Not dating 25 year olds liivng at home?

In my area, the average age for moving out into your first property is 34. So a lot of people of that age who want to get on their property ladder are still living at home.

In this economy?

You don't need to ask the internet for validation on who you choose to date, it's entirely up to you but you're living a very different live to me if you don't know that huge numbers of people in their 20s life with their parents

It depends on the man. You could get a lovely hard working 25 year old living at home to save hard or help his parents. Or an immature one who can't live independently and wastes his money.

Well of course you don’t have to date them if you don’t want to but I think it’s very shortsighted. There are lots of people living at home because of the expense of renting or buying. My son is twenty two and could quite easily be still living at home at twenty five rather than paying rent (which stops you from buying nowadays). Luckily his very lovely gf doesn’t have a problem with it.

It's up to you of course, but it seems a bit illogical to me. I know lots of perfectly decent young men and women who live with their parents in their 20s. My DS is at University currently but hoping to get a job in our area when he graduates. If he does, I anticipate he will live with us at least for a few years. We have plenty of space and it will allow him to save a decent deposit for when he does get a place of his own. Plus we'll get a contribution towards the costs of running our house. Obviously if he didn't want to move back in I wouldn't force him but from an economic perspective it would be fairly daft for him to be paying a small fortune to a private landlord whilst a few miles away we have 3 empty bedrooms.
I see financial prudence as a positive trait personally. My DD and her fiancé lived with his Dad until fairly recently which helped them to be able to buy their own home rather than struggling to save for a deposit whilst paying high rent, bills, student loans etc. They're not what you'd call well off but they are in a much more stable situation than many others their age,

Another classic Mumsnet thread. If it’s not anti NHS, it’s belittling people who live at home. It’s 2024. Hell yes most 20 somethings will still live at home. At 25 assuming you’ve been uni, you will be a couple of years into your career and not likely to be a baller of any description. So your options are pay an extortionate rent alone (very unlikely on a single wage), house share (also expensive) or home and save.

The only people I knew that lived in their own properties at 25 were coupled up and had help from their parents. Usually after renting for a period together.

Well if they live in London that's pretty harsh. Rent would be about £1200/month in a shared house. Plus bills. And food. So say £1600/month minimum. So this 25 year old needs to be earning about £25k. But what if they are trying to save to buy? Or help out their family with expenses? Or just don't want to scrimp every month?
I'd say it's quite normal for a 25 to still be at home. If they are working and contributing to the running of the house (not just financially) I wouldn't cross them off the list.
If they are taking advantage and acting like they are still a kid with all meals and laundry done for them and no plans to move out then that's a red flag.

25 year olds living with their parents might not want to date women in their early 20s who are living in flat shares with no savings, of course.

(I appreciate I don't know your circumstances, so I'm guessing, but it's likely that a lot of your wage would have gone on making ends meet if you've lived independently since 18).

It depends. I lived independently since I was a teenager but met my husband when he was 25 and at home. But he'd been away and come back so not liked he'd never left.
These days especially it's very normal, even on the last decade or so it's become more the norm. Most of these men will save for a mortgage and move on to become independent, successful men, with careers and families.

You can decide a dealbreaker for yourself. Some won't date blonds, some won't date dog owners. You can draw the line at someone luvign with their parents. I personally feel the same.

It doesn't make you big and clever op. Maybe a 25yo has parents who are supportive enough that their son is saving to buy a home.

That article says:

About 30% of 25- to 29-year-olds now live with their parents, and more than one in 10 (11.6%) adult children aged 30 to 34 – up from 8.6% in 2011.

So 70% of 25-29 year olds don't live with their parents and it's not a big deal to only date within that pool

You're cutting out a huge number of eligible nice men if you do that.
My son moved out at that age to be with is girlfriend who was also living at home at the time, so they could get a place together.

It's not that I think you're unreasonable but I look at it in the opposite way to you.

I see someone who is thinking about the longer term by living at home for longer and saving for a future mortgage as far more attractive than the alternative.

Living at home saving to buy a house (plus being capable of washing, cooking and cleaning) vs using all money to pay rent and having no savings. I know which one I would rather date! If you’ve got your own place you don’t need him to have one too, as long as he takes you out etc and doesn’t become a cocklodger.

Bit harsh, especially in this climate.

That's a ridiculous question my son is 25 still at home can't see him moving out any time soon due to not being able to afford it.

In 30 years time you'll be back on Mumsnet complaining there were no good men around. Quite a few of the men you are passing over will probably be married and busy being good husbands and good fathers.

Your choice. Which even if not others should be respected.

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You can refuse to date whoever you want to.

I moved out very early.
But I wouldn’t expect others to do the same.

If someone has a nice family home and it’s cheaper than renting alone, then you could say they’re being smart by living with a family member.

I’m sure there will be men who won’t date you because you don’t drive, don’t own your own home, have a child, don’t have a good enough job etc.

Anyone can choose who they do and don’t date.

Oh yeah, to clarify, I don't think it's typical to live alone at 18. For me this was in 2008ish, but I have done the odd month stint at my parent's in between things.

For me, what would matter in a date is a plan. Someone happy at home just drifting along wouldn't be attractive, someone living at home with a clear sense of what they want their future independence to look like would be fine.

Apologies it's the census
amp.theguardian.com/society/2023/may/10/number-adults-living-parents-england-wales-up-700000-decade

You can date whoever you like. I'm not aware of any organisation that will force you to date a man who still lives with his mum, but I've been married for 25 years and i may be out of touch.