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'Females.'

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Toenailz · 24/11/2024 04:47

Anyone else cringe when people refer to women as 'females' in the context of completely casual conversation? And also wonder where the fuck it started and why it's become so popular?

Usually utilised by men referring to women as 'females' and, on here, usually by scorned women referring to another woman that their DH is being in some way inappropriate with, as 'another female' or 'a female'.

Yeah yeah, the correct biological terms and all, but can't help feeling this has a rather sexist connotation to reduce women to less, as usual?

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Toenailz · 24/11/2024 05:52

Marmiteontoastgirlie · 24/11/2024 05:34

I get what you’re saying about it being rather creepy when men use it in casual conversation, somehow it feels objectifying. But I use females a lot in writing reports just to be specific that I mean biological females and not gender identity. So depends on context.

That's why I specified 'casual conversations'. Reports are a bit different I suspect.

It doesn't just irk me seeing men use the term, loathe seeing women use it to describe other women as well. Just find it really grim and as another poster said, dehumanising.

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HelloYouGuys · 24/11/2024 05:51

Dotto · 24/11/2024 05:38

Unless they're doing it with irony, from Friday Night Dinner

Friday night dinner was the first thing my mind went to...

For me, I never know whether I want to be referred to as a Woman or Lady or Girl.
I used to think that each of those titles denoted the age range of said "female".
So
Girl - anything up to eighteen

Woman - eighteen to say forty nine

Lady - fifty and above.

I'm not sure now... as I feel it depends how I feel
Girl - when I'm extra happy and joking around being affable.

Woman - when I'm being caressed and intimately cared for by my man, as it instigates me feeling "womanly"

Lady - when I'm being addressed by relative strangers in a respectful manner.

Hey! This is all bonkers lighthearted stuff, so I'm not inviting any pile-ons....

🙏🏻

Frozensun · 24/11/2024 05:46

It depends on context. I have a grandson who is under 10 and is autistic. He uses male & female - not because of any derogatory intent but because scientifically these are the titles used.

Classiclemon · 24/11/2024 05:42

There's a whole sub Reddit about this 'menandfemales'.

Dotto · 24/11/2024 05:38

Unless they're doing it with irony, from Friday Night Dinner

Happyinarcon · 24/11/2024 05:35

I don’t notice, I’m trying to find less not more things to get annoyed about tbh

Marmiteontoastgirlie · 24/11/2024 05:34

I get what you’re saying about it being rather creepy when men use it in casual conversation, somehow it feels objectifying. But I use females a lot in writing reports just to be specific that I mean biological females and not gender identity. So depends on context.

Userxyd · 24/11/2024 05:33

Agree- sounds like it should be followed with "..of the species" being discussed by evil scientists conducting experiments with utter disgust.

Edingril · 24/11/2024 05:30

I would rather this than 'girls' and why is it different to 'women'?

Jasmine82 · 24/11/2024 05:28

It’s dehumanising, I’ve always hated it and if mentioned, you just get the eye roll. Female could be anything- animal, bird etc

Octavia64 · 24/11/2024 05:18

My dad, who would be 80 if he were still alive used to use this term.

Not sure I like it.

IsANameImportant · 24/11/2024 05:16

I get exactly why you mean. It’s like women are being reduced to as a biological specimen. Examined i der a microscope as another species. My FIL uses the term and it creeps me out. Probably ireational but ot just feels wrong.

coffy11 · 24/11/2024 05:11

Yes I agree, hate this misogynistic term. It reduces women to their sex, rather than seeing them as a person.

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