Not dating 25 year olds liivng at home?

You’re entitled to any boundary that you want, regardless of what others think. This is your life.

YANBU.
I guess it doesn't give the best feeling.

My son is 23, he still lives at home and enjoys being here. I think he is getting itchy feet though but financially it’s better to be here whilst he finishes his apprenticeship as the money is pretty rubbish until then. He hasn’t had a girlfriend for a while, he’s dated but we live in the town he grew up in, pretty much all his friends still live at home.

I don’t know what the big deal is, he’s able to pay his way, save and will even more when his apprenticeship is done, he’s gone back a year as he moved to a mod position doing something more specific in his field so will be longer for him to finish now. I think staying at home if you can to save and not spend all your money on rent etc isn’t a bad thing. He’s not going to be here forever (younger son coveting his room) but he’s a nice lad, helps me out and looked after our dog and cats whilst I was away, if the only reason you wouldn’t date him is be used he lives at home that’s your loss I guess.

Yeah. Good luck with that.
Personally I think any guy would be lucky to have escaped you seeing as you appear to be very snobby and judgemental.

Probably never know, as OP won't be back.

Pick whatever works for you.
However, I don't see any response to the question of how you managed to be a financially independent home owner at 18.

It's up to you of course. And to be honest it sounds more reasonable to me than women who say things like they wouldn't date a man who wasn't at least 6ft. But it does seem fairly common these days that people stay living at home to save for a house deposit etc. So for me I think it would depend on the circumstances.

Actually, thinking again, I couldn't see my wanting to hang round someone's mum's house on a date! Weird! And I guess high potential for them to be looking for someone to take care of them like their mum. Or to be wanting to slowly edge their way into your place....

Yeah - sack 'em off!

YANBU imo. Obviously it will vary from case to case though - someone stopping at home for a couple of months between jobs or rentals and paying their way is a very different kettle of fish to someone who has never lived independently and is still looked after by their mummy or daddy.

There are some other questions you can ask, like "So what do you like to cook when you cook for your parents?" and "How do you guys split the bills? Do you do it like a house share?" Or even "It must be nice having all your laundry and cleaning done and dinner on the table" should weed out the useless ones.

I agree with you op and I have a DSS of 27 living with us.

ANOTHER pop at people in their 20s still living at home.

See you in about 10 years @itstheocto when you're posting on here aged 35, saying 'why am I still single?' 😢

Both my Sons are still at home, 28 and 32, younger one is finally moving out, only because he’s buying with his gf. Older one has savings, but not enough to move out on his own.

You can have any standards you want when you're dating

I agree actually.

I suspect many of those men living on their own at 25 are actually not in good financial situations because of extortionate rents and likely to have poor family support plus it's unlikely they would be in anything more than a flat share or HMO.

So sure be picky and ignore them all but personally I'd be wary about discounting all those men maturely saving whilst living with supportive families.

So, what if you met someone and sparks flew, you had a great conversation, and tons in common and then found out about their living situation? Would you refuse to see them again even though it might be great?

I think it's a green flag; I'd much rather a 25 living at home and saving money and could buy a house in a few years than one who is renting and is therefore unable to save. It's more stability in the long run

@itstheocto have you noticed there's been a housing & cost of living crisis for the last few years & it's likely to continue for the foreseeable future?

As its been said on lots of threads lately, it makes sense to stay in the family home to share costs & try to save money. Your choice, but you need a reality check 🙄

How did you manage to leave home at 18 and support yourself financially in your own home? Did you do it all by yourself?

You can choose not to date someone for whatever reason in the same way someone may pass over you for another reason.
Most people cannot afford to live by themselves from 18 these days.

I mean, you can refuse to date someone for whatever reason you want.

But I know very few people in their early twenties who are fully independent, so you may be restricting yourself for no reason.

Good for you, stick to your standards, at your age I refused to date men who couldn't drive and men who were unemployed.

Sort of get it but these days it's flippin' hard to get on and started on the property ladder.

You can not date anyone for any reason you wish- if you don't fancy someone you don't fancy someone, and clearly financial security (or lack of) is a deciding factor in attraction for you.

Depends.
If they are living at home, paying minimal rent and pissing the rest of their money away, then YANBU

however if they are paying their way at home and are saving proper money for a house deposit then YABU.

But do whatever you want. It is you who might be missing out on someone amazing because they dont fit into your box.

Depends on why they are still living at home.

DH and I both lived with our respective parents until our late 20's, we travelled the world together, had a lot of fantastic trips and experiences and saved for a house deposit and wedding whilst developing our careers. Moved out of our parents and straight into our own house at 28, married at 29.

If we'd moved out and rented, I doubt we could have done any of this, sometimes it's just financially prudent.

Your choice. I felt the same.