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To worry that he cant *come*?

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5599katherine · 23/11/2024 12:59

I have been seeing someone for a while and often during sex he does not finish.
Sometimes, he loses the mood halfway through and its quite dissapointing.
He smokes, smokes weed and is quite unhealthy. I noticed when he takes a break from the weed especially, he can come.
I am in my 30s and want a family...I have tried to talk about it with him but he refuses to acknowledge it. Sometimes he says he has come, but he is lying!

OP posts:
Pinkissmart · 23/11/2024 13:42

MatildaTheCat · 23/11/2024 13:14

Is he your dream father of your future babies? An unhealthy, untruthful stoner?

Use it as a guide for looking a bit higher up the food chain next time.

This

mitogoshigg · 23/11/2024 13:41

If he was mid 50's and didn't smoke i would say it is normal later in life but he isn't, it's the weed - ditch him

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 23/11/2024 13:40

Why do you want to spend your life with someone who'd rather smoke weed than orgasm?

Wishimaywishimight · 23/11/2024 13:31

Seriously, why would you want a child with a smoker / weed smoker? How do you envisage life with him as your partner and father of your child?

Move on and seek a better specimen

MatildaTheCat · 23/11/2024 13:14

Is he your dream father of your future babies? An unhealthy, untruthful stoner?

Use it as a guide for looking a bit higher up the food chain next time.

PassingStranger · 23/11/2024 13:08

Why do you want to be with someone who smokes, and smokes weed is more the point?

TheLurpackYears · 23/11/2024 13:06

I think it's probably a good think he doesn't, he isn't father material. Believe me, if you can avoid having kids with a stoner then do.

Pleasegetchristmasoverwith · 23/11/2024 13:06

Smoking weed has a much more devastating effect on the lungs than cigarettes. No wonder he is unhealthy and has no stamina.
If he doesn't see the smoking and drugs as a problem then he is not going to change. You would be better off out of this relationship OP.

Finnulafishface · 23/11/2024 13:04

Shove this in the relationship or sex topic - I don’t want to have to imagine your dead beat boyfriend not being able to finish off!

LittleRedRidingHoody · 23/11/2024 13:01

5599katherine · 23/11/2024 12:59

I have been seeing someone for a while and often during sex he does not finish.
Sometimes, he loses the mood halfway through and its quite dissapointing.
He smokes, smokes weed and is quite unhealthy. I noticed when he takes a break from the weed especially, he can come.
I am in my 30s and want a family...I have tried to talk about it with him but he refuses to acknowledge it. Sometimes he says he has come, but he is lying!

The lying and smoking would be red flags for me. Throw this one back OP.

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