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Not dating 25 year olds liivng at home?

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itstheocto · 22/11/2024 17:31

I am nearly 25, would I be unreasonable to refuse to date men still living at home around my age?I have lived by myself since I was 18, surely most men by their mid 20's live elsewhere?

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sparkellie · 22/11/2024 17:35

You wouldn't be unreasonable, it is completely up to you how you filter the people you consider dating. If living away from their parents is important to you that's fine. I do think it would limit your choices though. Many people go back home after uni now to try and save. I think focusing on their level of independence would possibly be more useful to you than a blanket ban on those who live at home.

ThatLivelyDeer · 22/11/2024 17:35

Stop coming here for validation. Women here are not going to agree when many of them are twice your age and have sons the same age as you living with them.

YANBU but you need to be more confident and secure in your decision.

duckduckgooseduckagain · 22/11/2024 17:35

All of my sons still lived at home when they were 25. All left by their early 30s and are all normal, nice men who have their own families now. You could be missing out on a nice man if you follow this rule but if it's something that gives you the ick then follow your feelings

Wherethewildthingsfart · 22/11/2024 17:34

Did you have any financial support to leave home?

Ggmores · 22/11/2024 17:34

Everyone has their likes and dislikes. If you don’t want a man who lives at home, then fair enough. Some don’t like skinny, fat, certain professions, facial hair, tall, short, etc. You don’t have to justify it, but you also don’t have to make it a big deal.

wizzywig · 22/11/2024 17:33

Any reason is a valid one. Always protect yourself financially

vodkaredbullgirl · 22/11/2024 17:32

Good luck is all I can say lol