

Agreed.

i do also think having a tumour removed is frightening as a adult let alone as a child.
could she be emotionally eating?
If so it’s a pattern you want to break quickly

I don't think she is in Dubai. She says that blarding schools are like 7 star hotels in Dubai in regards to food.

You need to take her to the GP

so she must have been home over the summer for the first 1 month of that? What was she eating at home? Lots or a normal amount?

Do you really think she is overeating and eating rubbish?

Or do you think it is a medical condition?

What does your instinct tell you?

Also - how much exercise does she get at school? Do you know? This varies depending on age.

Are her friends also putting on weight with access to this food too?

I gained loads of weight when I went to uni (I didn’t drink lots) it was the freedom of eating what I want when I want. I imagine it’s the same for your DD.

Have you spoken to the school about access to food? To rule out that factor.

I would get her seen by your GP too to check for any medical reasons. Seems sensible to cover all bases

Bring her home and feed her yourself then

Sorry, was typing my reply as you posted this. Speak to your nurse specialist at the oncology department and ask for an early follow up with your oncologist.

It might not even be from the kitchen. Some kids do a roaring trade in snacks, sweets etc.
Also, not "that type of girl". Sickening comment. Incredibly judgey and you wouldn't believe how many kids are totally different to what their parents think they are.

PCOS can lead to massive weight gain.
Started contraception (could be to help acne) or antidepressants Can lead to over eating and weight gain. Is she pregnant? and terrified to tell you?

having had a tumour removed is a big deal, is she scared it will come back? She might be displaying I’m happy to you so you don’t worry. Teenage girls sometimes try to protect their parents.

My brothers went to boarding school. One was happy, one was miserable. You would have thought both were happy but the miserable one didn’t tell me until years later how miserable he was. He hid it from the family so he didn’t let anyone down.

Has she grown taller in this time too? Was she very thin previously? It could at least partly be her body filling out/getting hips and boobs as she goes through puberty

@RabbitsEatPancakes I read it as OP comparing UK boarding schools to 7 star Dubai Hotels

Your daughter was ill with a tumour and gained a massive amount of weight in a very short amount of time, just because the school doctor doesn't think there is a problem doesn't mean that there isn't a problem. You need to take her to your GP and possibly the specialist that dealt with the tumour as it is possibly a sign of other things like Cushing's, or a reaction to medication particularly if on steroids or the Pill. The pill is used to deal with painful and heavy bleeding periods too she doesn't have to be 'that type of girl's.

If the tumour was hypothalamic then the appetite drive may be associated with that. Equally, I’d wonder about other structures and function that could be associated with tumour or treatment. Your daughter’s oncology follow ups should be picking up this weight gain wherever her tumour was. What do the team there think about this gain?

Is she upset about the weight gain? Firstly, I’d get her a proper medical check up to make sure there isn’t a medical reason; then I’d try to casually and kindly discuss it with her by mainly listening to what she says. She could be unaware of the extras she’s eating or she could be using food as an emotional support. Try to carefully find out more.

I was a Day pupil at a boarding school and they seemed to spend most of their time eating vast quantities of toast. They were totally obsessed with the toasters! They also made lots of sweet milky drinks. Dorm rooms had hidden stashes of sweets and chocolate too. Perhaps the combination of the surgery; worry about that; the new school year; and getting into unhealthy habits have contributed.

Oh you're in Dubai?

Massive obesity issue there with kids. All my clients from there have fat children, constantly eating/ drinking sugary crap.

Location completely changes things.

That's a huge amount kf weight, probably 50% of her starting body weight.

I'd be bringing her home for tests. Something can't be right. Teens can eat masses without getting fat. I'd be assuming a medical issue for such an enormous weight gain.

I would seek some medical advice - either there is disordered eating or a physical cause, and both would need addressing.

I don't know why everyone is assuming she's comfort eating or "getting back" at her parents - some kids love boarding school.

I'd take her to see your gp