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Husband wanting sympathy when I am ill

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WifeOfMacbeth · 23/11/2024 12:50

We have been taking turns with a nasty cold virus.

He had it first, for a few days. and as it made him tired. I took over all chores, shopping, cooking etc. Then as he began to recover I went down with it.

I seem to be having it worse. It has been going on for a week. I have bad chest pain and am coughing incessantly. Sleeping has been hard because of all the pain and coughing so I am tired. Then yesterday some dental bridgework fell out, which was upsetting as now I have a gap in my teeth. I am also having to cancel a lot of stuff because I can only manage an hour or so at a time out of bed

My husband has cooked, though he has commented several times about having to do this 'again' and how he can't think what to make etc.Today he also went to the shops because we were out of basics, and put wet washing in the dryer.

He does sometimes go a bit weak if he hasn't eaten enough and this morning was one of those times. I had retreated to bed and he came in, propped himself against the chest of drawers and began moaning about all the things he'd had to do and how he was going to faint.

I told him I didn't want to know when I was so ill. He was an adult and should be capable of feeding himself rather than making a fuss.

He has now gone off in a huff. Right now Ihonestly feel as if it might be easier to crawl round and manage by myself

Though as this AIBU perhaps someone will suggest I should get up, cook a three course lunch and tell him ho marvellous he is.

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Sunnings · 23/11/2024 13:06

How unattractive.
Tell him to cop the fxxk on.

Clearly you do far too much that doing very basic tasks are such a big deal for him.

Let this be a lesson for you.
Stop doing too much.
Stay in bed.

WifeOfMacbeth · 23/11/2024 13:01

Children are grown up and away. He is pretty much recovered, though still coughing occasionally while I am very much in the middle of it. Yes I can suggest ready meals and takeaways. Though he is a perfectly competent cook.

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TomatoSandwiches · 23/11/2024 13:00

Jesus christ how unattractive, did you remind him of how you got on with it when he was ill?

Can't stand people like this.

3luckystars · 23/11/2024 12:52

Have you got children? If not the you can both be ill and go to bed. Order in food and neither of you do anything until next week.