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A&e, doctors or wait it out?

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autienotnoughty · 23/11/2024 19:53

Off and on back pain for past 15 years. More on in past two years. Symptoms include lower back pain, painful spasms , shooting pains in thighs. Being managed with physio, Pilates, walking and yoga.

Last six weeks pain has got significantly worse. I keep experiencing weakness in my legs, periods of not being able to stand/needing support to walk and get up.

Today my back has locked three times leaving me unable to walk, getting worse each time. I am now laid flat on my back, I can't sit up. Dh had to drag/walk me to the toilet. I can't walk. I can't turn over. I'm applying heat and cold.
I'm also feverish . I have shooting pains/tingling in my legs plus the back pain and spasms.

Do I go a&e?
Ring doctor Monday?
Ride it out?

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Notmanyleftnow · 24/11/2024 20:34

I had same. Only thing that helped me was combination of diazepam and gabapentin.
I know what hell the pain is, and really hope you feel relief soon.

Stirrednshaken · 24/11/2024 20:33

Herewegoagain84 · 24/11/2024 20:22

This was exactly the same as me. Considering my symptoms (I couldn’t stand / pain like I was going to pass out / unable to get in and out of car and needed my legs lifted to even move them sideways), I honestly thought they’d find something way worse. How is a bulging disc so bad?!! In time it has improved (steroid injections directly into my back too), but I can do one movement or sneeze, and feel that same instability like I may have another “episode” where I can’t use my legs. It’s so scary so I totally empathise. Hoping you get sorted soon.

Because we are used to the terminology, but if someone asked how much pain you'd expect if someone poked a major nerve directly with a pin you'd say a lot. It's a bit deal and don't let anyone tell you it's not x

fetchacloth · 24/11/2024 20:29

Your in the right place OP hopefully you'll start to feel better soon 🌺.

Herewegoagain84 · 24/11/2024 20:22

autienotnoughty · 24/11/2024 18:32

Bulging disc. Keeping me in overnight as pain not subsiding .

This was exactly the same as me. Considering my symptoms (I couldn’t stand / pain like I was going to pass out / unable to get in and out of car and needed my legs lifted to even move them sideways), I honestly thought they’d find something way worse. How is a bulging disc so bad?!! In time it has improved (steroid injections directly into my back too), but I can do one movement or sneeze, and feel that same instability like I may have another “episode” where I can’t use my legs. It’s so scary so I totally empathise. Hoping you get sorted soon.

Goatmumma · 24/11/2024 20:09

Stirrednshaken · 24/11/2024 18:06

Oh FFS. You do realise people can be in critical care and still be able to use a phone? Glad you're clearly not a doctor 🙄

If someone was in that much pain the last thing they’d want to do was update mumsnet.

Normallynumb · 24/11/2024 20:08

Please don't be afraid to ask a passing nurse if pain relief is late
It's important to keep on top of it before your muscles spasm around the discs

DemelzaandRoss · 24/11/2024 19:47

So pleased you have been kept in & will now be monitored for pain control.
Get better soon.

Middlemarch123 · 24/11/2024 19:43

I hope you get the pain relief you need soon OP. Not the same, but the pain you’re experiencing reminds me of when I was admitted to hospital for a kidney stone. Excruciating, was passing out from it in A and E, waiting to be seen. anyway, there was a delay getting me scanned, so by the time I had the scan, I’d passed the stone, thankfully on morphine by then. I had bruising and bleeding from passing it, and found that lying on a heated wheat bag helped me after I went home. They sent me home with codeine too. Take care.

autienotnoughty · 24/11/2024 19:13

Thank you everyone the only thing I can do is read my phone. I appreciate the support and advice

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autienotnoughty · 24/11/2024 19:11

PleaseStopEatingMyStuff · 24/11/2024 18:52

Ahh OP, my friend had exactly this. She was in agony.
Anyway she was sent home with super strength painkillers which did eventually work but took a few days to kick in (gabapentin? Highly recommended as they did work well eventually).
Recovery was slow but steady and probably took about 2 months for her to walk normally again without the need for any pain relief.
She also had a physio referral which helped lots as they were able to advise how to strengthen certain back muscles to hopefully avoid this happening again.
Anyway, I just wanted to give you hope that you will recover & the pain will go. Its terrible for you to have to go through and you have all my sympathy.
Get well soon.

