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'Females.'

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Toenailz · 24/11/2024 04:47

Anyone else cringe when people refer to women as 'females' in the context of completely casual conversation? And also wonder where the fuck it started and why it's become so popular?

Usually utilised by men referring to women as 'females' and, on here, usually by scorned women referring to another woman that their DH is being in some way inappropriate with, as 'another female' or 'a female'.

Yeah yeah, the correct biological terms and all, but can't help feeling this has a rather sexist connotation to reduce women to less, as usual?

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Toenailz · 24/11/2024 21:11

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/11/2024 17:02

@Toenailz I agree with you about all of that, however, when I am talking to people who believe trans women are women, I know that if I use the word "women" they won't interpret it in the way that I mean it. Which is why I end up saying female people.

Whilst I understand it's difficult - this is exactly playing in their hands and contributing to it, though.

Women editing their normal language so as not to offend men in dresses, basically. The dresses part isn't even necessary to be fair. Altering our language so as to not offend men, whilst we are simply reduced to a sex, rather than an adult human woman.

Tale as old as time.

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NamelessNancy · 24/11/2024 20:02

It's in the context and equivalence imo. Medical situation? Males and females is fine. Describing the people in a group? "Five men and four women" would be my preference. If someone who worded things unusually preferred "five males and four females" it wouldn't bother me. I hate "five men and four females" though. Absolutely screams of incel to me.

Jasmine82 · 24/11/2024 18:48

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I’m genuinely interested in why you ask that.

SocksAndTheCity · 24/11/2024 18:45

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No, why would they be?

'Girls' and 'women' are the correct English nouns for female human children and female human adults, and many posters have pointed this out already.

Uglystepchild · 24/11/2024 18:41

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stargirl1701 · 24/11/2024 18:40

It's always used by men. It feels really degrading.

Trumped · 24/11/2024 18:40

Exactly. The way the world has gone now it's sex not gender that's key. The tide has definitely turned & the pushback has been fantastic however we must not let our guard slip. Females cannot be eradicated, the word is gaining power & momentum. Governments from the USA to the Netherlands are feeding much more conservative as is the electorate. The Trans Activists are not living this global shift towards conservatism one bit ❄️❄️❄️

Jasmine82 · 24/11/2024 18:39

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You answered your own question with the first two “alternatives”

SnakesAndArrows · 24/11/2024 18:32

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/11/2024 18:13

Yes, always female people.

In the context of the trans debate there are always people who say the word "female" refers to sex and the word "woman" refers to gender (ignoring the fact that some male people say they are female) and my response is always that we have a word for the female of every other species and we need a word for female humans. Female isn't species specific. It is absolutely dehumanising to refer to women simply as females. Female what? Fish? Monkeys? Goats?

Absolutely agree. The premise of the OP though is, I think, that the use of “female” as a noun is what gets her goat.

So, I think several of us are in agreement that woman is the noun we want to use, and will use in the context of “the woman with black hair”, but if we’re discussing, for example, the provision of a rape crisis centre we may feel we need to say “female only” rather than “women only”?

But we wouldn’t say “females only” (plural), would we? Because we’re using female as an adjective.
In fact, I’m now thinking I might start saying “women’s sport, by which I mean sport for female people” deliberately.

Hmmm…

SnakesAndArrows · 24/11/2024 18:31

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YourJadeSeal · 24/11/2024 18:17

I’ve noticed that there’s often a pattern with men who refer to women as ‘females’ - it tends to align with a lack of healthy relationships with women in their lives. I also find it off-putting when women adopt this language, as it feels like internalised male-centric thinking.

Similarly, men referring to adult women as ‘girls’ is another red flag for me. It speaks volumes about their mindset.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/11/2024 18:13

SnakesAndArrows · 24/11/2024 18:00

Female people, though, not females?

Yes, always female people.

In the context of the trans debate there are always people who say the word "female" refers to sex and the word "woman" refers to gender (ignoring the fact that some male people say they are female) and my response is always that we have a word for the female of every other species and we need a word for female humans. Female isn't species specific. It is absolutely dehumanising to refer to women simply as females. Female what? Fish? Monkeys? Goats?

Uglystepchild · 24/11/2024 18:07

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5128gap · 24/11/2024 18:06

SnakesAndArrows · 24/11/2024 18:00

Female people, though, not females?

Absolutely. I will say female clients/female staff. Adjective not noun.

5128gap · 24/11/2024 18:04

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/11/2024 17:50

Indeed. Like, if you say that women's sports should be for women only, these people will say, "Yes, I agree. Trans women are women though."

It's infuriating.

Exactly. I feel we have been pushed into a position where the word woman has to be qualified. And while I get and support that people want to refuse to do so on principle, practically it is 'misunderstood' (taken advantage of) when we don't.

Trumped · 24/11/2024 18:03

WhereAreMyGuineaPigsHidingToday · 24/11/2024 11:50

Yes to this. Don't get me started on the idiocy of the terms chestfeeding and pregnant people. Urghh. Totally unnecessary to change the lingo. Healthcare professionals will be aware if a service user is non binary anyway. No need for tokenistic gestures via changing language. If non-binary can use their services then those services are inclusive and no need for wanky gestures like this.

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Or individuals with wombs 😂😂😂 Yes females as males don't have wombs & never will! The truth hurts! Reality bites 😂

SnakesAndArrows · 24/11/2024 18:00

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/11/2024 17:02

@Toenailz I agree with you about all of that, however, when I am talking to people who believe trans women are women, I know that if I use the word "women" they won't interpret it in the way that I mean it. Which is why I end up saying female people.

