Next weekend will be the anniversary of the loss of our first baby. Unfortunately the day is also my MILs birthday, a big birthday this year. I have always hated this being the same day and I know it can’t be easy for MIL, who I generally have a good relationship with.
I the last 4 years I have just put a little post on social media to mark DD on this day. Nothing gushy or horrid, usually just a little foot picture and name with a heart in the caption. I’m not a massive SM user but on that day it makes me feel like she’s not being forgotten about.
MIL has asked me not to post it this year and could I wait until the next day. She uses SM a lot more than me. She doesn’t want to be bummed out on her big birthday and we are going to be having a celebration on that day.
I do get it, but it hurts my heart a little bit that we will be having a nice time without acknowledging DD. We are at the ILs for the weekend. Part of me knows that none of it really matters and the most important thing is that we are thinking of her, and we do everyday so why use one day to mark it more? But I’m struggling with how I feel about it. Part of me hates that I even care about sharing it 🤣
I was thinking of just doing it anyway but would that BU?
(yes I have spoken to DH about it. He doesn’t really get it from either perspective.. or he’s just saying that to keep out of it)