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DH pancreatic lesion with symptoms

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Ebabllisstggoffor · 24/11/2024 02:16

So we’re half way to our U.K. holiday break. This morning an appointment came through for my DH to see a consultant surgeon. This is an urgent appointment on the back of a recent MRI. It’s on Tuesday morning. He says he’s going to call them on Monday to rearrange it. My gut reaction is to head home and keep the appointment but he’s having none of it. He wants his holiday. I’m currently wide awake worrying about all this. What if he rings on Monday and can’t get a quick appointment? Should I try and persuade him that we should head home. What would be reasonable. I’m so very worried about him.

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moggiek · 27/11/2024 20:40

motherofdragons2024 where is the national pancreatic hospital?

EricTheGardener · 27/11/2024 20:40

I'm so sorry, you must be reeling. Such a terrible shock. Wishing you strength for the days and weeks ahead.

SurelyNotAnother · 27/11/2024 20:40

Heartbreakanddamage · 27/11/2024 20:31

I said exactly this OP. I don’t understand some people’s thought processes. I actually don’t believe they even think sadly 😥

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I wish I could say what I really think but I don’t want to derail OP’s thread.

OP, if it helps, do pop back to this thread to share thoughts and worries if you wish. This place can be supportive too. No pressure obviously. Take care xx

LadyChilli · 27/11/2024 20:39

SophiaCohle · 27/11/2024 20:36

If this was an incidental finding, hopefully the prognosis will be better than some posters are suggesting. Wishing you and your DH well, OP. x

I was thinking this. I'm sure I've read that the reason the prognosis for PC is usually so bad is that it doesn't tend to show symptoms and then get discovered until quite late in
the game. Everything crossed for you OP.

SophiaCohle · 27/11/2024 20:36

If this was an incidental finding, hopefully the prognosis will be better than some posters are suggesting. Wishing you and your DH well, OP. x

LadyGabriella · 27/11/2024 20:31

Surely if they’re offering a whipples the prognosis is better. Good job you were on the appointment asap.

Heartbreakanddamage · 27/11/2024 20:31

SurelyNotAnother · 27/11/2024 20:12

Some of the posts on here blow my mind with their insensitivity.

Sending hugs to you OP and your partner. Remember there is always hope. Whatever it is, it’s been caught early as it was found incidentally and ‘it’ is probably quite small still.

Good luck for the days ahead x

I said exactly this OP. I don’t understand some people’s thought processes. I actually don’t believe they even think sadly 😥

BlondeFool · 27/11/2024 20:12

WalterdelaMare · 27/11/2024 20:04

Sorry, OP. A scary time for you.

But I know someone that had early PC and the whipple procedure and she’s very well 2 years on and her outlook is good.

I was going to say the same. My friend is fine and fitter than me!

Wishing you both all the best 💐

SurelyNotAnother · 27/11/2024 20:12

Some of the posts on here blow my mind with their insensitivity.

Sending hugs to you OP and your partner. Remember there is always hope. Whatever it is, it’s been caught early as it was found incidentally and ‘it’ is probably quite small still.

Good luck for the days ahead x

Motherofdragons2024 · 27/11/2024 20:09

Also are you in Scotland by any chance? Like I said up thread I work at the national Scottish pancreatic hospital and there’s only one man I would trust with my pancreas.

Jabtastic · 27/11/2024 20:07

I'm very sorry to hear this but glad he got home for the appointment!

Motherofdragons2024 · 27/11/2024 20:06

I’m so sorry OP what dreadful news for you and DH. Please don’t despair, people can and do survive this horrid disease. The fact they are talking about a whipple is good, most people with pancreatic cancer aren’t eligible for it. Wishing yous love.

Hazelmaybe · 27/11/2024 20:06

Sending love, I know two people who had pancreatic cancer and both are still here ten years later, after surgical treatment. Some people do survive and it’s good they are offering surgery as an option x

WalterdelaMare · 27/11/2024 20:04

Sorry, OP. A scary time for you.

But I know someone that had early PC and the whipple procedure and she’s very well 2 years on and her outlook is good.

AMAthistimeroud · 27/11/2024 20:03

I’m so sorry

Heartbreakanddamage · 27/11/2024 19:59

@Ebabllisstggoffor

Gosh I am so sorry to read this OP. I cannot imagine what you are both going through but sending much strength to you both x

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Ebabllisstggoffor · 27/11/2024 19:54

Not good news. They said the features of the tumour suggest it’s almost certainly cancer. He’s to have an endoscopy to take a sample but they gave us written information about the Whipple surgery. We’re in bits.

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Vgbeat · 27/11/2024 18:37

Hope it all went ok

Balloonhearts · 27/11/2024 18:30

How did it go? Hope you got some positive news.

MatildaTheCat · 27/11/2024 18:14

How did the appointment go, @Ebabllisstggoffor ? I hope it was as positive as possible.

Weenurse · 27/11/2024 10:46

Thinking of you both

pilates · 25/11/2024 13:06

Op thinking of you tomorrow but don’t feel obliged to update. This is personal and I’m sure people aren’t expecting you to.

monkfruitmartini · 25/11/2024 12:12

I'm so glad he's seeing sense. Good luck for tomorrow, OP.

WalterdelaMare · 25/11/2024 11:54

Hope it’s a benign cyst, OP

AMAthistimeroud · 25/11/2024 11:48

Heartbreakanddamage · 24/11/2024 03:23

That’s really harsh! Men are known for putting off medical appointments. If it’s serious enough for an urgent appointment I’d insist on going back.
sending love and hoping all ok.

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It’s not harsh, it’s direct and a different POV.