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To kick up a huge fuss about this?

33 replies

mainsteeem · 23/11/2024 14:06

For the last 3.5 years I have been working from home almost exclusively, except when there’s been an event in the office or a particular important meeting. In the last year I’ve been in 3 times.

Last week my new manager announced that he wants me in the office once a week. Everyone has flexibility but most want to go in one day a week so it was just me who was utilising working from home more. I have good reason, I am a lone parent with no support and to travel into the office now costs around 45 quid a time due to increase in rail fares and I have to be there to collect dd from nursery.

There is no reason for me to be in the office. I am fully able to do work remotely. There has been no specific reason given for this change other than a ‘general move to more office based.’ I feel like I am being made to struggle as a lone parent. I cannot keep my job if I have to do this journey and travel a 4.5 hour round trip once a week, I am already clinging on to coping as it is.

Surely this isn’t right to change the goalposts? I know you usually look to your contract but 3.5 years of working practice in this way must count for something?

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IamnotnutsIamacondiment · 23/11/2024 14:35

Are you collecting and then looking after you child on work time or do you finish work before they finish nursery?

Berga · 23/11/2024 14:19

Could you try putting in a remote working flexible working request? Even if they turned it down they would have to go through the whole process and justify why they have turned it down, rather than a just because.

Singleandproud · 23/11/2024 14:18

I wouldn't kick up a fuss, I'd explain calmly and concisely why I needed to continue to WFH and demonstrate how it makes no difference to the company in the first instance. If you haven't had a 1:1 about how this specifically impacts you then going in all guns blazing is not a good options.

Then I'd be possibly looking for a job closer to home, living 4.5hr round trip from work is daft or use a childminder / private nursery that does school drop offs and pick ups.

user50and · 23/11/2024 14:16

What did you do 3.5 years ago? Did you have to go in then at all?

dudsville · 23/11/2024 14:16

Don't do a huge fuss, do a calmly explained position in line with whatever your JD and company policy allows.

StormingNorman · 23/11/2024 14:14

Ask them to give you some time to set up new childcare arrangements and see if they can help with the commute costs.

It isn’t unreasonable for them to want people in the office more. Lots of businesses are going this way because they are seeing a drop in productivity and an erosion to teamwork and “corporate knowledge”.

A colleague of mine works from home all the time and she is so out of the loop. So much information is shared in general office conversation and she misses it all.

Motheranddaughter · 23/11/2024 14:10

It will count for something but if your employer is determined enough then they probably will eventually be able to enforce this
Rather than going in guns blazing ,try and explain it as you have here
Lots of places are calling staff back into the office

Sirzy · 23/11/2024 14:09

What does your contact say?

i don’t think it one day a week in the office is an unreasonable ask unless you where told it would be fully remote.