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A&e, doctors or wait it out?

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autienotnoughty · 23/11/2024 19:53

Off and on back pain for past 15 years. More on in past two years. Symptoms include lower back pain, painful spasms , shooting pains in thighs. Being managed with physio, Pilates, walking and yoga.

Last six weeks pain has got significantly worse. I keep experiencing weakness in my legs, periods of not being able to stand/needing support to walk and get up.

Today my back has locked three times leaving me unable to walk, getting worse each time. I am now laid flat on my back, I can't sit up. Dh had to drag/walk me to the toilet. I can't walk. I can't turn over. I'm applying heat and cold.
I'm also feverish . I have shooting pains/tingling in my legs plus the back pain and spasms.

Do I go a&e?
Ring doctor Monday?
Ride it out?

OP posts:
MissMoneyFairy · 24/11/2024 17:52

PiggyPigalle · 24/11/2024 17:45

Same can be said for the NHS, but oh how people love to bash it.

By the way, A&E wouldn't help you say. Were the paramedics just happening to be passing by with Gas & Air then?

Probably ambulances parked by the entrance, I don't know if staff could leave the department to help everyone who arrived in a car.

OchAyeTheN00 · 24/11/2024 17:50

Oh bless you OP. Hope it’s clear and they can give you something to help.

KookyGreenHelper · 24/11/2024 17:48

KookyGreenHelper · 24/11/2024 17:45

I hope that is nothing series op. At least you are in the right place now. I am honestly not surprised that people procrastinate over going to a and e even if they get overwhelming advice to go. Last year i slipped in the shower. I could not put any weight on my right leg. The hospital asked why i did not go to the minor injuries unit even though it was shut. I was made to feel guilty for been there. I was made to feel like i should have just stayed on the bathroom floor all night and phoned an ambulance in the morning.

I meant to say it is nothing serious.

KookyGreenHelper · 24/11/2024 17:45

I hope that is nothing series op. At least you are in the right place now. I am honestly not surprised that people procrastinate over going to a and e even if they get overwhelming advice to go. Last year i slipped in the shower. I could not put any weight on my right leg. The hospital asked why i did not go to the minor injuries unit even though it was shut. I was made to feel guilty for been there. I was made to feel like i should have just stayed on the bathroom floor all night and phoned an ambulance in the morning.

PiggyPigalle · 24/11/2024 17:45

MyrtleStrumpet · 24/11/2024 15:36

Judging the OP won't change anything. Let's be supportive.

Same can be said for the NHS, but oh how people love to bash it.

By the way, A&E wouldn't help you say. Were the paramedics just happening to be passing by with Gas & Air then?

justasking111 · 24/11/2024 17:44

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Goatmumma · 24/11/2024 17:43

autienotnoughty · 24/11/2024 13:59

Sorry for not responding sooner. I stupidly ignored the advice and went to sleep.

Woke up with slightly more movement but still significant pain so dh going to drive me to hospital. Back spasmed/locked while getting ready literally screaming in pain . Managed to get on back seat back locked again. More screaming. Got there couldn't get out the car. A&e refused to help, two paramedics came and gave me gas and air and I managed to get out. Still had to queue for reception.

Got sent to urgent care waited about an hour on my knees. Giving a suppository to relax muscles. Didn't work back still spasming. Given oramorph hasn't changed the pain level just made me woozy. Given diazepam not helped.

Spent 2 hours being poked/bloods etc and waiting in waiting room. Saw ortho who has tested for cauda equina (skin prick) decided to do MRI. Been laid on my back 2 hours waiting for MRI. Still in significant pain but more bearable for lying still.

Despite caudia equina being a medical emergency they are in no rush.

So currently in significant pain, no answers and terrified that I'm still in so much pain despite having pretty strong meds

You can’t be that bad if you can keep posting on here.

justasking111 · 24/11/2024 17:40

Well the person that came in to remove the intravenous antibiotics because they said patient didn't need them any more was challenged the doctor was asked for to confirm. There was some huffing. The consultant came in and agreed with the original doctor that they needed to stay on the antibiotics after the MRI results of the brain. The huffer was a physicians assistant.

Mirabai · 24/11/2024 17:30

justasking111 · 24/11/2024 17:20

She said place bugs though.

You said Bugging them in A&E I assumed you meant pestering them. If you actually meant placing bugs then the story is highly unlikely. You can record medical consults for private use but they could not be used for legal action.

MissMoneyFairy · 24/11/2024 17:26

justasking111 · 24/11/2024 17:16

You can photograph medical notes. Bugging what for heavens sake.

