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DH pancreatic lesion with symptoms

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Ebabllisstggoffor · 24/11/2024 02:16

So we’re half way to our U.K. holiday break. This morning an appointment came through for my DH to see a consultant surgeon. This is an urgent appointment on the back of a recent MRI. It’s on Tuesday morning. He says he’s going to call them on Monday to rearrange it. My gut reaction is to head home and keep the appointment but he’s having none of it. He wants his holiday. I’m currently wide awake worrying about all this. What if he rings on Monday and can’t get a quick appointment? Should I try and persuade him that we should head home. What would be reasonable. I’m so very worried about him.

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BlondeFool · 29/11/2024 18:26

So many arseholes on this thread. It's actually unbelievable.

It's been caught early and he's been recommended for whipple surgery. Read the updates before posting doom and gloom.

SurelyNotAnother · 29/11/2024 12:13

YourAzureEagle · 27/11/2024 23:17

I'm afraid if its pancreatic cancer with symptoms showing, then in all likelihood that's it, end of the road in sight, outcomes are very poor.

I would enjoy the holiday, maybe contact the hospital and ask bluntly, what's the prognosis.

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What’s wrong with you? I can’t get my head round why someone would post comments like this here.

The OP’s husband has had a lesion caught early and has been identified as a good candidate for surgery which is a positive sign.

What are all these stories about death and poor prognosis trying to achieve?

I am truly astounded by people.

EachandEveryone · 29/11/2024 09:43

I don’t know if you are near London or if this link will work https://www.instagram.com/reel/DC81Nq9qdg2/?igsh=NHpmanoxbWtpOWcz if it doesn’t google the Royal Free as it looks like there are afew trials going on.

I wish you all the best x

Instagram

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RethinkingLife · 28/11/2024 05:29

I wish you and your DH well. If surgery is needed, I'll cross my fingers for a straightforward Whipple and a smooth and comfortable recovery afterwards.

Destiny123 · 28/11/2024 05:23

I'm sorry. If you want the anaesthetic explaining I'm happy to. If you have the op at Kings im happy to provide a hug/get snacks/ drinks/ anything. All our surgeons n anaesthetists are lovely (similar for Guildford /Royal surrey I worked there a few yrs ago xx

ChessorBuckaroo · 28/11/2024 03:02

All the best to your DH with the surgery OP. Hope all goes well.

livanlaterlaterlater · 28/11/2024 00:38

Hi OP .My BIL has experienced the same urgency about a growth on his pancreas, he was referred to King's College,allocated a Macmillan nurse , wipples procedure was explained and BIL even met up with a previous patient.
Long story short , after more investigation involving endoscopy, pet scan , etc he was given the all clear

Sending positive thoughts and hopefully a good outcome. X🙏

LushLemonTart · 28/11/2024 00:25

How awful I'm so sorry. Hoping for a good outcome.

MuchuseasaChocolateTeapot · 28/11/2024 00:22

What a horrible scary time for your family. I think I read once that a Whipples procedure is only offered to around 10% of people diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer and it’s a very effective although lengthy surgery.

Let’s hope the endoscopy shows it’s not cancerous first x

Jadebanditchillipepper · 27/11/2024 23:52

Just coming in to wish you both luck. Pancreatic cancer does have poor outcomes UNLESS it's operable. The fact that they're talking about a Whipple's procedure is really positive.

Anyway, wishing you both lots of luck

FlippityFloppityFlump · 27/11/2024 23:44

I'm sorry op, such awful news for you both.

vipersnest1 · 27/11/2024 23:31

Just to echo PPs, @Ebabllisstggoffor, the very fact that your DH has been offered a procedure means that there is everything to hope for.
My DDad died from pancreatic cancer, but his case was inoperable.
Don't lose hope. Flowers and a virtual hug for you.

mcmen05 · 27/11/2024 23:28

@Ebabllisstggoffor sorry to hear the bad news hopefully his treatment goes well
Hugs to you

Heartbreakanddamage · 27/11/2024 23:26

YourAzureEagle · 27/11/2024 23:17

I'm afraid if its pancreatic cancer with symptoms showing, then in all likelihood that's it, end of the road in sight, outcomes are very poor.

I would enjoy the holiday, maybe contact the hospital and ask bluntly, what's the prognosis.

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The OP has updated @YourAzureEagle

If caught early outcomes are very different and not all bad.

We are all thinking of you OP

Normallynumb · 27/11/2024 23:24

I am sorry OP
The fact you have been given information on the whipple procedure may be a hopeful sign that it is treatable at least, massive surgery though it is.

SweetSakura · 27/11/2024 23:20

Please read the updates people! You can select to just read the op's updates.

Op- sending best wishes to you and your DH, glad you made the appointment

YourAzureEagle · 27/11/2024 23:17

monkfruitmartini · 24/11/2024 07:47

Pancreatic cancer - if that is what it is - is notorious for poor outcomes if not caught in time. Even then...

Pancreatic cancer is not breast cancer. He is a fool to put this appointment off, or in heavy denial.

I'm afraid if its pancreatic cancer with symptoms showing, then in all likelihood that's it, end of the road in sight, outcomes are very poor.

I would enjoy the holiday, maybe contact the hospital and ask bluntly, what's the prognosis.

Sohereitissuddenly · 27/11/2024 23:09

I'm sorry to read your news. It's a lot to take in. I think if they're offering surgery then it is a good sign. Pc stats are bad because it's often picked up very late and the outcomes are worse the older you are. I lost my Dad to it.

If your DH is younger then hope this is also a positive sign. Sending love and strength. X

Vgbeat · 27/11/2024 23:03

I am sorry, wishing you both well and please feel free to chat if you need to xx

DianaRiggsCatsuit · 27/11/2024 23:00

@Ebabllisstggoffor
So sorry to hear this news. He was wise to change his mind and attend the appointment. I hope his treatment goes well.

anon202420252026 · 27/11/2024 22:21

So sorry to read your update op.

BoilingHotand50something · 27/11/2024 21:43

OP, so sorry to hear your update but it is good that surgery is an option.

I am shocked by some of the responses on here.

TankFlyBossW4lk · 27/11/2024 21:35

Please make him go home and get to the appointment. Please

pilates · 27/11/2024 21:19

Yes the fact it’s been found early is a good sign. I have a family member who was in exactly the same position. He had the operation and has been given the all clear.

monkfruitmartini · 27/11/2024 20:53

Oh, OP. That is a lot to get your head around. But the upside is he has a sensible and supportive spouse beside him, and he is eligible for surgery. My ex left it too late to have his symptoms investigated. I am so sorry for what you are going through, and wishing you hope and courage.