Thank you I'm shaking from the pain which is making it worse. Hopefully there's something stronger on the ward

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StandingSideBySide · 24/11/2024 18:54

Hope the pain subsides soon and you get some rest. You must be exhausted !

PleaseStopEatingMyStuff · 24/11/2024 18:52

Ahh OP, my friend had exactly this. She was in agony.
Anyway she was sent home with super strength painkillers which did eventually work but took a few days to kick in (gabapentin? Highly recommended as they did work well eventually).
Recovery was slow but steady and probably took about 2 months for her to walk normally again without the need for any pain relief.
She also had a physio referral which helped lots as they were able to advise how to strengthen certain back muscles to hopefully avoid this happening again.
Anyway, I just wanted to give you hope that you will recover & the pain will go. Its terrible for you to have to go through and you have all my sympathy.
Get well soon.

Normallynumb · 24/11/2024 18:47

Posted too soon
My DS1 has 2 herniated discs and has similar pain radiating through his groin and left leg
A bad flare usually settles in around a week, but he can't sit either.
He's on gabapentin and Amitryptiline, so I do hope yours will settle.

StormingNorman · 24/11/2024 18:43

Glad they’ve found out what’s causing it. Hope you get the pain under control soon.

Normallynumb · 24/11/2024 18:42

I hope they manage to keep on top of your pain and you are more comfortable soon

Differentstarts · 24/11/2024 18:40

autienotnoughty · 24/11/2024 18:32

Bulging disc. Keeping me in overnight as pain not subsiding .

At least you know now and they can hopefully give you some decent pain meds and you will feel a bit better tomorrow. Oramorph has never worked for me for pain.

autienotnoughty · 24/11/2024 18:32

Bulging disc. Keeping me in overnight as pain not subsiding .

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TheBerry · 24/11/2024 18:30

hope you get good results OP

MyrtleStrumpet · 24/11/2024 18:10

Stirrednshaken · 24/11/2024 18:06

Oh FFS. You do realise people can be in critical care and still be able to use a phone? Glad you're clearly not a doctor 🙄

Exactly. I remember seeing a post from a dear friend on FB, saying he's had a heart attack and was in hospital. He was posting for a couple of days and then his brother posted to say he'd had a series of heart attacks in hospital, even while posting and he died.

You would be amazed at what people can manage.

Stirrednshaken · 24/11/2024 18:06

Goatmumma · 24/11/2024 17:43

You can’t be that bad if you can keep posting on here.

Oh FFS. You do realise people can be in critical care and still be able to use a phone? Glad you're clearly not a doctor 🙄

DemelzaandRoss · 24/11/2024 18:02

I don’t think anyone is actively criticising NHS staff, just the overall service, which is not the same as other countries or even different parts of the country.
As a person of advanced years (old) it’s easy to compare what treatment was given only a few years ago, with today.
OP is being criticised for not calling an ambulance.
Well I wouldn’t have either. When I fell badly last year on the High St, I had hit my head on the pavement, was bleeding profusely from the nose & had clearly done something bad to my left arm & shoulder.
I was freezing cold as it was an icy day & in a bad state. A passer by called an ambulance but they refused to attend. The Police arrived & saw an oldish woman bleeding, in agony & shaking with cold. They too rang for an ambulance which was refused.
Luckily the Police took charge, wrapped me in tin foil & took me to hospital where I was treated for various cuts, bruises & fractures.
I certainly wish OP very well & posters being unkind should hope they don’t find themselves in a medical situation such as hers.

Frozensnow · 24/11/2024 18:02

Hope you get some answers soon op

LittleMissLateForWorkAgain · 24/11/2024 17:57

Not rtft but came on to say cauda equina. Happened to me 19 years ago. Lost control of bladder which made it an a and e job.
Massive op for displaced discs, had to learn to walk again and nearly died age 37.
It's a serious thing. I was off work for 2 years on disability benefits

Mumistiredzzzz · 24/11/2024 17:54

Todaywasbetter · 24/11/2024 16:52

What a shitty thing to do to overworked staff. you’re unbelievable and you think that’s a righteous act.

Your comment makes me wonder if you've ever experienced the incompetence of some staff within the NHS or been chronically let down by then? Guessing not. Absolutely nothing wrong with being insistent on clear process and answers and recording those answers.

Stephy1886 · 24/11/2024 17:53

Unfortunately A&E will only do something if you lose control of your bowels. Just give you pain meds

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