Relatives do not just have access to medical notes, there is a process to go through, they are confidential and belong to the hospital and the patient. Maybe bugging here means asking questions, if it's phone being left on to record discussions without agreement then that is not allowed.

justasking111 · 24/11/2024 17:20

Mirabai · 24/11/2024 17:19

I think they meant bugging as in keeping on their case not literally putting bugs!

She said place bugs though.

Mirabai · 24/11/2024 17:19

MissMoneyFairy · 24/11/2024 17:05

Not forgetting it's also illegal. A genuine solicitor would you know you can't place bugs, or photograph confidential medical notes. What a bizarre way to behave.

I think they meant bugging as in keeping on their case not literally putting bugs!

Lalalalalalalalalalaoohoohwee · 24/11/2024 17:18

Glad you made it to the hospital OP, the journey sounds pretty traumatic! Appreciate you keeping us all updated and glad you're a bit more comfortable now

justasking111 · 24/11/2024 17:18

Todaywasbetter · 24/11/2024 16:52

What a shitty thing to do to overworked staff. you’re unbelievable and you think that’s a righteous act.

Patients do sue health boards you know. They need solicitors to act for them .

justasking111 · 24/11/2024 17:16

MissMoneyFairy · 24/11/2024 17:05

Not forgetting it's also illegal. A genuine solicitor would you know you can't place bugs, or photograph confidential medical notes. What a bizarre way to behave.

You can photograph medical notes. Bugging what for heavens sake.

MissMoneyFairy · 24/11/2024 17:05

Todaywasbetter · 24/11/2024 16:52

What a shitty thing to do to overworked staff. you’re unbelievable and you think that’s a righteous act.

Not forgetting it's also illegal. A genuine solicitor would you know you can't place bugs, or photograph confidential medical notes. What a bizarre way to behave.

Todaywasbetter · 24/11/2024 16:52

justasking111 · 24/11/2024 14:44

My SIL a solicitor dealing in commercial personal injuries. Advocated for her husband. Bugging them in A&E, photographing all the notes, when he was admitted noting everything that the nurses and consultants said. She was an absolute rottweiler.

I suggest @autienotnoughty husband does the same.

What a shitty thing to do to overworked staff. you’re unbelievable and you think that’s a righteous act.

autienotnoughty · 24/11/2024 16:40

Had MRI just waiting for results. Laid on a proper bed so feeling less discomfort

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IncessantNameChanger · 24/11/2024 16:29

XelaM · 24/11/2024 15:26

Why didn't you call an ambulance? Wouldn't that have avoided the car journey and also the wait at a&e?

I was told to call 999 if I loose sensation or use of my legs. But I have a MRI showing my spinal cord is mm from a bone protrusion. I guess the difference is that no one knows what's going on here fir sure.

YorkieIsDefinitelyForGirls · 24/11/2024 16:26

LBFseBrom · 24/11/2024 16:22

We don't yet know the diagnosis, it may not be as serious as we think. I hope not. It is very difficult to decide whether or not to go to A&E, I'm sure we would all procrastinate about that unless we were run over by a bus or similar.

Despite clear medical advice?

LBFseBrom · 24/11/2024 16:22

We don't yet know the diagnosis, it may not be as serious as we think. I hope not. It is very difficult to decide whether or not to go to A&E, I'm sure we would all procrastinate about that unless we were run over by a bus or similar.

YorkieIsDefinitelyForGirls · 24/11/2024 16:03

PigInADuvet · 24/11/2024 15:02

Despite caudia equina being a medical emergency they are in no rush

Neither were you to be fair, despite other posters warning you about the potential urgency.

I hope it isn't, I hope you make a full recovery with no lasting effects. But if you don't, I don't think you can blame the NHS for this one.

Agree, despite starting a thread to ask wbag to do; overwhelming advice from not only medical services but everyone on here too, she inexplicably ignored it all...but now complains they're 'in no hurry'. Fucking ridiculous.

MyrtleStrumpet · 24/11/2024 15:42

XelaM · 24/11/2024 15:40

OP can't complain about the NHS then. For once it's actually not the NHS' fault.

Hmm, still judgy. Does it make you feel better? Leave her alone while she's in pain.

XelaM · 24/11/2024 15:40

MyrtleStrumpet · 24/11/2024 15:36

Judging the OP won't change anything. Let's be supportive.

OP can't complain about the NHS then. For once it's actually not the NHS' fault.

MyrtleStrumpet · 24/11/2024 15:36

Judging the OP won't change anything. Let's be supportive.

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