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DH pancreatic lesion with symptoms

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Ebabllisstggoffor · 24/11/2024 02:16

So we’re half way to our U.K. holiday break. This morning an appointment came through for my DH to see a consultant surgeon. This is an urgent appointment on the back of a recent MRI. It’s on Tuesday morning. He says he’s going to call them on Monday to rearrange it. My gut reaction is to head home and keep the appointment but he’s having none of it. He wants his holiday. I’m currently wide awake worrying about all this. What if he rings on Monday and can’t get a quick appointment? Should I try and persuade him that we should head home. What would be reasonable. I’m so very worried about him.

OP posts:
stayathomegardener · 27/01/2025 13:25

Sincerest condolences.

Sandsnake · 27/01/2025 13:00

Oh I am so, so sorry to hear that. The biggest of hugs to you. Pancreatic cancer is so bloody awful. Xx

noctilucentcloud · 27/01/2025 12:54

I'm so sorry OP.

cheezncrackers · 27/01/2025 12:40

I'm so sorry OP Flowers

DebbyU · 27/01/2025 12:39

So very sorry-look after yourself.

Maray1967 · 27/01/2025 12:36

So very sorry to read this. Sending much sympathy to you and the family.
💐

OhDeerohDeerie · 27/01/2025 12:34

Ebabllisstggoffor · 27/01/2025 12:07

He died after having the procedure.

Oh shit.

i was just coming to say letting him have his holiday is totally understandable . What else could you do ❤️

when I saw the date I thought I’d check for updates before posting. I’m so upset for you. He sounds like a big personality and he must be such a loss from your life.

you must be so angry and sad and lost.

all of the feelings.

big hugs, mumsnet is always here for a big cry ❤️

Msmoonpie · 27/01/2025 12:33

I’m so very sorry to hear that. I too lost someone to pancreatic cancer.

I hope you have people around you - feel free to post as much as you like if it gives you any solace.

Neolara · 27/01/2025 12:33

Very sorry to hear this.

Astrak · 27/01/2025 12:29

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Deep condolences.
I hope that you have a supportive team of friends and relatives around you.

Normallynumb · 27/01/2025 12:29

I'm so very sorry OP

KnewYearKnewMe · 27/01/2025 12:26

I'm so, so sorry to hear that, OP.

ohfourfoxache · 27/01/2025 12:20

I'm so, so sorry Flowers

TokyoSushi · 27/01/2025 12:17

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry.

BlondeFool · 27/01/2025 12:17

I'm so sorry. I was hoping for a good outcome. Sending love to you and your family 💐

Sohereitissuddenly · 27/01/2025 12:15

I am so dreadfully sorry. Life is fucking unfair. Flowers

moggiek · 27/01/2025 12:13

So very sorry to hear this. Thinking of you.

bookwormbeagle · 27/01/2025 12:11

I'm so sorry to read this 😔

Ebabllisstggoffor · 27/01/2025 12:07

He died after having the procedure.

OP posts:
EachandEveryone · 27/01/2025 11:46

How are things? I think about you often

Destiny123 · 30/11/2024 15:47

sharpclawedkitten · 30/11/2024 11:51

People have heard that pancreatic cancer has poor outcomes but I googled the Whipple procedure and can see that although it's not something I'd be exactly happy about having to have (big op with a three month recovery period), it is highly effective and once recovered you get your life back.

Yeah please don't go with Google searches. It's really not that simple

sharpclawedkitten · 30/11/2024 11:51

Heartbreakanddamage · 29/11/2024 19:17

@SurelyNotAnother

I totally agree! I tried to post something positive and someone shut me down telling me pancreatic cancer was different and basically that I was wrong to try to give hope. It’s almost as though people want the OP to feel as bad as humanly possible! It’s very weird !!

Edited

People have heard that pancreatic cancer has poor outcomes but I googled the Whipple procedure and can see that although it's not something I'd be exactly happy about having to have (big op with a three month recovery period), it is highly effective and once recovered you get your life back.

sharpclawedkitten · 30/11/2024 11:50

The op sounds quite involved but once it's done it's done and there's a very high chance indeed that he will be cancer-free. All the best.

Heartbreakanddamage · 29/11/2024 19:17

SurelyNotAnother · 29/11/2024 12:13

What’s wrong with you? I can’t get my head round why someone would post comments like this here.

The OP’s husband has had a lesion caught early and has been identified as a good candidate for surgery which is a positive sign.

What are all these stories about death and poor prognosis trying to achieve?

I am truly astounded by people.

@SurelyNotAnother

I totally agree! I tried to post something positive and someone shut me down telling me pancreatic cancer was different and basically that I was wrong to try to give hope. It’s almost as though people want the OP to feel as bad as humanly possible! It’s very weird !!

2024riot · 29/11/2024 19:10

@YourAzureEagle
You appear to be completely vile