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AIBU in thinking GP’s are not entitled to see their grandchildren?

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sushiandarollie · 22/11/2024 17:55

I have a very narcissistic FIL, our relationship has completely broken down due to his behaviour (see previous post of mine) but in essence he phoned up my husband a couple of months ago being critical of everything we have said /done wrong, nit picking from conversations, that he hated me and all stemming from ‘my influence’. He’s come around to apologise- all very rehearsed and more of ‘I didn’t think anything I said offended you but IF it did , I apologise’. He’s understanding that the relationship is irreparably damaged but is adamant with quite some entitlement that it shouldn’t stop him seeing his grandchild (our DS who is 3). How do I fix this?

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Crazycatlady79 · 22/11/2024 18:00

What does your husband think/feel about his Dad continuing to see his child, as the decision isn't yours alone?

CriticalOverthinking · 22/11/2024 17:59

What does your dh say?

There is no legal 'right' but do you want him to have a relationship with your dc, or does your dh? Of your dh wants a relationship
with his dad and wants his dc to as well then that's reasonable. But it's also reasonable you don't want any contact.

It would be fine to allow your dh and dc to see FIL without you and stay no contact with him yourself.

sushiandarollie · 22/11/2024 17:58

jeaux90 · 22/11/2024 17:56

What is it you want to do though? Move on or keep low/no contact?

I feel a line it’s been crossed by him, and I’ve frankly had enough of his behaviour so I want to cut contact

OP posts:
jeaux90 · 22/11/2024 17:56

What is it you want to do though? Move on or keep low/no contact?

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