Female people, though, not females?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/11/2024 17:50

5128gap · 24/11/2024 17:24

Yes. It's absolutely this. I also agree with everything the OP has said. But practically remains the dilemma. If I say women, for example in a professional context within a 'progressive' environment, the default assumption is that this means everyone who prefers to be thought of as a woman. Sometimes this is not who I mean at all. I mean biological women. I struggle for a way to make this clear without resorting to saying 'but NOT transwomen' which would go down extremely badly. I have just thought of female as the least worst way of being clear. This discussion has made me think though and I'd be interested in alternatives.

Indeed. Like, if you say that women's sports should be for women only, these people will say, "Yes, I agree. Trans women are women though."

It's infuriating.

5128gap · 24/11/2024 17:24

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/11/2024 17:02

@Toenailz I agree with you about all of that, however, when I am talking to people who believe trans women are women, I know that if I use the word "women" they won't interpret it in the way that I mean it. Which is why I end up saying female people.

Yes. It's absolutely this. I also agree with everything the OP has said. But practically remains the dilemma. If I say women, for example in a professional context within a 'progressive' environment, the default assumption is that this means everyone who prefers to be thought of as a woman. Sometimes this is not who I mean at all. I mean biological women. I struggle for a way to make this clear without resorting to saying 'but NOT transwomen' which would go down extremely badly. I have just thought of female as the least worst way of being clear. This discussion has made me think though and I'd be interested in alternatives.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/11/2024 17:02

@Toenailz I agree with you about all of that, however, when I am talking to people who believe trans women are women, I know that if I use the word "women" they won't interpret it in the way that I mean it. Which is why I end up saying female people.

Toenailz · 24/11/2024 16:46

Interesting input from all sides.

I am surprised this has turned into quite the gender debate - though perhaps I shouldn't really be, given the context - eg. noun vs adjective and the current state of the go woke parade.

For me, the trans women issue didn't compute because I have very firm, and very straightforward, factual views on this. Not that my posting them will be received well by some.

I didn't consider trans women in the context of using women vs females because my view is that trans women are not women, they are men attempting to appear and live as women, regardless how far along in their journey they are. So, women for women, trans women for trans women would be my vocabulary. I am not of the group who feel its acceptable for trans women to expect women to also refer to them simply as 'women' I'm afraid, as it's just not the reality. They are a person whom has attempted to change gender, but will biologically always be 'male'. Though I understand in current society, the apparent acceptable norm is that gender is different from sex. I just can't buy into it.

It's interesting though, because I'm not going to walk around referring to trans women as men, as I understand that would be quite insulting. That being said, I HAVE been referred to as both a cis woman and 'menstruater' once - on a study of women's medical experience of period problems and hormonal issues and it absolutely boiled my blood and I'm not (and didn't) stand for that either. Why on earth trans women are being allowed to contribute to a medical survey on periods is beyond me, genuinely - medical research input that women desperately need and is severely lacking, and men living as women are being encouraged to contribute to that data, to me, is living in a complete fantasy land. In any case, I don't need an extra description, I am simply a woman, always was, always will be, and it's as simple as that. The people who feel the extra description is necessary are, in my view, the only ones that really need it applied ie 'trans... woman/man'.

I don't believe it's fair to women that we now need to be referred to as female to make the distinction clear, because the patriarchy can't even leave the word 'women' alone to us. I find it utterly dehumanising that I need to be described as a 'female' because a man putting on a dress now uses the word woman to describe himself and it's no longer clear. No thanks, not buying into it, nor supporting it either by adopting the term female to describe an actual woman in real, casual context.

Although I do think it's used more by men being derogative towards women, and usually by women to dehumanise the 'other woman' (whom may or may not even be the other woman, simply someone their slimey OH is drooling over). So, yeah, just seems to be an issue caused by men, yet again, really.

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5128gap · 24/11/2024 16:11

GretchenWienersHair · 24/11/2024 10:19

This is honestly not me being goady, I’m genuinely curious, but what sort of circumstance would need you to specifically reference female women? (Outside of the trans debate of course, where the differences are already made clear within the conversation.)

When referencing services and spaces for biological women only. The word woman may be, at times erroneously, assumed to mean any person who wishes to be considered a woman. This can lead to confusion as to who a service or space is intended for. The use of female makes this clearer.

SnakesAndArrows · 24/11/2024 14:35

carrotcakeagain · 24/11/2024 11:33

I prefer it as I know it means a biological female, as women has been taken and is being used for females and others. I think people denigrating it are just trying to get women to be as the accepted term for their own agenda.

You think the noun used for female people (women) should be “a female” with the plural “females”?

Really? You’d say “I’m sitting over there with those females”, or “A female got onto the bus”?

SleepToad · 24/11/2024 13:12

TheMotherShipAhoy · 24/11/2024 11:45

@SleepToad, to many women, ladies definitely does feel off. I cringe when both male and female colleagues use it, but for different reasons. But I also understand that you wouldn't be deliberately trying to offend.

And about women sounding 'blunt'. Oh no. When I hear a man referring to women as women (and not in the that woman or woman delivery driver way) , I breathe a sigh of relief. I think better of him, and imagine he's not afraid of women.

Woman is not blunt, but rich and full. It is, weirdly, the closest I come to feeling anything remotely like patriotism (and I'm generally unsentimental and not that way inclined at all) ‐I feel a kind of kinship with women, both in my everyday relationships and as a universal class.

Thanks. I like the fact that you have explained that so clearly. Definitely women from now on

Brefugee · 24/11/2024 12:53

I ask people not to do it because i find it patronising. Women is ok as is girls (when referring to actual girls, otherwise i ask people not to do that either)

It is often used by MRAs and Incel groups and it immediately puts me in mind of the Ferengi in Star Trek.

People who carry on using it when i have asked them not to? i tend not to listen to them at all and cba to talk to them.